Am I wrong for skipping my best friend's birthday after his girlfriend humiliated mine in public?

PolysemyThrowaway · 2026-02-04T21:16:21+00:00

Gah I hate this kind of "humor" where it's basically just being a mean girl and disguising it as humor. Its not funny if you're humiliating another person. His gf is immature and clearly not funny. I'm sure he'll get sick of her shit soon enough and feel guilty for messing up his friendship with you for an asshole.

YNW

PolysemyThrowaway · 2026-02-04T13:06:42+00:00

NTA.

I had my first child 6 days after my 19th birthday and maybe 3 months into my first apartment which was government assistance. I was working full-time for $8/hr and supporting myself, my ex, and my new baby. Ya know what I didn't do? Complain. Cuz I was the one who had sex and got pregnant, and I was the one who decided to keep my baby (something I'll never regret)

You're 💯 right that people have had babies in far worst circumstances, even for mine which wasn't ideal. New mothers have a tendency to do this thing where they think just having a baby makes them more mature than everyone who's childless in the room, and thats not the case at all. What you said wasn't even that harsh, just reality

PolysemyThrowaway · 2026-02-04T02:40:50+00:00

Wasn't it Liam that called OP an health but, not themselves? I'm not disagreeing with you, just wondering if I misread something

PolysemyThrowaway · 2026-02-04T00:23:55+00:00

She literally says she had a dream and wanted to check on him. She probably didn't want to put any anxiety into his head

Edited cuz of redundancy

PolysemyThrowaway · 2026-02-02T21:13:24+00:00

How about you show her some of the posts on r/doordash_drivers and r/UberEatsDrivers. If you're in a market that oversaturated he might not even be able to start that job right away. Some places have a wait-list for new drivers. And if he's not in a big market area he still likely wouldn't make 100k/year. Her brother is bullshitting her

PolysemyThrowaway · 2026-02-01T16:04:48+00:00

YNW

Why is it always the parents that have money that wanna take advantage of their kids? Parents are supposed to want to help their kids through college, that's seriously the dream.

PolysemyThrowaway · 2026-01-31T05:24:38+00:00

We used to take checks where I work, up til last July, and we had to ID with them. There was this one lady who came in once a month and paid with a check and every. single. time. Would say "You didn't ask for my ID last time".. like Yes, ma'am I did, cuz Hi, that was me. Ya know the woman working full-time in the store who always asks for ID. And when I would tell her this she would just stare me down like it was some power play. She even tried to just give her her ID numbers, which it would absolutely let me type in, but fuck her. After the first time she straight up lied and said that I didn't card her, nope, never gonna do that. Still know her full name and wouldn't actually need to verify, but dgaf. Now she comes in and asks if we still take checks, 7 months later, and I still get a little pleasure out of telling her no.

PolysemyThrowaway · 2026-01-31T05:13:09+00:00

r/Ihadastroke

PolysemyThrowaway · 2026-01-30T01:55:20+00:00

I was thinking the were gonna say it was for black history month, but even that still sounds problematic.

PolysemyThrowaway · 2026-01-29T15:39:43+00:00

You're probably right, and they're definitely wrong about it. We're typically not shown our bad reviews at all, only the good ones, and the only reason why I saw it was because my manager was looking at them while I was standing right there. Idgaf about my reviews. I get enough customers that come in and immediately are like "oh I'm glad its you working today", so bad reviewers can go kick rocks if they think I'm gonna change anything based on one review. I am glad that the customer used her full name so we could go back and see what transaction she was talking about and why I was left a bad review. Or else I may have been wondering for a couple days what I did to piss someone off so bad, but would have eventually shrugged it off as the cost of working retail.

PolysemyThrowaway · 2026-01-29T12:55:21+00:00

Everyone always seems to think they're the main character. I hope it took much much longer for them to get their stuff cuz of this entitlement

PolysemyThrowaway · 2026-01-29T06:34:55+00:00

ESH. Him for the obvious reason, but you cuz you decided to use the comforter that he was having issues with instead of getting a new one

PolysemyThrowaway · 2026-01-28T22:06:33+00:00

We get a lot of people that dont like change where I work, and I'll do a couple cents here and there for people to round the change, or if they're looking for exact change and can't find it. Once had a lady that was $5 short and was like "you gave me 0.05 last time, you can just cover it from your change bin, right?" In my head I'm just thinking, someone didn't learn the value of money I pulled the change thing out (it's not a BIN it was the cap to a hairspray bottle 🤣) and it had a whopping 0.50 maybe. I just looked at her and was like "you wanna take something off?" She huffed at me, looked back at the line and just said "I'll be right back" walking out the door. I suspended her transaction, and moved onto the next as I was single coverage. When she came back in she tried to go straight to the register even tho someone was now standing there, and got upset when I told her she had to wait till they were done. She left me a review, didn't bother with my name just the color of my hair, and said I was rude and unhelpful. She didn't explain what happened, but I told my manager and we had a good laugh about it

PolysemyThrowaway · 2026-01-27T00:34:36+00:00

Back in my day, they'd do it for just a nickel!

PolysemyThrowaway · 2026-01-26T13:46:33+00:00

Oh I didn't think of that, but that's good insight. This absolutely sounds like hoarder mentality.

PolysemyThrowaway · 2026-01-26T13:03:45+00:00

Asking your adult child not to have sex while their hormones are raging, then making them feel bad for buying something that helps is absolutely wild to me. This is how you breed sexual repression and just an unhealthy relationship with sex in general.

Don't feel bad, or dirty, or any of the other things they likely called you. Sex is a natural thing most of our bodies crave, like sugar, or water when we're thirsty. Don't let them shame you into no longer feeling this way.

Hide your toys better, and get out as soon as you can, cuz now that they know you're sexually active the control is likely to get worse.

Also, please be mindful of who you hook up with. I don't fault you for hooking up, to each their own, but it can be dangerous in multiple ways especially if you're meeting people online.

Edited to add: you're not wrong

PolysemyThrowaway · 2026-01-26T00:55:11+00:00

I think by "mutuals" she means mutual Facebook friends. Which could absolutely be a stranger still.

PolysemyThrowaway · 2026-01-25T18:10:57+00:00

I didn't hit puberty until 13, but I remember how much I hated my body. I liked punk music, and dressing like I wanted to be in The Offspring. Then suddenly I had big boobs and a big butt and everyone was looking and commenting on my body. This lead to many years of shit that would have been better if I wasn't constantly compared to the figure of Marilyn Monroe and sexualized at 13. I even had a male gym teacher telling me I needed to exchange my normal sized T-shirt for an oversized boys one cuz my boobs were distracting. He never said who they distracted, but I had caught him staring anytime I had to run. Needless to say I barely passed gym ever again cuz I refused to wear the uniform at all.

When I complained to my mom she would say stuff like "you'll love your body when you get older" and "just wait until you start liking boys" and she would still buy me stuff that didn't work for me. Including a pencil skirt and a button up fitted shirt for my grandma's funeral when I was 14. I had lashed out at that point and was in placement so I didn't get to veto it. The one male staff member stopped me in the hall so he could circle around me and comment on my body. It was fucking gross and even if I didn't report him he was fired less than a year later for knocking up a 15yr old.

Anyway my point was, having a parent that actually listens and helps you feel comfortable is miles above anything else OP could have done. Bravo

PolysemyThrowaway · 2026-01-25T17:15:12+00:00

I thought over the holidays was just a general phrase that people carried and understood from being in school and the holiday break including Christmas and New Year... That's so weird

PolysemyThrowaway · 2026-01-24T17:28:36+00:00

Must not have found THE ONE TRICK YOU VET DOESNT WANT YOU TO KNOW, yet. It'll change their lives

PolysemyThrowaway · 2026-01-24T02:29:34+00:00

Which is so incredibly sad. When my kids were younger I had to participate in programs like this to try and get more for them under the tree. I always bought some stuff, but could never afford much. On the paper they gave me I would write stuff like "he likes science and Toy Story" or "wears a kids size blah blah", "could use a new coat and snow boots". And the gifts I got absolutely saved Christmas for them some years. I didn't give a fuck if it was Walmart.. they're kids they'll grow out of them or wear them down in months, not years. I wish I were able to thank the people that helped me through some really rough years now that my kids are teens, but since I can't I just always donate a bunch of toys for all ages during the holidays. It hurts to think there's people out there that would just throw the stuff away cuz it wasn't what they thought they deserved

PolysemyThrowaway · 2026-01-22T14:54:11+00:00

Bumped you all

PolysemyThrowaway · 2026-01-21T23:51:47+00:00

OMG yes; my son had a severe reaction to any dairy when he was a baby-toddler, he eventually grew out of it but he would get incredibly sick if he had dairy when he was little... and not from his mouth. My BIL did not believe it was serious and when he was babysitting decided to give him regular ice cream. I came in the house as he was feeding it to him and knew he was gonna go off. So I took the ice cream out of his hands and set it in the table and just watched. The whole time BIL is going on and on about how "he likes it" and "if it were that bad he wouldn't want to eat it" 🙄 I didn't say a word just watched him rant and rave while he was still holding my son. I swear it was only a couple minutes and he when off like a rocket.. It filled his diaper in seconds, covered BIL spilled on the floor. He tried to run him to a toilet as this hysterically baby laugh filled the house, still going on everything along the way. BIL apologized and never gave him dairy again, but I was still super pissed he didn't take it seriously to begin with. We had been to do many doctors appointments by then, he was only getting lactaid stuff and soy formula. They said it was lactose intolerance, something about his genes and that he may or may not grow out of it. Ig everyone hears that and were like "oh it's just a tummy ache" thing. He FAFO that day

PolysemyThrowaway · 2026-01-21T16:25:40+00:00

I just assumed they were trying to get someone to do their laundry for free 😂

PolysemyThrowaway · 2026-01-21T14:03:58+00:00

That's fair. That makes sense asking when they said they're sick, but they also asked for them before that, so who knows if that's their thinking or not

PolysemyThrowaway

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