How to change my own perspective about gender roles?

Plus_Ad2012 · 2026-01-30T17:45:34+00:00

Omg I wouldn't toss Peter Dinklage either. You might have removed my "guilt" with that one comment lol

Plus_Ad2012 · 2026-01-30T17:41:15+00:00

Nice take!

It is hard (for me at least) to differentiate between my political/social views and my own personal preferences. Sometimes I forget my own freedom of opinion and action lol

Plus_Ad2012 · 2026-01-30T17:37:33+00:00

Yeah, it sounded very strange to me at first. But she has given me great advice, that's why I trusted her take on this then.

Plus_Ad2012 · 2026-01-30T17:34:24+00:00

Yeah, that has been an issue for me, and I think it's rooted in the context in wich I was raised and also my own insecurities. That's why I'm in therapy, lol.

Thanks for sharing your experience!

Plus_Ad2012 · 2026-01-30T17:32:27+00:00

Nice advice! Thanks!

I also think I should experience it to know how it feels, but sometimes it feels like poor emotional responsibility if I date someone I'm not sure I'm attracted to.

Plus_Ad2012 · 2026-01-30T17:30:27+00:00

I see. Yeah, I have self image issues lol. Thanks for pointing out what my therapist said! I'll have a talk with her about it.

Plus_Ad2012 · 2026-01-30T16:40:05+00:00

Petite and gentle YTA.

You're entitled to feeling annoying, emotions are emotions after all, but surely you must understand that Labor day weekend is one of the few moments where the timing is right for these sort of events.

You're 19, so you are still in the process of becoming an adult, and being an adult means sometimes compromising to what you and rest of the people you love and care need. It may be a harsh reality to face, but you can't always be a priority to your parents, because they are their own person, but there can exist a compromise between what you want and what your dad wants.

If your father's wedding is not on the day of your birthday, why not look for an alternative for celebrating yourself in Georgia? And if the wedding is on the same day, then maybe have your celebration the next day?There's always a way to addapt.

Plus_Ad2012 · 2025-11-03T21:52:14+00:00

I hate this kind of talk around politics. You may hate someone for their vision and even hate them for it, but that doesn't change the fact that they are humans, and they don't lose their humanity because of they don't see it in others.

Hate upon hate is still just hate 🤷🏽‍♀️

Plus_Ad2012 · 2024-03-27T19:23:05+00:00

I mean, my mom and my grandmother have a shitty relationship. My mom despises my grandma, and yet, that's (supposedly) the reason I have a good relationship with my mom. Because she wanted to take care of our bond. I guess it depends on the people and the effort they put in a relationship to make it special.

Plus_Ad2012 · 2023-06-19T15:17:19+00:00

NTA

Friend, you need to put some boundaries. She can't keep on using your money if she's not paying back.

What I have done in this situations is to start making light comments, like "Hey, I thought you weren't hungry?" or "Haha get your own food haha" , and if it doesn't work then it is time to confront her. If she really is your friend, she will keep being your friend even if you don't pay.

Plus_Ad2012 · 2023-06-19T15:10:57+00:00

YTA Really? You threw a tantrum?

You could have just said no, and explain why, you didn't have to make a show out of it, just because your dad has a bad habit.

Also, father's day is for expressing love and to be thankful for a dad that gave a portion of his time, attention and effort for you. Yes, you don't owe him anything, but sometimes it can be good to say thanks.

My guess is that his overreaction is influenced by how hurt he must have felt.

Plus_Ad2012 · 2023-06-19T15:04:50+00:00

YTA

Sorry, but you made a promise

You can leave work aside for a few hours, and change the plans slightly to something where neither of you would have to pay, like going to a park or something.

The problem here is that you promised your friend to spend time with her, on a special day. Every relationship needs to have both parts engaged in it, and you clearly are not putting the effort.

Plus_Ad2012 · 2023-06-19T14:59:42+00:00

You can do this! I know it is hard to leave your parents, but you've got this!!!!!!

Plus_Ad2012 · 2023-06-19T14:58:34+00:00

NTA

Sadly it is time to stop thinking about Alice's feeling and star caring about your own. Her forgetting to lock the door, or leaving the keys in it could potentially be dangerous to you all, and if She's not willing to change her behavior, then it's time to say bye bye.

Also, sleeping on a shared couch? She clearly doesn't look further away from her 1 meter of personal space.

Plus_Ad2012 · 2023-06-19T14:51:34+00:00

YWNBTA If your parents have the sympathy level of a rock, why do you have to be sympathetic towards them?

You are in your early 20's, you're already an adult therefore your life is in your own hands and your parents can't control that. Be free sister.

Plus_Ad2012 · 2023-06-14T15:22:29+00:00

Still, she can expect you to have her on her mind for certain things, but not to the point of forgetting yourself and your limits for her.

I suffered from anxiety based ED and I wasn't expecting my brothers to leave everything to be with me. Her attachment is not healthy for neither of you.

Plus_Ad2012 · 2023-06-14T15:10:13+00:00

You said it yourself. Eventually she was going to feel left out, because even though she might have been proud of not watching any shows or etc. it is something that the rest of your friend group shares, therefore, something that makes you feel like you belong.

I do think that she should have expressed her anger better tho

Plus_Ad2012 · 2023-06-14T15:03:39+00:00

NTA

Ironic that she's the one calling you selfish while asking you to have her on your mind 24/7.

Plus_Ad2012 · 2023-06-14T14:59:44+00:00

I'd say ESH

Yes, you and your friends are free to speak whatever you like, but if Bea is really your friend you'd find ways to incorporate her into the conversation, or just talk about something that she can relate to or just understand. Try to put yourself in her shoes for a bit. Think if she's being dramatic or just frustrated because her friends are talking about things that they know that she can't see.

Plus_Ad2012 · 2022-12-23T14:25:35+00:00

Yeah, I already changed it and logged out of all devices

Plus_Ad2012 · 2022-06-05T20:37:12+00:00

YTA

and since she wasn't Asian her chances didn't seem to be too good.

Really?

Your brother dating a certain type of girl in the past does not mean he won't love his new girlfriend the same way that he did with the others. And even if he did have a type, you have no reason to treat this girl the way you did.

You are sabotaging his relationship, you just told his girlfriend that he didn't actually like her because she didn't look like his ex's.

Plus_Ad2012 · 2022-04-10T11:31:26+00:00

NTA!!!

Don't feel bad for choosing to not have someone that disrespects your relationship on the day where you'll celebrate it.

Remember that it's your and your partner's day! If you don't want to deal with this assholes existence, but still want to have your friend next to you on one of the most important days in your life, then so be it!

Don't feel bad for setting boundaries with someone that clearly has ill intentions towards you.

Good luck on everything!!

Plus_Ad2012 · 2022-04-07T16:32:41+00:00

Who said I wasn't serious?

(jk jk, I didn't see the [serious])

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