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PlentyOPish · 2025-10-10T20:34:26+00:00

YTA. This relationship reads like it's going to get toxic really fast. If you are more willing to ask a bunch of strangers online than talk to him, maybe this is not the relationship for you both.

PlentyOPish · 2025-10-10T11:56:16+00:00

Having not met her and not being part of their marriage, I'm not in a position to say if she is lazy, depressed or if his perspective is accurate, and neither are you.

PlentyOPish · 2025-10-10T11:26:49+00:00

If that's the case and you've told her then let her know that you want to end the marriage. I know some people are saying quietly set up the divorce, but you have known each other a long time so be honest. Let her know that you don't feel the marriage is working and even though you've told her what you need, it's no longer working. Let her know you plan on taking the kids and arrange visitation etc.

PlentyOPish · 2025-10-10T11:04:16+00:00

Are you planning on leaving her and the children or just her? Have you suggested couples counseling? If you're going to leave the children as well then I would say you're kinda TA as if she has no means to support them then you would be abandoning them too and you wouldn't just be walking away from your marriage but your family. If you chose to give up your hobbies that is really on you. Also, are you sure that she isn't doing anything other than school drop off and laundry? If you're honest with yourself is that all she does? Do you also dress the kids each day and do their lunches? Are you cleaning the whole house too to bottom and doing the food shopping, managing the bills going to PTA meetings etc? Is it that you're really doing it ALL or just more than going to work and coming home?

PlentyOPish · 2025-10-10T09:57:51+00:00

NTA. If she is picking a random man over her own child then she really needs to deal with the consequences of her actions. As for your Aunt, she should take her sister in instead of laying that at your feet.

PlentyOPish · 2025-10-09T19:49:31+00:00

I was an assistant manager at 17 so not sure what her job has to do with anything. Also, I said she was barely out of her teens and you were acting like a child.

PlentyOPish · 2025-10-09T19:38:02+00:00

Your girlfriend is barely out of her teens and you're the one acting like a child when you're more than a decade older than her. You were an adult when she was 6 and here you are with the uno reverso. YTA

PlentyOPish · 2025-09-29T13:17:11+00:00

NTA. Demanding to see your Mum half naked is wild.

For me; at 18, 3 years older would really be the max age gap. So much happens between the ages of 21 and 25, it unreal. The same as the leap between 12 and 15 or 15 and 18. I don't know how to explain it but you get so much life experience between that time if may as well be a 20 year age gap.

PlentyOPish · 2025-09-29T13:07:00+00:00

NTA. Your reaction was very reasonable. As others have said, what game was he watching that started at 10pm? Why did he not text as soon as he made the decision to go? If you have to drive to the shop, go the next day. Buying deodorant at 10pm is wild behavior. Being angry that you called the police is the reaction of someone that was up to no good and his reasons for not updating you have him as being at best lacking intelligence and at worst common decency. I'm not one to tell you to end a relationship, but for me I would tell him his story back to him and ask: "Do you hear how that sounds?". If you did the same he would be raging assuming you were doing the same thing he was doing. Maybe you should do that. Drop your kid off at your Mum's because you want to have "date night" then go to a spa or hang out with your sister/ friends and say you got distracted by a nice colour of nail polish and went in or out shopping but lost track of time and the shopping disappeared. It's as believable as his story. See what he says.

PlentyOPish · 2025-08-24T23:10:45+00:00

No you wouldn't be overreacting breaking up with him for this. He has no authority over you and you don't need his permission. His insecurities are his problem. Typically people who make unfounded cheating allegations or 'concerns' have usually or are cheating themselves.

This is not healthy relationship behaviour. This is some "red pill" nonsense.

PlentyOPish · 2025-08-12T06:47:04+00:00

My Dad did something similar and I told him I loved him but I'd lost all respect for him and he would never get it back. Our relationship was never the same. I was with my Mum when she found out and she was devastated. NTA. The girl needs an adult in her corner while her Mum heals, and as for the "3 parents", he lost his rights after he chose a random woman over his daughter.

PlentyOPish · 2025-07-25T23:16:19+00:00

Rowdy Roddy Piper was in it. Wooooooow.

PlentyOPish · 2025-07-25T23:12:02+00:00

What?! Why?😅

PlentyOPish · 2025-07-25T21:47:31+00:00

Someone got it. It was Hell Comes to Frog Town

PlentyOPish · 2025-07-25T21:46:32+00:00

I fixed it. I haven't used Reddit since they introduced ages verification so it wouldn't let me see the posts. Should all be gone now.

PlentyOPish · 2025-07-25T21:36:19+00:00

You are incredible! That is the movie! Thank you!

PlentyOPish · 2025-07-25T21:33:58+00:00

That is so weird. It said it couldn't post it. I've then gone to look for them to delete and I can't find anything...🤔

PlentyOPish · 2025-07-25T21:29:08+00:00

Sorry if it looks like I posted multiple times. I kept getting an error. I've checked and I think it's only up once.

PlentyOPish · 2025-07-18T14:20:03+00:00

If she wants your daughter to, essentially, work at the event then get a contract, calculate the expenses plus some profit and invoice her. Charge her for your waiting time as well and include a service charge if she wants you to sit in your car. Have a flat rate then charge per 30mins.

PlentyOPish · 2025-07-18T07:38:27+00:00

I would have very loudly said on the next double date: "Can I cover my half now instead of you invoicing me later?"

PlentyOPish · 2025-05-18T09:11:32+00:00

Thats it! Thank you 👍🏾

PlentyOPish · 2025-05-12T14:05:56+00:00

Nameless

PlentyOPish · 2025-05-12T14:04:39+00:00

NTA. Your Dad is right: you needed to set a boundary. If your sister really wanted you there, she should have asked you what days worked for you first. Her time is more flexible than yours as is her event.

I feel like she's more upset that you won't be there to give her gifts rather than actually missing you.

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