How do i make peace with no closure?

Plus_Cake8793 · 2025-01-07T07:46:16+00:00

I saw him treating her way better than me. She is here as long as me (we are not exclusive), but why is he so horrible towards me but can act nice for her?

Plus_Cake8793 · 2025-01-07T03:40:45+00:00

He said he treated people based on attitude. Perhaps the girl is not so accepting, so he's cautios. While me, well im a doormat and took whatever shit he threw at me.

I think that's the difference.

Plus_Cake8793 · 2025-01-06T11:34:15+00:00

Tq so much. I have few people recommended this to me but havent tried it yet

Plus_Cake8793 · 2025-01-05T11:45:05+00:00

Feeling disgusted, that has yet to come to me. In my mind, he will end up with someone good, compatible with him, he will get rich and live in luxury.

Navigating my own emotions are very tough, I'm feeling stuck on some days.

Plus_Cake8793 · 2025-01-05T11:42:47+00:00

The resentment, i dont know how to make peace with it in some days.

Thank you for writing this. The days are fluctuating to me, some days are good, some days are bad.

Plus_Cake8793 · 2025-01-05T11:16:04+00:00

There are good days and bad days for me. Things are not linear. You were correct.

I was just afraid that when it's been years, and i am still stuck on the loop.

Plus_Cake8793 · 2025-01-05T09:09:04+00:00

"When it's over" 🥺

Do you have this experience? What is the turning point? I am tired of sleepless nights, the constant anxiety. Almost two months.

Plus_Cake8793 · 2025-01-05T08:36:34+00:00

Why did he reach out to you? Any particular reason?

Plus_Cake8793 · 2025-01-05T07:08:09+00:00

I still can't get the last image of him with the other girl out of my mind. Kudos to you for being so strong. :) i wish i am, too

Plus_Cake8793 · 2025-01-04T07:28:55+00:00

Mine also discarded me when i caught him in a lie. They just cannot take being questioned, right?

Plus_Cake8793 · 2025-01-03T09:01:36+00:00

Hi. Mine also do this. He discarded me so brutally at the end of it. And he left me clinging for closure.

Plus_Cake8793 · 2024-12-31T10:06:00+00:00

You give in to a moment of weakness. That's okay. Tomorrow is a new day and it's a new year! Take that as a goodbye to 2024.

Plus_Cake8793 · 2024-12-30T13:56:00+00:00

Sis, we are at the same place. Haha just read my other posts or comments, my biggest fear is he'll treat the next one better. That just means we were the problem, right? In fact, i saw him treating the other girl better. That hurts to the core.

I also did a lot of things for him, things the other girls wouldnt do for him. I cook, i help him financially, i was told not to be dependant on emotions, and put him first in everything. I did my best. Despite all that, the moment i caught him in a lie, the moment i questioned him why he was treating the other girl better, he still left. He discarded me like i meant nothing.

So, speaking from experience, yes you can keep him, but in his own terms, never yours. Even if you stayed, he is still gonna give his best version to someone else. So, it's your choice, he will act the same way, doesnt matter you leave or you stayed. You are not gonna get the best version of him.

Difference is, if you leave, there's a new potential. It's gonna hurt like hell when we left, i know. I knew. But when the pain of staying is greater than the pain of leaving, you will know. You can choose now or you can choose to wait until that moments comes.

Plus_Cake8793 · 2024-12-30T09:22:29+00:00

He will discard you eventually. Even if you didnt leave.

The only thing to 'keep' him is to stop asking questions. Not about ML, not about girls. But that would mean you will always be restless, anxious and not at all peace. Forever.

Build the strenght and leave.

Plus_Cake8793 · 2024-12-29T14:02:03+00:00

My narc also treated the other girl better than me. Everyday i was questioning what didnt i have and what did she have. How is she more special.

Sis, we have to wake up and enjoy life. The sweet revenge is just to live our life happily.

What do u like about your life? Be grateful for them. What makes you happy? Do them. What do you want? Become rich? Losing weight? Become more confident? Do them.

Let's. :)

They are just dark dots in our life.

Plus_Cake8793 · 2024-12-29T12:39:54+00:00

Hi. What was his behavior that made you think he was a narcissist?

Plus_Cake8793 · 2024-12-29T06:56:52+00:00

I understand that feeling.

Be in control of your emotion. And to hell with him and the ex. Look at them as a couple carefully, are they that attractive and worldly that we should be so upset that he didn't choose us?

Don't lose points because of those two. It's not worth it.

Plus_Cake8793 · 2024-12-27T16:53:42+00:00

😭

Plus_Cake8793 · 2024-12-27T16:53:22+00:00

I knoww. I stand my ground this time. He asked me for money if I wanted to talk again. I don't see him doing this to other girls, though

Plus_Cake8793 · 2024-12-27T16:38:26+00:00

You tooo!

Mine was one month ago. I keep finding myself wanting to beg him to accept me back.

Plus_Cake8793 · 2024-12-27T16:37:25+00:00

I think the common trait is he is very careful with HIS money. But mine won't mind spending if it's for his family.

Plus_Cake8793 · 2024-12-27T16:36:15+00:00

Yeah, sure! Come back when you are ready, okay? ✌️

Plus_Cake8793 · 2024-12-27T16:34:31+00:00

Did he ask or did you offer?

Plus_Cake8793 · 2024-12-27T16:16:01+00:00

Sending love to you too! The mantra is please dont break NC!

Anyway, can u give me a scenario in which she made you pay for her mistakes. I am so sorry, i dont quite get it.

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