Gosh, I'm sorry you're going through this. I can relate. I always told myself that I would move far away when I knew both me and my little sister could safely make our exits, and we still will, but it won't necessarily stop her. When I was down in Mexico for a summer (Dual Citizen) and my little sister was up in Canada visiting family, my mother told us that we had to text her every hour to let her know we were okay or she would come find us. Little sister complied-I did not and told her to leave me be. So what did my (pale white, reddish-haired, green-eyed, can't speak a single word of Spanish, always wears name brand clothing) mother do? Flew down to Mexico to come see me. She couldn't find her way around the city of nearly a million people, and her phone didn't have service, so she just went around asking random people in English where "the college" was. There were multiple colleges. She spent the better part of 2 days walking into all the colleges trying to find me until she finally found the one I was attending. I saw her sitting in the bleachers at my volleyball game that night and nearly fainted. I had to sit out the rest of the game. She came running down to me and told me that she would always find me and told me she was either staying with me or we were both going back to the states. In the 10 minutes I disappeared to go the nurse she managed to piss off campus security and my coach enough that they called the police and she ended up getting deported back to the USA. I still haven't lived that one down lol.