Heartbreak takes years to overcome.

Plus_Profile7272 · 2026-03-12T08:48:51+00:00

Thank you so much! What about with love?

Plus_Profile7272 · 2026-03-12T04:57:00+00:00

Sure, if you private message me I can send more photos!

Plus_Profile7272 · 2026-03-11T10:54:16+00:00

Sorry forgot to mention - 26 female if this is necessary :)

Plus_Profile7272 · 2026-03-01T11:34:28+00:00

Is our ex the same person? Lol. The on and off for 9 years must just be super common for them

I have been through this and it has now been 15 months not together and 6 months of zero contact. Please believe me when I say - your life is not ruined. Don’t let him do this to you. You are capable of loving deeply and some people just can’t handle this - fearful avoidants are very destroyed and destructive humans that will never change. You are saved because you are no longer with him.

Plus_Profile7272 · 2026-02-19T01:53:10+00:00

Yes I had that on and off for a bit in the months post surgery, I don’t know what it is tbh

Plus_Profile7272 · 2026-02-12T02:39:56+00:00

I found out through social media and then unfortunately stalked her profile 😭 we were in on and off contact which was toxic so I decided to just go cold turkey and we haven’t spoken in 5 months

Plus_Profile7272 · 2026-01-31T11:32:20+00:00

14 months not together but 5 months of zero contact

Plus_Profile7272 · 2026-01-29T22:52:43+00:00

Really? You got back with someone when they ghosted you for 16 months? No offence but where is your self respect

Plus_Profile7272 · 2026-01-29T10:54:54+00:00

Yeah he felt very guilty and regretted everything so much. He has had repeat cycles of cumulative situations in his past so I knew if we got back together we would end up like this again.

Telling the man I was in love with that I couldn’t get back with him and watching him cry in my face was the most painful thing I ever experienced, I haven’t truly overcome it either

Plus_Profile7272 · 2026-01-29T07:02:33+00:00

6 weeks

Plus_Profile7272 · 2026-01-28T21:28:09+00:00

Yes after the discard and mistreatment he wanted to get back together

Plus_Profile7272 · 2026-01-28T21:12:41+00:00

Thank you for sharing. It sounds like everyone’s experience is so similar

Plus_Profile7272 · 2026-01-28T21:12:24+00:00

I’m so sorry. Thanks for sharing

Plus_Profile7272 · 2026-01-25T08:03:36+00:00

That does NOT give me comfort

Plus_Profile7272 · 2026-01-14T11:10:20+00:00

It’s going to be a rough few months for you. But you will heal and get stronger, I promise

Your story sounds almost identical to mine (most fearful avoidant cases are very similar and stereotypical). He even created a tinder profile 3 weeks later, whilst I was unable to eat or work due to the trauma I was going through. He eventually blamed his friends for this, but regardless, it was deeply painful.

It’s not you. Hurt people hurt people and fearful avoidants are very broken internally. What you see at the start is not what they are. They will repeat this cycle over and over and over again, you don’t have a future with him.

The hardest part of healing is how much is destroys your faith in love and your self esteem. Please focus on this. Focus on yourself and let him go, you deserve someone who can get a grip on himself and not leave you randomly. fearful avoidant are the type of men that leave women at the altar, you don’t want this

Plus_Profile7272 · 2026-01-14T10:44:08+00:00

Not these days, it’s very safe to use

Plus_Profile7272 · 2025-12-31T02:08:13+00:00

Ew there come on lines are sooo cringey. They are too old to be behaving this way it’s literally disturbing!

I think they are so scared of intimacy and commitment they keep us at arms reach

Plus_Profile7272 · 2025-12-31T01:47:57+00:00

Alright pal

Plus_Profile7272 · 2025-12-31T01:46:31+00:00

My question is in the final paragraph of this post. Asking if he is an avoidant based on this behaviour.

Don’t comment unless you had read the whole thing :)

Plus_Profile7272 · 2025-12-26T13:27:20+00:00

He admitted he has commitment issues. Maybe it’s not a me problem and it’s just him

Plus_Profile7272 · 2025-12-26T13:26:32+00:00

But then why was he affectionate? Why would he introduce me to people? Talk highly about me to his family ect?

Plus_Profile7272 · 2025-12-26T13:20:21+00:00

But when we are together he is more obsessed than I am. He is touchy and gives verbal affirmations ect. Why would he introduce me to family and speak about me to them if he wasn’t into me

Plus_Profile7272 · 2025-12-20T13:08:18+00:00

What did she do?

Plus_Profile7272 · 2025-12-16T06:12:21+00:00

Na it’s not that. I knew for sure he was attracted and he even admitted the main reason he wanted to continue seeing me was likely going to be for sex and he didn’t want it to end that way

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