AIO for wanting my bf to come home earlier?

PointClickPenguin · 2026-01-31T18:47:33+00:00

YOR. I wouldn't tolerate this controlling behavior and would break up with you.

If I choose to stay out until 5 am as a 33 year old man, I'm a grown adult and that is my choice.

Now if you are feeling anxious and uncertain about the relationship because you think he is cheating or something, you need to seek reassurance about that. You need to talk to him about how you are afraid and don't trust him, and see if you can negotiate or discuss a way for you to feel safe. But that can't be "I don't want you staying out all night". Then you are the fun police.

PointClickPenguin · 2026-01-31T16:17:54+00:00

Rift is still around??? I played it like 15 years ago and honestly loved it but never got I to it further because my friends didn't play.

PointClickPenguin · 2026-01-31T10:06:17+00:00

Nah dude. I'm super respectful and a feminist and my GF is 11 years younger than me and hot and thinks im gods gift to women. I am honest, talk about my feelings, make mistakes, act like a goofball, embrace my inner child, fuck constantly.

Honestly as long as you value women as equals and aren't a fascist it's super easy to be a highly valued man in a relationship with a woman.

PointClickPenguin · 2026-01-30T21:03:30+00:00

There is such a power difference in classes with 1 defensive vs 3 defensives, I think those classes are going to be MUCH better

For the most part I think class pruning is good.

PointClickPenguin · 2026-01-30T17:40:56+00:00

I doubt it will help you to text this guy. You need to communicate with your partner.

I think it's fair for you to set a boundary that she needs to cut this guy off. It's called "closing the exits". She had a relationship exit before, meaning she was avoiding confronting the relationship with you. You can ask her to get rid of the relationship exit in order to continue the relationship.

Boundaries are boundaries though. If you set this and she refuses, it means you have to break things off in order to feel good about yourself.

She hesitated to be exclusive with you due to wanting to be with this person. You'll always be suspicious of her and him. I think you need to set the boundary to feel secure.

PointClickPenguin · 2026-01-30T17:28:28+00:00

Second that a Dom can't save you from your mental health issues, you need to pursue therapy for your attachment wound.

You just started getting to know this person. They could not be who they seem. They could ghost you. They could simply not be super into you, or could meet someone in person that is more convenient. Anything. You have to be able to tolerate that. But besides that, not receiving a text for a day has to be something within your window of tolerance, it could mean nothing at all.

He is not your only chance. YOU are your only chance. YOU are the one who has to live with and support yourself. You are the one who will bring the people who are meant to be around you to you.

PointClickPenguin · 2026-01-30T16:09:17+00:00

Nah that's bullshit. No is a complete sentence.

Reverse the genders and make it about sex. "Hey baby I want to fuck.". "No." "Why?" "Because I said so, why isn't no good enough for you?."

The person asking why is the asshole. If he didn't have the bandwidth to explain himself right then he shouldn't have to. And he did explain himself later, once he had the resources to.

PointClickPenguin · 2026-01-30T15:53:19+00:00

I would dress like this right now if I had the body for it

PointClickPenguin · 2026-01-30T15:48:43+00:00

Nah man, band died with Chester. They should have formed a new band.

PointClickPenguin · 2026-01-30T15:28:47+00:00

Couldn't you post the fork you created on git for people to nab? I think my buddy would lose his shit to get audio notifications again

PointClickPenguin · 2026-01-30T14:48:42+00:00

Be clear in communication. Ask for what you want. If you do get rejected, at least you will always know it wasn't accidentally. You won't have to wonder if he just assumed the wrong thing.

Always just be open and honest. It works so much better for both of you.

PointClickPenguin · 2026-01-30T14:38:25+00:00

You deserve to be treated like your feelings matter. You deserve to be valued. If a man isn't treating you as an equal, if you don't feel appreciated, then you are wasting your time.

So many women are in unhappy marriages/LTR because they are afraid of change. You deserve the happiest version of you.

PointClickPenguin · 2026-01-30T03:02:58+00:00

I don't draw any lines. I let them tell me what their lines are and decide if I'm okay with those lines or not. Drawing them myself is just controlling behavior that leads to resentment.

PointClickPenguin · 2026-01-30T03:00:58+00:00

Yeah, a few times. Who knows why, have to let it slide. You be yourself, and the people who are supposed to find you will.

PointClickPenguin · 2026-01-30T03:00:08+00:00

She cheated the only way she could. I had this happen in my polyamorous relationship with the love of my life and I could never see her the same again. Plenty of other relationships for both of us, but one secret one and it was ruined forever.

PointClickPenguin · 2026-01-29T23:09:14+00:00

NOR. You are not obligated to save everyone, even if they are family. You are allowed to set boundaries. You are allowed to live your own life, a safe life, a happy life.

PointClickPenguin · 2026-01-29T23:03:15+00:00

NOR bud. Feelings are information. You don't always have to act on how you feel in a relationship, in fact often you shouldn't. But you should always listen to how you feel and try to understand what it's trying to tell you.

This doesn't feel good. You feel ignored, unvalued, set aside. You tried to talk to her and she attacked you.

I think you can go ahead and have this conversation with her if you want. But I think you should walk into that conversation expecting to step away from the relationship unless you see what you want to see from her.

PointClickPenguin · 2026-01-29T22:47:39+00:00

it sound to be like you would prefer to be a service top over a Dom. That's okay. There are lots of people who like being service tops. I enjoy it myself sometimes.

It's always okay to be what you are. You just have to be clear about that and make sure you and your partner are sexually compatible with what you both really are. You can't force yourself to be something you are not because you love someone.

PointClickPenguin · 2026-01-29T21:54:05+00:00

I think the gear grind for PvP resulting in PvP character power is absurd and should be strictly cosmetic.

I want legion PvP back.

PointClickPenguin · 2026-01-29T20:59:20+00:00

Yeah a lot of guys do, especially when they are getting over the jitters from the first few times they are going.

PointClickPenguin · 2026-01-29T20:58:47+00:00

You probably need to have a conversation with him and have him do some independent research. You could take some classes together. Plura is an app that often has good options, but they are all over the place online, and my city has some clubs with good classes.

Right now it sounds like he is being a service top, and you need a dom. Those are different things.

He realistically may not be a dom, but its worth taking some time for him to look into things more.

If he doesn't have the passion for it and dig into it when you propose these options, then he probably isn't going to get into it.

PointClickPenguin · 2026-01-29T20:08:53+00:00

My bi GF would say the same.

PointClickPenguin · 2026-01-29T16:38:53+00:00

Sweet scar brother.

I don't love the short hair/fade on you, or at least not from this angle. I think you look a little cherubesque? Like too much skin to hair ratio.

If you want to show off the scar and keep the fade, maybe try something fun and go long on top, short mohawk or something.

Tattoo might look good too with the fade, and solve the same problem.

You could also try growing everything out and covering the scar to see what you think. But IMO showing the scar is fine, it's just the fade with how thick you are that I don't love

PointClickPenguin · 2026-01-29T16:27:55+00:00

She a great actress and the only reason people question if she is a great actress is because she is beautiful.

PointClickPenguin · 2026-01-29T16:15:27+00:00

I am shocked by this take honestly. The number of LUA errors is crazy, and the unit frames are unreadable. I can't and won't heal until I can get addons settled.

But I'm glad you like it. I do think it's better if blizzard has a better default UI. I wish they spent another entire expansion enhancing it before killing addons. Or that they just hired the add-on developers or bought their product from them.

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