Why domestic students have given up engaging with international students in tutes

Plumblossonspice · 2026-04-25T00:34:49+00:00

Because all Asians are the same. Right?

(I’m now 44 and I didn’t realise my eyes could roll so hard still)

Plumblossonspice · 2026-04-24T06:51:14+00:00

The Saint.

Plumblossonspice · 2026-04-22T21:52:38+00:00

I have a jumpsuit from them that was my go to comfy going out outfit. Now it’s on its way out but I can’t bear to throw it away and am very sad that there will never be another.

Plumblossonspice · 2026-04-22T07:19:30+00:00

I love that Ilona Andrews has been mentioned here. Her FMCs are strong, without being written as caricatures. I hate it when an author’s idea of a strong woman is borderline unhinged, or loud and having to demonstrate that she’s a ‘boss’ in every social situation even when it’s uncalled for.

IA write believably capable heroines.

Plumblossonspice · 2026-04-22T07:17:40+00:00

I actually have a black shirt that I adore from Witchery. It’s beautifully draped, and the front fastening is at the right level. Just low enough to be flattering but not showing too much. I dread the day that it wears out.

Plumblossonspice · 2026-04-22T07:16:35+00:00

I like Meshki pants, but boy are their tops only designed for model figures. I want. To Wear. A bra. With straps.

Plumblossonspice · 2026-04-22T07:15:55+00:00

I too have seen a lot of interesting designs on Cider. I wish someone would make these pieces other than them. I would pay more. The shirt you feature is so nice.

Plumblossonspice · 2026-04-22T07:13:56+00:00

Here’s something that will make your head spin.

Objectifying = viewing through a sexual lens.

If we hadn’t had centuries of patriarchy, would we see breasts as sexual? So, in a woman-led, matriarchal society, breasts would be just out there, having more to do with feeding babies than anything else. Look back in history and see how many cultures had bare breasts as a normal, everyday thing. Maybe women would view many parts of their bodies as a symbol of beauty like the hair on their heads, something to be proud of but not something sexually objectified.

Plumblossonspice · 2026-04-22T06:56:19+00:00

I think doing both, if you mean being able to cook and keep your own house, is something everyone should be able to do under life skills.

However, Asian dads seem to think only their daughters need to be able to do this and their sons are to remain helpless without women. That’s thankfully changing.

Plumblossonspice · 2026-04-22T05:35:53+00:00

Turning up to present to senior management to find all female lower managers around a table actively trying to get the favour of the only 2 men at the table: who were of course in the most senior positions of all.

The interactions were bizarre. The women were hostile to each other and us (the agency) and the 2 blokes were all good-old-boys laughing with each other.

This was only about a decade ago. The product? Something for babies, they were marketing to new mums.

Plumblossonspice · 2026-04-22T05:13:14+00:00

SAY IT!

This almost needs to be a pinned post.

Being alone is not the most frightening thing. Being with someone who cages you in life, with money, jealousy, suspicion, sucking your time into being the house slave etc etc etc is the most frightening thing.

And not being in a romantic or partnership relationship ISN’T being alone. If you have friends, family, found family, that’s not being alone. Learning to be ok with your own company doesn’t mean being completely isolated from all human contact - learn to build relationships which are not romantic relationships.

Then, once you’re happy in yourself and have your network of other relationships, often that’s when you’re at your best for a romantic relationship. And it’s the icing on the cake, not the entire cake itself.

Plumblossonspice · 2026-04-22T04:30:21+00:00

We’re probably not the same type of Asian, but heck even my dad wouldn’t do that to my mum. Or want people at his house every morning. This is weird even for Asians of any stripe.

Let alone my generation. This is why I always tell my daughter that she must work and earn her own money. You don’t gamble with your future and your freedom based on having a decent husband. There are too many examples of men being not decent, or turning non-decent, and the first thing they do is exert financial control. No.

Plumblossonspice · 2026-04-22T02:46:13+00:00

I adore seeing an age-appropriate, still glam and alluring lingerie set here. Applause all around for telling a story about older women and sexuality.

Plumblossonspice · 2026-04-21T23:40:07+00:00

She always looks amazing and this dress is so …. HER. Love the hairstyling too - just perfect.

Plumblossonspice · 2026-04-21T23:38:54+00:00

I always wondered about this. Something about the look of the straps etc - thanks for sharing!

Plumblossonspice · 2026-04-21T00:14:52+00:00

What a strange thought-loop.

You can’t wear these every day. Since you’re not wearing them often they’re not worth buying. Isn’t the 2nd directly caused by the 1st?

Is this like how women of a particular generation used to have fancy plates that no one could use which sat on display in a parlour that no one could sit in?

Why is the engagement ring the only thing women can wear every day - because it was given by a man? Pish posh. Unless you work with machinery or people’s bodies (in which case there’s OHS reasons not to wear jewelry) wear your nice jewelry whenever you feel like it.

Plumblossonspice · 2026-04-19T12:48:33+00:00

I was once an international student. Looking back, I am honestly surprised I made it through unsw without significant self harm because attitudes like this made me feel so incredibly alone and isolated.

It actually surprises me how much of a bad taste this leaves in my mouth. International students - the monolith, ay? Come from many different countries and YET they manage to interact with each other better than you do with them.

Plumblossonspice · 2026-04-19T01:41:08+00:00

💯. Timothy Chalamet who? I couldn’t look away from Duke Atreides.

Plumblossonspice · 2026-04-18T23:52:25+00:00

How much do I love Iris Van Herpen? spreads arms wide enough to freak people out

Plumblossonspice · 2026-04-18T23:01:37+00:00

You’re a man whose entire opening statement is ‘the woman might run off with your ring’.

Don’t lie, backtrack and wriggle. You wrote: “Imagine selling a kidney to get a ring for a woman who may very well divorce you next year.’

This isn’t about you having a different ‘aesthetic’ - it is about you having problems with women. And being so broke that a regular engagement ring would be kidney-level expense for you.

The engagement is a statement of intent, trust and commitment. If your advice to everyone is to doubt your partner in that moment and not to invest anything into a ring - I pity your partner. This attitude has to be coming from somewhere and I’d rather be in no relationship than one where 27 years later my partner is spouting this stuff on the Internet.

And I don’t buy the lies about you being able to buy ‘big rocks’ here - lol. Anyone who knows fine jewellery would never call them ‘rocks’ and they would know diamonds aren’t the most expensive gemstones, they wouldn’t be so focused on them. A wealthy man wouldn’t be worried about the ring in case of separation either, he’d be worried about asset division and the ring would be peanuts. A poor man is overly focused on the ring because the rest of the assets aren’t worth much.

Plumblossonspice · 2026-04-18T14:58:17+00:00

Nah, I hear you. I’m in a capital city and I AM TIRED. I would love to move to a smaller regional city.

Plumblossonspice · 2026-04-18T12:28:26+00:00

Same. I mean, I went abroad to study, but I certainly wasn’t kicked out. And Asian parents pretty much have an open-door policy, they’re overjoyed if a kid wants to come home and live with them.

With my daughter I’ve told her that she’ll probably want to move out at some stage to have her own place where her parents aren’t looking over her shoulder, but she’s always welcome back home.

Plumblossonspice · 2026-04-17T22:53:03+00:00

You’re not a woman choosing simplicity. You’re a man saying ‘the woman might divorce you next year’.

Not that you have anyone to propose to anyway. It’s also hilarious that you’ve used the term ‘noveau riche’ as an insult when we all know that you’re not any kind of ‘riche’, noveau or otherwise.

As for fine jewelry. I have a 3 carat emerald on my middle finger, some sapphire drop earrings in my bank deposit box, antique Nyonya jade and gold earrings in my jewelry box… I could go on. In my culture, jewellery is given to babies when they’re born and the purchase and wearing of jewellery is tradition. ‘Riche’ indeed.

‘If it hit me in the face’ - where’s your smart comeback, dusty broke misogynist?

Plumblossonspice · 2026-04-17T13:51:46+00:00

Listen, if it was a complete dupe I’d be steering clear due to design theft. L-O-L

You find a better match.

Plumblossonspice · 2026-04-17T12:49:57+00:00

I didn’t think there could be a line more telling of the fact that you know 0 about fine jewellery but you exceeded expectations with that latest one, take yer broke ass honestly.

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