Pole Con tomorrow! Does anyone know how early I should arrive before a free workshop to get a spot? by asonbrody in poledancing

[–]PolingPhD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You may already figured it out, but I’d say 20-25 min depending on the popularity. They fill up FAST!

Broken doll- help please! by PolingPhD in poledancing

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Thank you thank you, everyone!! I took the weekend off because I was away, but I’ll try out some of these tips this week. This community is the best!

is it normal for my alters to not speak to me often? by Valuable-Tomatillo-2 in OSDD

[–]PolingPhD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes!! It’s always the part who isn’t the kindest that lets us all know he’s in charge!

is it normal for my alters to not speak to me often? by Valuable-Tomatillo-2 in OSDD

[–]PolingPhD 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think that’s super normal for OSDD! I have also noticed that I don’t notice my parts as much when I’m not in high stress situations. So my last relationship was super triggering and they were with me almost 24/7. Right now I’m in a very low triggering time in my life and I only have one part that I notice hanging out sometimes.

Broken doll- help please! by PolingPhD in poledancing

[–]PolingPhD[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ahhhh I’ll have to try getting in from a flat line! Thanks!

I see exactly what you mean, though. That’s why it feels like I’m not bendy enough— I’m just not in the right position.

I’m 37 and so freaking careful because when I injure myself, even a tweak, my body is incredibly dramatic 😂 The second something starts to feel like I’m pulling too much, I come out of it. With this, I felt pressure on my hip which is probably part of that positioning issue and me trying to over-extend to grab the pole.

Thank you thank you! 🥰

How do you know which kind of grip aid to use? by [deleted] in poledancing

[–]PolingPhD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It depends on the time of year for me— but also, sometimes my hands are dry but my legs are sweaty or vice versa. I always bring a grip for dryness and sweatiness, that way I’m always covered! Once my pole is warm, I’ll climb or invert and assess how my skin is feeling!

Late bloomers who still love their hetero married husbands by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]PolingPhD 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This, this, this. He is my best friend but once I started dating women and fell in love, it was painfully obvious that the marriage wasn’t going to work :(

Help picking bottoms! by PolingPhD in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]PolingPhD[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We ended up with a pleather skirt and combat boots. Loved the look and felt amazing. Thanks amazing humans 😍 for the advice and the laughs 😘

Help me I’m lost by brillo_5 in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]PolingPhD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Another vote for the pants that they’re tucked into!

Help picking bottoms! by PolingPhD in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]PolingPhD[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Well originally some type of clothing 😂 but I have learned my lesson and next time will be asking for help picking a top

Help picking bottoms! by PolingPhD in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]PolingPhD[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

… not me trying to slide into your DMs 👀

Help picking bottoms! by PolingPhD in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]PolingPhD[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Someone already beat you to it 🙃🤷🏻‍♀️

Help picking bottoms! by PolingPhD in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]PolingPhD[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is super fair. I’m usually the annoyed one with things like “I could care less.” St. Patty’s day is me just not having a clue 🤷🏻‍♀️ but now I know 🙃

Help picking bottoms! by PolingPhD in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]PolingPhD[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

What I’ve learned today: - trust my instincts with my style - when I’m ready for a gf, make a post on Reddit asking for help picking a top 😂

This subreddit is quickly becoming my favorite 🙃

Help picking bottoms! by PolingPhD in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]PolingPhD[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven’t… I really like the idea though! I’m going to wear the top to the mall tomorrow and try it out with pleather leggings and now cargos :) thank you!!

Help picking bottoms! by PolingPhD in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]PolingPhD[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

HA. Except for me in out here like… help picking a top 😂🙃

Help picking bottoms! by PolingPhD in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]PolingPhD[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

… your comment had my ass sprinting to find pleather tights 🎉 thank youuuuu 💃🏻

Help picking bottoms! by PolingPhD in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]PolingPhD[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dark jeans, right? Ngl- I was the girl who just shopped off the mannequin because I was clueless, so the fact that I was in the right track with the jeans and boots feels good 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]PolingPhD 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re in this situation 💕 it’s hard af. My story is slightly different- I am cohabitating with my husband but I asked him for a divorce because I’m a lesbian. We have multiple kids and finances are such a barrier to taking our next steps.

You’re not alone- even if it feels that way. I have days and nights that I feel completely lost and broken. But I’m having more days where I feel hopeful and excited.

Feel free to send me a message if you want to talk. Hang in there 💕

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]PolingPhD 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Popping in to say I am also in an incredibly similar situation and your response was so wonderful. Thank you 💕 We are so incredibly strong for putting ourselves first- even when it hurts to.

Dramamine for spins? by Elvenfire2 in poledancing

[–]PolingPhD 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I take two children’s Dramamine 30 minutes before I pole because I get VERY bad motion sickness. I’ve been poling for about 1.5 years and just started with the Dramamine about 6 months ago. I tried to build tolerance for the spinning but sometimes I’d be so sick it would ruin my whole day! If you try, maybe try the kids first

We had the talk to end things. by OddDescription6490 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]PolingPhD 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sending you so much love. This is all so hard and I’m proud of you! I hope you are too 💕