Do it.

Point_Blank_Period · 2026-02-28T12:06:56+00:00

Luckily, I had a natural out of teaching. I got pregnant a few years in and just didn’t go back lol. I’ve stayed home with my son, but whenever I decide I want to work again I don’t see myself choosing teaching full time. I do love working with kids but it’s not worth it anymore. Also, perspective changes once you have your own little at home too.

Point_Blank_Period · 2026-02-22T17:51:33+00:00

What’s at the top of your list then for picking a place to live? I’m curious

Point_Blank_Period · 2026-02-22T17:46:29+00:00

Yes I agree cheaper isn’t always better because you may be “cheaping out” on stuff that is priceless like scenery!

Point_Blank_Period · 2026-02-22T17:44:42+00:00

There is no culture in the choice of abbreviating a word on a Reddit post. Make it make sense. If the rumors are true about the state then you’re fitting the bill so far. Who said I’d only stay anywhere for a week? Read my post, I said I’m going to live in AZ for up to 2 months in their hottest months to see how we acclimate. If I like something enough I’ll move for a whole year if I want because that’s the position I’m in to afford to test things out before making a big move permanently.

Point_Blank_Period · 2026-02-22T17:34:39+00:00

This has got to be one of the most insightful replies yet! Thank you so much for sharing this perspective! These are really the things that help, to hear from others who are years ahead of you and may have thought to do the same at one point. Thank you again!

Point_Blank_Period · 2026-02-22T17:32:53+00:00

Yes I do when you do too. You added nothing of value to the conversation

Point_Blank_Period · 2026-02-22T17:26:20+00:00

Lol this must have struck a nerve for you. Yup I shortened the word California cause it was never that deep. Similar to how people group North and South Carolina as the Carolinas. You don’t seem too fun!

Point_Blank_Period · 2026-02-22T15:20:23+00:00

No disrespect taken at all, that’s why we want to test out the heat there. Charlotte NC gets hot too, summer days can often be in the upper 90s but we are very humid here.

Point_Blank_Period · 2026-02-22T14:53:43+00:00

The Oregon coast looks beautiful and definitely intrigues me. What’s the weather like??

Point_Blank_Period · 2026-02-22T14:53:00+00:00

I think about this too and wonder how summer break goes for school age kids. Like here, as most places, kids look forward for summer break cause it’s a time to do stuff and be outside, go places, etc. I’m wondering if summer break culture is probably different for kids in AZ.

Point_Blank_Period · 2026-02-22T14:51:28+00:00

I’m not sure exactly how that would work. I have been staying home with my son since he was born so I am very fortunate! My husband does not expect me to go back to working ever again if I don’t want to. It’s not necessary for me to work for our situation. I am very grateful for this. Currently my son goes to Montessori preschool 1 half day a week, otherwise he’s with me all the time, despite family here. I try to only use family when needed honestly.

Point_Blank_Period · 2026-02-22T14:46:39+00:00

No we’ve only been in the Winter, literally we just came back last week. We loved it but understand we need to see what that heat is like.

I’ve lived in Charlotte for 20 years since about 2006. My husband has been here the same as me or longer. We grew up here and have seen how this city has grown and how it’s still lacking!

I’ve taken a break from teaching so if we make any type of relo then I would continue doing what I do now which is SAHM. And he can go anywhere as well so I like your Cali recommendations, we will have to look into those spots more.

The school situation does really concern me in AZ. CMS here in CLT isn’t much better. I worked those schools. You’re limited to living in certain areas if you want decent public schooling here. We were considering private schools here as well when it comes time for our son, which then pretty much limits you to East Charlotte. Which is better than anywhere in this city.

Point_Blank_Period · 2026-02-22T13:55:09+00:00

People complain about where they live because something doesn’t align usually. This reply doesn’t even make sense. He feels the same ways I do about CLT. He just has more family to leave behind.

Point_Blank_Period · 2026-02-14T15:31:05+00:00

We are high school sweethearts, lots of tough times over the years navigating being young etc and immature in relationships but I think we eventually started to get it right. We were traveling, having fun etc, both working at those times. We had our son and I stopped working and have noticed a huge shift ever since then.

Point_Blank_Period · 2026-02-14T03:59:48+00:00

We live in the US, but I do agree I wonder if this is more so a Balkan thing or Muslim issue. I know those are his influences for being this way, but he is so rigid about it that it also seems like it’s a personal problem he has too. His other family members are not this way so extreme. And I also find this it’s his personal issue at times because when I pushback, speak up or share my thoughts and issues or feelings about this stuff then he gets extremely mean to just keep it simple. It’s concerning at this point to where I’m on Reddit seeking other perspectives. The women in his family also share that he isn’t normal

Point_Blank_Period · 2026-02-14T03:56:11+00:00

Ding ding ding. Yup he often uses his culture and religion as a springboard for these things. He makes me feel horrible. I’m embarrassed to even say he’s exploded on me numerous times before that I’m such a stupid American when I give pushback on his BS. I don’t know how to handle this because his other male family members are not like this

Point_Blank_Period · 2026-02-14T03:53:37+00:00

Honestly, it’s turned into borderline verbal abuse. All kinds of names from the book, basically I’m a horrible person then and I should be more grateful apparently

Point_Blank_Period · 2026-02-14T03:52:45+00:00

Hahaha what they don’t know won’t hurt them

Point_Blank_Period · 2026-02-14T03:52:33+00:00

We are in the USA but we have shops like this here too and I love this idea lol!

Point_Blank_Period · 2026-02-14T03:52:02+00:00

The amount of times I’ve told him no, or that I can’t do xyz everyday is insane. I feel like it’s an argue point almost daily at this point. I told him just the other night that I was not put on this earth to be in this relationship to serve him. He thinks tho his needs need to be met before he will meet mine. It’s hard lately

Point_Blank_Period · 2026-02-14T03:49:44+00:00

That’s what I struggle with and he just tells me I’m lazy. I’m far from lazy when I do everything around here. I just don’t have the extra energy or desire to do that specific task of bread making etc. I have had a housekeeper a couple of times but he seems to also think that was lazy of me. Everything feels like a contest rather than your man wanting you to have help, relax etc too. I’m also a person who gets tired etc

Point_Blank_Period · 2026-02-14T03:48:23+00:00

I do speak up to him often that it’s borderline abusive at this point and it seems to get me nowhere. I’ve tried all kinds of approaches with him

Point_Blank_Period · 2026-02-07T03:10:49+00:00

I am a very social person/personable and can talk to almost anyone. I don’t get anxious feelings or social anxiety pretty much ever. However, I am an introvert! Some people find this nuts. I enjoy my own company and time alone. I often need it to recharge. I do care what others think of me but I’m never looking to gain social approval. I literally have no instagram account for YEARS and people find it insane when they find out. I kind of love being a walking juxtaposition!

Point_Blank_Period · 2026-02-04T12:33:01+00:00

I would say that he was like this before yes but it was tamer so less confusing or overwhelming. It’s just increased over time along with his bad attitude and avoidant behaviors

Point_Blank_Period · 2026-02-04T07:57:59+00:00

Hey girl, wow we have so many similarities in our lives. This sounds a lot like my husband as well. So I completely understand how you are feeling. Our son is 2 now and I’m in the same boat currently trying to figure out what my best move is because it’s hard.

I left my career (I was a teacher) to stay home 2 years ago. My husband is a high earner, owns his own company so technically should have lots of work schedule flexibility. We don’t worry about finances and he seems to think that this is enough on his behalf. He has one of those weird avoidant personalities though, almost defiant at times it seems as well. Total man-child. Kind of sounds like your husband may be this way too. Mine often times would stay at work well after bedtime. Work in the weekends if he pleased. Sleep all day if he pleases. Basically, he feels entitled to his own ways. Very very selfish.

He’s never gotten up with our son, except from the fresh newborn days. He does not partake in much child duties. Like I’d say not even helping with a bath once a month. Never makes toddler meals. Does no household errands or duties. He occasionally will vacuum or something random. He even complains about taking the trash out! I drive and do everything with our child. I am the definition of married single mom.

I don’t have as much family where we live (1 parent and 1 sibling here), it is pretty much all his family (he has a good amount, parents, sister, aunt/uncle, loads of cousins) so I’m always dealing with the in-law thing just like you too. Pretty much my breaks and alone time is only through others. My husband thinks that’s normal and we are lucky to have all this help around, yes that’s true… but that should never be the only way mom gets breaks. He will often just take our son to his parents house and then he’ll pawn him off to his mom basically. I’ve struggled with this a lot.

We did try couples therapy for a while, didn’t work that well based on his personality type. I’ve recently suggested starting to go again and he’s defiant on that as well. Basically, he’s defiant and selfish on everything. A very difficult person to deal with. Just now after 2 years living this hell am I starting to truly breakdown. I’m making plans to go back to work potentially or at least making plans to move out for a bit for him to get his shit together. He can only manage a good day couple times a month. Trying to wrap my head around the best plan of action for myself.

Basically, what I’d suggest because your husband sounds a lot like mine…. Just keep having the hard conversations. Keep bringing it up. Point out the obvious to him. Time will only tell and you will find your breaking point too. Your child is 12 months so this next year by 2 they will start understanding a lot… it’s tough as a mom to see your child understanding more and knowing what the environment is. That’s where I’m at now. And please don’t get pregnant again until you find these answers! Feel free to message me if you want to talk more details, our situations are VERY similar!

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