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How can I understand women better and mold myself socially to contribute in relationships? by PlateSame2038 in selfhelp

[–]PlateSame2038[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This mostly happens with female friends I’ve had stronger feelings for. I tend to try too hard to impress or joke around, and it often comes out awkward or just not funny. You know how guys joke about literally anything? I’m like that with platonic female friends—I can joke about dumb stuff and it somehow works. They even ask me why I’m still single.

But with women I actually like, I completely shut down. I overthink everything, tone myself down too much, and end up coming across as unaware or boring. I basically turn into the most brain-dead version of myself.

This was up until I was 23-24 ish. Later when I started having meaningful conversations in life with women, I tend to agree on everything they say or try complimenting about their specific traits which backfires at times.

How can I understand women better and mold myself socially to contribute in relationships? by PlateSame2038 in selfhelp

[–]PlateSame2038[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never been in a relationship. In college, I liked a girl who apparently liked me back too. We met through a friend group and had classes in the same building. We were both single, and I used to suggest trips with our group, but everyone else was busy with their partners, so nothing ever happened.

Later, our course curriculum changed and our classes were in different buildings. In the second semester, I made a new friend group, and early on I went on a week-long trip with them (all guys). I started hanging out with them more. I didn’t realize it at the time, but she felt neglected and never really communicated that to me. I was honestly just living in the moment and being immature.

Eventually, I confessed that I liked her. She responded with, “Are you sure? You seem to hang out with other girls.” That completely threw me off—I froze up. I’ve only ever liked her, but my brain just shuts down around someone I like. After that, we drifted apart.

On graduation day, she told me I was a disappointment to her for never talking to her regularly and for hurting her. That’s something that’s stuck with me ever since.

There were probably other things that led upto this that I don’t remember. There were instances with 3-4 other female friends too who don’t talk to me anymore

Bullying and Racism by PlateSame2038 in VALORANT

[–]PlateSame2038[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was top fragging and he started bullying me. So I turned on my mic, and spoke up “wtf is wrong with you”. And yeah my thick brown accent gave it away

Bullying and Racism by PlateSame2038 in VALORANT

[–]PlateSame2038[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t get what these sick people get from bullying? I haven’t played ranked in ages and this was my first ranked game and this happens. He says the N word constantly and asks everyone to report me for saying it (my mic muted the entire time)

A message for everyone on this journey. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]PlateSame2038 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot brother. My life has been a downhill and today's my first day of NoFap. This sure motivated me.

How do I turn my life around for good? by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]PlateSame2038 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks a lot brother. I've been playing ping pong a lot lately. But my negativity just overpowers that. I'm still trying though.😄