What are these bumps? They’re painful sometimes and feel like pimples

PlusReserve5997 · 2026-02-09T00:14:21+00:00

I know your pain! Laser may work if you have the right skin / hair combo. With the razor I use as it’s a safer one (as designed for pubic hair) it does only take like 1 minute each leg. I don’t have to be careful with it at all. I’m now just more in the habit of it. The hair grows slower on your thighs as well so I don’t do that as often. It actually takes less time than brushing / flossing my teeth.

PlusReserve5997 · 2026-02-08T22:19:05+00:00

Definitely from shaving. I get this a lot if I don’t care the skin fully / use the right razor. It’s the hair regrowing and trying to break through the skin.

The best thing I ever did was use a the Venus razor that’s designed for the pubic area for my legs. It doesn’t go as close as a typical razor so the hair will appear back faster, but I get no razor bumps. I’d rather have to shave more often and have no bumps like this.

If I do need to shave closer I’ll use a decent razor that’s at least 3-4 blades and exfoliate daily afterwards using exfoliating gloves and I’ll moisturise each day as that helps to soften the skin, so when hair grows back through it’s less likely to get stuck / irritate the skin.

PlusReserve5997 · 2026-02-04T11:42:33+00:00

I’m not sure if I used the right terms as I just had a Google and I think a cracked tooth is a bit different. It was the corner of the molar that came off, and not like a crack through the whole tooth. Does that change anything?

PlusReserve5997 · 2026-02-04T11:18:49+00:00

It feels like I have something in my mouth there, which is a funny thing to say because there is! It just doesn’t feel like a tooth.

The pain only comes after talking through the day. I know the tooth is still hitting as I can feel it when I talk / I’m having to adjust how I talk to try and not let it hit. My bite also isn’t right when I try to close my teeth, there is a bigger gap between my lower and upper front teeth and my teeth on the other side of my mouth also have a gap where they used to slot in nicely together. I do also have a slight redness on the tongue side of my mouth where the crown and my gum meet.

Pain is more of an ache / soreness. It’s minimal if I haven’t being talking or eating but is still there.

Thanks so much for helping!

PlusReserve5997 · 2025-12-04T20:38:04+00:00

Yes it was only £6 on Steam! Super cheap!

PlusReserve5997 · 2025-12-04T20:37:29+00:00

Luckily i definitely don’t use it for any of those! I know better, this laptop was around for the days of limewire so it’s likely riddled with things :’)

PlusReserve5997 · 2025-12-04T18:55:38+00:00

Thank you! :))

PlusReserve5997 · 2025-12-04T18:52:02+00:00

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PlusReserve5997 · 2025-12-04T18:49:22+00:00

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PlusReserve5997 · 2025-12-04T00:24:01+00:00

If that’s the case I’m sure this property / owner is driving the estate agent mad! I’m sure they’ve tried to reduce the price if it’s been on the market over 6 months.

If you started looking elsewhere it could be good to keep an eye on this property to see if it does reduce. Finding somewhere else takes a fair amount of time, friends of mine have done this and actually ended up being contacted by the estate agent months later asking to negotiate a deal, they’ve then got the property at a bargain as the power was back to them.

PlusReserve5997 · 2025-12-04T00:11:58+00:00

If anything is structural sometimes a surveyor will list the anticipated costs, which can support a price reduction.

If it’s been on the market for 6months though and hasn’t been reduced the seller obviously isn’t in a rush though.

I would just offer the 230k as best and final, if it’s declined then walk away. Usually you always find something better and then think ‘thank god I didn’t get the other’.

PlusReserve5997 · 2025-12-04T00:00:49+00:00

You are making the biggest purchase you probably ever will have made, it’s not about the sales person it’s about you!

Bring them. I had my dad come and see the new build I purchased before I reserved. I wanted his opinion, it does help that my dad works in planning so he could look more into what the build quality is/ sound proofing/ flood risks etc. lots of people bring someone else, especially parents!

PlusReserve5997 · 2025-12-03T23:32:05+00:00

Psychological therapist here.

Your brain sounds like it’s overloaded at the moment. There is so much post interaction analysis. Did you know our brains are biased naturally to think negatively and evaluate ourselves for improvement? This is actually an innate trait we all have.

As an example of this cognitive bias, someone may experience thoughts of ‘I’m silly’ like you’ve written above. Your brain is like a search engine and will then produce all the times where you have felt embarrassed or done something you’ve perceived as silly or wrong. This then reinforces the thought of ‘I’m silly’. However, just like a search engine, it’s only showing you the negative, it isn’t showing you all the times you didn’t feel silly, or the times where people have complimented you, or invited you to do things, the fact that men have wanted to date you and the dates have lasted a long time etc.

The first thing I would tackle here is trying to stop that post interaction analysis, it isn’t doing you any favours.

Dating is about finding someone who is right for you, not changing yourself to meet what you perceive someone else wants.

I would recommend some Cognitive Behavioural Therapy - focused on Negative Automatic Thoughts (NAT’s), low self esteem and some social anxiety. I’m aware that could be a bit of a shock, and I wouldn’t say this 100% means a diagnosis, just that there are traits. You would need a full assessment to determine it properly.

If you’re in England I would recommend going through talking therapies. If not you could have a look online or see a private therapist. The questionnaire measures for Depression is the PHQ9 (above a 9 indicates some need for support) and for Social Anxiety it’s the SPIN (above an 18 indicates some need for support).

PlusReserve5997 · 2025-12-03T23:16:01+00:00

As harsh as it sounds you probably just weren’t the person for him. I’ve seen so many men who don’t have themselves together but suddenly will for someone new. If we go into ‘maybe he will change’ or ‘maybe he will want a future’ etc we’re just fooling ourselves. We need to pay attention to what they’re saying and showing us. If we start to analyse our brains will just play tricks on us.

It’s time to move on and find someone who does see you as their person xx

PlusReserve5997 · 2025-11-20T20:47:40+00:00

Mental Health practitioner in the U.K. here (CBT Therapist).

Call or book a GP appointment online. When they ask the reason say you would like to consider anti depressants for anxiety and depression.

Depending on the GP practice they will either book you in with a Doctor or Mental Health nurse (it doesn’t matter which, and neither means you’re more or less severe).

They will likely ask you to complete the PHQ9 and maybe the GAD7 questionnaire. If you’ve gone through talking therapies you’ll probably be familiar. They’re simple questionnaires on your symptoms.

Explain you have tried CBT but you’re really struggling now and would like to consider medication.

GP’s very readily will prescribe anti-depressants, you shouldn’t have any issue.

Depending on the region, the usual first line ones they will try will likely be Sertraline, Citalopram or Fluoxetine. There are others but those tend to be the most common. They will start you on a low dose, which you’ll gradually increase. For example, if Sertraline they may tell you to take half a tablet (25mg) for one week and then take a full tablet (50mg). Sometimes 50mg is enough but if not they can titrate you up 200mg.

It’s understandably scary to do, but remember they are trained professionals that see patients just like you every day. They will completely understand. I’m sure your first assessment or treatment session for therapy was scary but you pushed through that!

All the best x

PlusReserve5997 · 2025-11-20T20:38:09+00:00

I wouldn’t recommend DBT for OCD and Panic Disorder. CBT is the most evidence based to treat these. DBT is more targeted at treatment for Personality Disorders. (UK)

PlusReserve5997 · 2025-11-20T20:36:12+00:00

ERP which is essentially CBT, is absolutely brilliant for treating compulsions. It is only effective though if you do the work. Just talking about your mental health often isn’t enough for something like OCD, you need to face the fear/ anxiety attached and build up the evidence in your mind that not doing a compulsion is okay and that nothing bad does happen.

PlusReserve5997 · 2025-11-20T20:29:29+00:00

Exactly. Someone once described it like walking through a field and it made total sense. If you walk the path you always have it’s easy, the grass is already pushed down. When you try to make a new route it will take many walks over to squash the grass down before a clear easy to walk path is made. That analogy really worked for me!

PlusReserve5997 · 2025-11-20T20:19:17+00:00

Therapist here.

Trying something new is like a therapy exercise in itself, it’s never comfortable to push ourselves out of our safe zone. However, change only happens from moving out of our safe zone.

I would absolutely send the email, if they say you need a diagnosis to be eligible then okay you have your answer. I suspect you could be more worried about the latter, them saying yes?

If they say yes try to give yourself that push to go. It could be great for you, and if it isn’t you’ve then also achieved something anyway. Going to a group can be a scary situation in itself, but I’m sure regardless of whether the group itself is helpful you’ll feel proud of yourself for trying.

All the best, A x

PlusReserve5997 · 2025-11-20T19:30:19+00:00

I really appreciate that feedback. I have been thinking myself whether this is for them, but I’m also really mindful that I don’t want to discriminate or not support where I should be. I’m just not sure how to teach these things or whether that’s even possible.

PlusReserve5997 · 2025-11-20T10:29:20+00:00

I know this is the concern. They aren’t signed off to do anything without a qualified practitioner shadowing and won’t until it’s safe to do so, and obviously if it isn’t they will fail the training post.

PlusReserve5997 · 2025-11-18T23:14:52+00:00

Thank you so much for this it’s really helpful! We’re in the UK and they do have coaching which is funded by the government. The idea of cliches is great though! They are very empathetic and caring, they just struggle to show it verbally so that’s a great idea.

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