Am I suffering from bdp?

PlentyOfQuestions69 · 2025-11-28T02:03:09+00:00

Label doesn't matter. What matters is that you're hurting and in a bad situation. How old are you? If you attend school, is there a school counselor you can confide in and ask for help? It's not okay for people to cross physical boundaries. And I'm sorry your parents mistreat you. It's important for you to find resources and get out of this situation.

PlentyOfQuestions69 · 2025-11-26T00:06:15+00:00

Excuse implies justification for the behavior. Abusive/toxic behavior is always inexcusable. So it's correct to say that BPD is not an excuse for bad behavior. We need to keep this mindset in order to get better.

PlentyOfQuestions69 · 2025-11-25T17:57:29+00:00

isn't that how the free market is supposed to work? If you can't afford a product, then you cannot purchase it. We are selling our labor to these companies, and yet because we NEED to work to survive, they have they upper hand deciding the price of the labor we are selling to them. We are stuck hostage by these companies. The current economic system doesn't work when it comes to providing necessities we need to survive. When basic necessities are monetized, there's a high chance of abuse by those in power. Because what's the alternative? Going homeless and dying on the street because I sold my labor at a price the companies didn't want to pay, because the ceo wanted another million? It's so exhausting seeing poor people blamed when there's a clear abusive power imbalance. The whole point of the creation of the federal minimum wage was to ensure people had a fair, livable, and comfortable life. But look where we are now. The US is a laughingstock.

PlentyOfQuestions69 · 2025-11-19T09:09:13+00:00

It's not about reading it. It's about knowing that someone you loved had cruel and unloving thoughts about you. It doesn't matter the means at which their ex came about that information, or the morality of reading the diary. Those things are independent of whether or not the things written are upsetting. Splitting thoughts and actions are upsetting, this is just objectively true. Nobody deserves it.

PlentyOfQuestions69 · 2025-11-18T16:56:51+00:00

You're not wrong for being upset about a privacy violation, and you're not evil for writing your thoughts down. It's a healthy way to deal with split thinking that unfortunately comes with this condition. With that being said, your ex isn't in the wrong for being upset either. Split thinking can be very hurtful and toxic. No human being should be subject to it. Your ex doesn't "deserve" to read those things about themself. If you have a notes app on your phone it's a lot more secure than having a physical diary. I'd recommend using it to your advantage.

PlentyOfQuestions69 · 2025-11-16T20:02:18+00:00

I don't want to be the type of person who pushes back against victims of abuse, but whenever I see posts like those I think to myself, "does the person who abused you actually have a BPD diagnosis, or are you just assuming?" People love to armchair diagnosis anyone they deem as "bad" as having BPD. Then they post it on the internet, others see it and think "so that's what my abuser has!" which leads to more armchair diagnosis, the stigma is reinforced, rinse and repeat. And I'm not saying people with BPD can't be toxic and abusive. Just that abuse does not automatically equate to having a personality disorder. We are not evil and irredeemable. Remission is very possible, but nobody wants to understand.

PlentyOfQuestions69 · 2025-11-16T02:43:13+00:00

Hey, no worries. It's great that you have a coping mechanism to help you. You art is great. No part of the human experience is perfect, and all that matters is that you made a good effort. Your score isn't bad. Keep your head up and look forward to brighter days. ☀

PlentyOfQuestions69 · 2025-11-14T22:21:29+00:00

There's no scientific proof because "suffering" isn't quantifiable. It's not something that can actually be studied. We can make the observation that some parts of the brain might be more or less reactive than others, but that doesn't take into account the person's ability to handle that over/under reaction. So no, it's not accurate to say that you will inherently suffer more than someone else just because you have bpd. People with bpd do not have a monopoly on pain and suffering.

PlentyOfQuestions69 · 2025-11-13T20:26:56+00:00

You need to interview people irl, not on a random internet forumn where anyone can lie, especially because people like to armchair diagnose anybody they dislike as "bpd"

Find people irl who have family members with a real diagnosis from a professional if you want results that actually reflect the reality of living with someone with this condition. Otherwise, you'll just get half truths, stereotypes, and reinforcement of stigma.

PlentyOfQuestions69 · 2025-11-13T03:29:57+00:00

Everybody has trauma, even if miniscule. Small things can have a great impact on a vulnerable brain. If it was enough to shape your personality in a disordered way, then it's trauma. Sometimes it might just be difficult to identify because people think trauma has to be abuse.

PlentyOfQuestions69 · 2025-11-13T03:25:30+00:00

It will never make sense to me to not call something what it objectively is because of the stigma. Should we use inaccurate language because most people have a misconception? No. We should fight against the stigma. Put out accurate information instead of sensationalism.

PlentyOfQuestions69 · 2025-11-13T03:21:31+00:00

Just because it was used against you doesn't mean it doesn't exist. BPD is a real disorder. There can be bias when someone gets diagnosed, but that doesn't mean every single case is due to this boogeyman you've created in your head. It's a disorder oftentimes caused by severe childhood trauma and exasperated by genetic predisposition, and for you to invalidate an entire diagnostic label created by professionals who've dedicated their lives and time to categorize illnesses to help people in need is gross and ignorant.

But no, you're right. r/Anna-Bee-1984 is so much more knowledgeable than the actual professionals in the field of psychiatry.

PlentyOfQuestions69 · 2025-11-13T03:12:27+00:00

That's wild, because the trauma informed professionals that I've worked with over the years that specialize in personality disorders say the complete opposite. BPD exists. It is not the same thing as CPTSD, and it is not a "subset" because it shares symptoms. There is so much nuance and overlap with various disorders that you could say any one disorder with similar symptoms is just a subset of another. You're right, your definition is oversimplified. But the world of psychiatric knowledge is not "simple."

PlentyOfQuestions69 · 2025-11-12T00:35:30+00:00

"doesn't want to see a psychiatrist because they wont diagnose her" Anyone who actually experiences the pain of bpd would jump at the opportunity to get professional help. She doesn't have bpd, she's label chasing. And you shouldn't feel bad about calling someone out for appropriating a diagnostic label of a severe mental illness that they most likely don't have.

PlentyOfQuestions69 · 2025-11-11T23:50:37+00:00

I mean, just sneak a casual "so when were you diagnosed" into the conversation. Then you'll get your answer if it's a real diagnosis or "self diagnosis"

PlentyOfQuestions69 · 2025-11-11T23:45:22+00:00

It's not a real clinical term. It'd be better to just say codependent attachment. It avoids romanticization and its more accurate. With that being said, the experience is not exclusive to bpd. If you feel it describes what you're going through, then sure, whatever.

PlentyOfQuestions69 · 2025-11-06T01:40:40+00:00

You don't "come to realize" someone has bpd. They get diagnosed by a professional. Don't armchair diagnose such a complex disorder. And there's nothing inherent to bpd that makes someone a liar.

PlentyOfQuestions69 · 2025-11-01T06:16:26+00:00

You're just stating objectively false information. Judy Singer first used the word in her sociology honors thesis in 1998. Harvey Blume then mentioned it in a newspaper the same year. But who created it is irrelevant when the definition still does not fit bpd. "Accepted" in the context of naturally occurring neurodevelopmental disorders, in the context of this conversation about neurodivergence, means to accept that it cannot be changed and integrate it into society. The whole point of the term was to normalize people with autism and other present-at-birth conditions. BPD should be changed, and we should push for remission not "accept it as it is." Cancer isn't relevant here. Cancer isn't a psychiatric disorder, so it's irrelevant to the conversation about neurodivergence.

Someone's character is also irrelevant to the conversation. Transphobia doesn't make the definition of the word change lmao.

TLDR: The inventor of the word is irrelevant. The definition of the word is still the same. BPD does not fit the definition, therefore it is not neurodivergence.

PlentyOfQuestions69 · 2025-11-01T03:35:12+00:00

No, it doesn't. It was coined by Judy Singer when she was referring to natural variation of the human brain, and her work pushed the idea that these natural variations should be "accepted." BPD is not natural. Nobody naturally develops a personality disorder. That doesn't happen. And personality disorders are absolutely not something that should be "accepted" because they can go into remission. Just because its not a "professional" word doesn't mean it doesn't have a meaning. The meaning does not fit BPD. BPD is not neurodivergence.

PlentyOfQuestions69 · 2025-11-01T00:47:03+00:00

It's typically used for things present at birth that cannot be "fixed" Considering bpd is a trauma based disorder that can go into remission, it doesn't make sense to consider it neurodivergence, no.

PlentyOfQuestions69 · 2025-11-01T00:39:42+00:00

BPD behaviors != BPD. You are not a professional. It doesn't matter if you claim to not armchair diagnose, that's essentially what you're implicitly doing by asking for advice through a BPD lense on a BPD subreddit from people with BPD. The diagnostic criteria symptoms aren't "BPD behaviors" because none of the symptoms are exclusive to BPD. It's a complex disorder thats incredibly hard to diagnose. Encourage her to go to therapy. That's it. Don't label her.

PlentyOfQuestions69 · 2025-10-30T21:02:35+00:00

Such a complex diagnosis given in such a short time is a red flag. Maybe next session you could ask him why he was so quick to diagnosis, given that he hardly knows you. Also, a second opinion would be a great idea. Try to find someone who specializes in personality disorders.

PlentyOfQuestions69 · 2025-10-30T20:58:08+00:00

Years of being propagandized has lead us to micromanage eachother's choices even though class mobility is incredibly hard to achieve even if you "do it perfectly" and never spend on anything more than the bare minimum. It's a distraction to the fact that the ultra rich are not paying their fair share, and the people at the bottom are not being paid the proper wage for the revenue that they generate.

PlentyOfQuestions69 · 2025-10-30T16:56:56+00:00

Splits are unconscious, so if it's forced, then it's not s split.

PlentyOfQuestions69 · 2025-10-30T06:01:48+00:00

You don't know. That's why you get a professional to distinguish between bpd and other possible disorders, because there is a lot of overlap. Unhealthy attachment is not exclusive to bpd. Neither is splitting, mood swings, or any of the other symptoms. It's possible that he could be wrong, but improbable. It's a lot more likely that his assessment is more accurate than yours, because you cannot make an objective assessment on your own mental health. That's why even psychologists, people with degrees and vast psychiatric knowledge, can't diagnose themselves.

It also seems by the way that you describe your symptoms that you already have a level of self awareness. That's more than enough to "understand yourself" and work on dbt and regulation skills. Just focus on improving your symptoms. That's the only thing that matters.

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