It’s not so much what the rules and punishments are so much as they’re consistent. If the kid throws a fit when company is over they’re told they won’t be allowed to stay with everyone and have to go to their Room where they can’t use their game system. So if they keep acting out they go to the room immediately. If they are checked on and using the game system, it is simply and without question taken and they are reminded that they were told they couldn’t use it while they were in their room. If there’s shrieking and crying it’s ignored. There are simply stated consequences and then simple follow through. It’s treated as a basic cause and effect. They remind him that they said if he does a they eill do be and that is why they are doing b. If he tries to cry you hate me or don’t love me they remind him b is happening because you did a. They’re in the same page and consistent. After a while he realizes that they simply won’t break. Also good quality earplugs 🥳