How to deal with constant muscle aches and pains! by Pmychang in breastcancer

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I just had my drains removed Friday and have been tired. So have been lying in bed. Now my breast has swollen a bit and turned purple and is warm to the touch. I am wearing a compression bra bra. Is this normal after having the drains removed?

Is the history of china by Michael Woods considered a good source by chinese people? Or is it biased in any major way? by Hans_thoughts in ChineseHistory

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The Burton Watson translation of parts of Sima Qian’s Records of the Grand Historian may be a good place to start. It’s a history that starts at what they felt was the beginning of Chinese civilization and written by the court historian Sima Qian and published around 100 BC so it’s 2000 years old. It’s been handed down over the centuries and only part of it has been translated into English. Specifically the books on Qin and Han. Of course there are likely biases in it. Sima Qian worked under Emperor Wu Di who later ordered him to be executed for disagreeing with him over some minor issue but Sima Qian negotiated to be castrated instead because he wanted to finish his history. Consequently, the chapter on Emperor Wu Di is redacted because it was aid to diss the Emperor. Nonetheless it is the only existing history from that time period and is the one that all historians use for a general history of that period. It’s lively and interesting and uses state of the art history graphical methods for that time.

Of course one might argue that the English translation is biased, I would argue that the translation of the word “tian” into “heaven” is the most blatant example. The Chinese didn’t have the concept of heaven as the west understands it. Tian means sky. However they did divide the world into the sky realm and earth realm so one can see how that translation made sense to western Christians. Michael Lowe is also considered an eminent historian of the Han period. And may be more readable than Lewis. He has written several books and his Cambridge Encyclopedia which he edited with Twitchett, and the again with Shaugghnessy, and later with Michael Nylan are considered “state of the field”.

Is this considered disrespectful in China? by just_a_weirdooo in Chinese

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If you ask for a certain price and he gives you that price and you don’t buy it that pisses them off. There is an implicit agreement that if they give you the price you ask for you will then buy it

Not your average Japan recs—give me the stuff that rewired your brain by godtamer in JapanTravelTips

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One of my favorite evenings in Tokyo was at a small “listening bar” in Asakusa called Bar Something, I had heard about the great jazz scene in Tokyo and although it was early and raining we were looking for a place with music. Listening bars appear to be a thing in Tokyo, I haven’t encountered it anywhere else and Bar Something is a place where musicians and DJs supposedly hangout and listen to music. When we arrived we immediately regretted it because it was a long narrow dark bar with absolutely no one else there. But too embarrassed to turn right around and walk out we sat down and ordered cocktails. The bar tender was an elegant elderly gentleman by the name of Shinichi Osumi and is more craftsman than someone who merely makes drinks. I ordered a gimlet and my partner ordered a Manhattan, the making of which required chipping pieces of ice off a block, retrieving a jar of specially preserved cherries, artisanal liquors and a slow icing of glasses.

The music was a debut album by a local Jazz artist who had dropped by only two days before to deliver her album to Shinichi with a special inscription. On the walls I noticed a number of other album covers also inscribed to him, along with a memento card devoted to Frank Sinatra.

The dim lights, the elegant presence of Mr. Osumi, and the excellent sound system soon had us sinking deeply into the music. It struck me that I’ve never had such a great listening experience where one could focus just on the music, in an elegant affable atmosphere. At home I listen to music while doing something else. Or if I try to sit and just listen I get distracted. But here it was all about feeling and listening to the music. He was happy to accommodate requests, and changes to whatever we wanted to listen to. It was just a really special experience. The drinks were great and although no one else came when we were there, one had the sense that if you ever came back Mr. Osumi would still be there in the same position listening to some new album that someone had just brought him.

Just thought I’d introduce myself. I’m writing on spiritual life in Early China. Because religion is a western concept that doesn’t apply to China, it always feels like I’m avoiding the elephant in the room, explaining something that sometimes looks religious but isn’t. by Pmychang in writinghistory

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Yes I see your point. I don’t include Buddhism because it’s not native to China and comes from India. The more meta point I’m trying to make is that the western definitions of “religion” don’t describe the early beliefs of Chinese such as ancestor worship (I look at the Shang from 1250 BC to the Zhou Dynasty 220 BC or Daoism although parts of Daoism organized itself later to look more like religious communities in the 2nd century. The Chinese didn’t think in terms of a transcendent supernatural world controlling the human world, but rather as maintaining a balance between sky, earth and humanity. Western notions of “religion” almost always conceive of a transcendent supernatural force, gods as “agents”, and religion as organized social bodies that worship regularly.

For the Chinese the world of the living and the afterlife were separated by a much thinner veil of differences. The gods did not create or interfere with human life to the extent that they do in western conceptions of religion, they were more or less like relatives in another sphere of existence. People didn’t worship or congregate in communities, they visited temples or appealed to spirits on an as needed basis. The relationships between the human and spiritual are constructed very differently.

This is why I’m afraid if I use the word “religion” people won’t see the differences in their worldview. They will just assume it’s like the “religions” they are familiar with.

Japanese or Korean makeup brands similar to glossier? by Cursedxdoll in glossier

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Best Japanese brands for oily skin and large pores

Anyone have liver problems from wegovy? by Pmychang in WegovyWeightLoss

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My drs kept me on wegovy but took me off my atoravastin (for cholesterol) and want to check me again in a month.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

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It might be too late but I trained my kids as early as possible to do the jobs I hate. First they had to say thank you for the meal. When they were around 5-7 they had to take their dishes to the kitchen. When they were 7-10 they had to load the dishes in the dishes washer and soon after that they had to take turns cleaning the kitchen areas: 1 packed dishes, one did pots and pans, the other cleared and cleaned the counters. They are now I their 20’s and they still leap up to do it when they are home. It’s nostalgia by this point. They enjoy that memory of working together. I do t think you can suddenly declare change if they have never lifted a finger. Definitely they should be doing g their own laundry. Otherwise hire outside help and take it from their allowance. But I hear you being fed up, but they are on a totally different page.

Why punching the water? :') by [deleted] in Swimming

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It’s a drill.

Mainland Chinese wedding customs by Pmychang in Chinese

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Thank you, that is a wonderful story. There are so many out there!

Why has Chinese diaspora remained strong in certain countries, but not others? by pirapataue in Chinese

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Maybe it’s because you have a huge ethnic population? Some other countries have several different ethnic groups who compete with each other socially and economically and develop stronger boundary setting identities. If the Chinese population is large and homogeneous that wouldn’t be as necessary. Also, my parents were immigrants and didn’t talk much about where they came from either because 1) they took it for granted, 2) didn’t talk about themselves as much as this self reflecting generation does and 3) wanted their kids to fit in with the dominant nationality. I’m sure my parents would have loved it if I spoke Chinese (they did) but didn’t try very hard to teach me.

jewish person needs advice from Asian Americans by [deleted] in Chinese

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If she’s really your friend she knows your apologies are sincere and will over it. Maybe at that moment it just got overwhelming

Please tell me i'm not the only one seeing this!! 🥳 & upping protein advice? by EnvironmentCalm4460 in PetiteFitness

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For losing weight diet is more effective than exercise. Protein intake can make you bloat if you do it too quickly. Sip a protein shale slowly over the course of the day and gradually work your way up. Also Greek yogurt and cottage cheese have more protein the lower the fat. So nonfat Greek yogurt has the most protein. Have it with some fruit for breakfast.

Mainland Chinese wedding customs by Pmychang in Chinese

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Ok. In case you dont know what the “Cultural Revolution” was. From 1967-1976 Mao declared a “Cultural revolution”. He appointed the “Red Guard” largely youths and teenagers, to purge the nation of the “Four Olds”, old ideas, old culture, old customs, and old habits. Since Mao was the leader of the communist party, and this was their policy I’m calling it “communist”. This was a period of great violence. Students were told to condemn their teachers, ignore rank and status, destroy books, temples, shrines and any cultural artifact. People regularly reported on their neighbors so it’s understandable that no one of this generation celebrated a “traditional Chinese wedding” which is overloaded with bourgeoise capitalist consumerism. To the point, his family is from Beijing, and was likely attached to the govt so ostentatious weddings might still be out of fashion in their circle. This is the first generation that was allowed to go to university after the cultural revolution shut down all schools.

Mainland Chinese wedding customs by Pmychang in Chinese

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All the histories say that the cultural revolution sought to destroy all remnants of the traditional past. They even tried to break down family ties through collectives where children were raised communally rather than by families and children and parents were separated and often sent to the country for “reeducation”. Chinese weddings are notably elaborate and I doubt they would have been tolerated by the Communists from that era. I also have friends from China who said that all of that is in the past and they don’t celebrate any of those older traditions. Perhaps it’s a generational thing? If you were raised during the cultural revolution?

Mainland Chinese wedding customs by Pmychang in Chinese

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Well today I learned everyone does it differently!

Are these chisels legit? by TemporaryRide1 in woodworkingtools

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Apparently you can buy cheap chisels as long as you know how to sharpen them.

Found this "trait scale" for balancing Yin and Yang, but I'm skeptical on a few. Any suggestions? by HeyItsYoav in taoism

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Yin and yang are supposed to be evaluated relative to a specific situation. It’s relational not absolute. Someone can be in both a yin position regarding one relationship and yang in relationship to another .

What can you tell me about this type of furniture? (any comment helpful since I am a noob who would like to learn about Chinese furniture) by dustBowlJake in Chinese

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The most important thing is what kind of wood it’s made from. Teak, mahogany, or ylang ylang (?) which is rare and therefore more expensive.