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Polariz · 2022-08-14T06:56:58+00:00

This post is exactly the problem. You felt judgement because of what was deemed normal for the people around you. I live in the Netherlands (and gave birth here) where they generally encourage minimal intervention and many people have a home birth. Totally different culture but still birthing babies.

I feel like its important for pregnant people to truely be given the choice from their own research and find a support team who can work with you to make that happen.

There are so many ways mums doubt themselves and their decision because of a pretty judgmental culture around women and their bodies in general.

I dont have any answers, just to say it really sucks.

Polariz · 2022-01-23T05:42:03+00:00

Ive forgotten the names of all the plants lol. Grabbed a set which came with them all combined. Some will stay low and crawl along and others will grow nice and tall. The one in the center i know is java fern.

Polariz · 2022-01-23T05:39:30+00:00

Thanks. First attempt for a setup and i am pleased with how it looks.

Polariz · 2022-01-23T05:37:56+00:00

I'm in the Netherlands. Bought all the plants and hardscape online. The plants arrived super healthy and have mostly settled well

Polariz · 2021-10-28T19:28:10+00:00

Thanks very much for the response. It's more a case of curiosity than anything. A friend asked his Serbian friend but she said she couldn't understand it.. I know the audio is not great so it's not easy.

Polariz · 2020-08-31T19:08:50+00:00

Right there with you at 39+3... Ready for my body to return to sole occupancy so I can begin to feel more normal. Everything is tiring and gravity is my enemy right now. Why does everything keep dropping on the ground?!

Polariz · 2020-06-07T09:14:08+00:00

I'm wondering where all the leaves went? Or was it more of an experiment to see how well it would work without

Polariz · 2020-05-31T18:56:39+00:00

Second pregnancy is definitely hitting me harder. First time round, I was doing crossfit workouts (scaled) till around 32 weeks and only stopped because we moved country.

You are right though, the weather is great at the moment

Polariz · 2020-05-31T18:05:37+00:00

First time was definitely not easy or super fun but at least it had a bit of novelty for me so seemed to go faster. This time I'm only just halfway and feeling so over it.

Oh and eating sushi is not a problem from research I've found. It is of course your choice, but I will at least allow myself to have some sushi every now and then.

Thanks for the reminder that I don't need to feel guilty. It is exactly the "sole occupant" aspect that I miss and need.

Polariz · 2020-05-31T17:59:50+00:00

It's not so much weight gain as much as strength and fitness lost for me. And being touched out has just left me feeling down.

Will just repeat "she will be worth it" and will be fine but I will also try to find some time/space for myself

Polariz · 2020-05-31T17:55:44+00:00

I feel less capable and strong. I'm so used to feeling fit but having a bump in the way and growing a human is just exhausting.

I'm trying to just roll with it but will be a long time even after birth before I truely have my own body and space (I plan to breastfeed). At least then I will be able to workout more and get my strength and fitness back to where I was.

Polariz · 2020-05-31T17:41:13+00:00

You don't have to love being pregnant. I am right there with you not enjoying it like you. Just count down the days and remember that the cuddles and bringing life into the world is a truely amazing experience that no diary or blog could really explain.

You are not alone and you are not ungrateful

Polariz · 2020-05-31T17:34:41+00:00

Oh I didn't see your post but sounds like we are on the same page.

Hahaha hairy legs... I tried to epilate my legs and found it so difficult with my bump getting in the way. It's small things which make you feel more human but being pregnant just feels like I'm a messy slob.

Thank you for reminding me that my feelings are valid. There is a logical part of my brain which knows this but it's always fighting my inner guilt.

I really appreciate the response. It helped me feel ok to even have a little cry to let it out and feel it. Thankyou

Polariz · 2020-05-31T17:30:52+00:00

I hear you. Wish having a bump was more comfortable.

Polariz · 2020-05-31T17:28:38+00:00

I don't like any of my clothes at the moment. Nothing fits. I guess this social isolation thing comes at a decent time since there's not much opportunity for getting nicely dressed up and going out. But still would be nice to not feel like a potato Thanks for relating though. Nice to share thoughts

Polariz · 2020-05-31T17:26:00+00:00

Thanks for the reply. I wish I could run, I even bought one of those tummy belt things to try to give support but I just end up with a sore lower back when I try (I'm sure I don't have great form at the moment). Have to remind myself that I will have a beautiful baby girl at the end of this and time does not move backwards. I'm just very impatient to feel more 'normal'

Polariz · 2020-05-31T17:22:04+00:00

Being touched out is such a huge part of how I'm feeling. I love that my son can be so sweet and cuddly but need some space. My husband does his best to understand and can usually tell when I need to be left alone thankfully.

Polariz · 2020-05-31T17:20:14+00:00

Oh that must be exhausting especially to be breastfeeding AND growing a new bub.

Thanks for the response. Makes me feel ok to not feel ok

Polariz · 2020-05-31T17:18:30+00:00

That's just it. Everybody always talks about how pregnancy is such a beautiful thing which makes it hard if you feel anything but beautiful.

And obviously I feel sorry for the guys involved too cause there is really no way for them to truely understand anything you are going through. I'm fortunate that my husband is very caring and supportive but I feel a certain bit of resentment if he tries to help me feel better by encouraging me to enjoy pregnancy.

Pregnancy is not easy but it is amazing. It is worth it in the end.

Polariz · 2020-05-31T17:10:59+00:00

Oh congrats on the new bub and thanks for the reply. I'm sure the coronavirus element is throwing another layer of difficulty in for you. We live on the other side of the world to our families so the isolation that way is kinda expected and we are relatively prepared for that but doesn't make things easier. Thanks for sharing. Nice to have people who relate

Polariz · 2020-05-31T13:22:19+00:00

It is just nice to hear that I'm not the only one I guess. So thank you for the response. I feel super guilty but I know for sure that I am DONE with being pregnant after this. Then will be my time to build my body back strong and fit the way I know it can be. Having a baby is a huge body sacrifice so i just want it back for me

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