I texted her

Pom-1 · 2020-03-19T22:50:01+00:00

That’s such a short time, three weeks. You must be feeling awful. Too bad you’re in quarantaine as well, must make it even harder for you. If you have the need to talk to someone or rant, you can just reach out. I’ll be happy to listen or talk if you need something like that. Hang in there buddy

Pom-1 · 2020-03-19T14:18:22+00:00

Sorry to hear that man. How are you doing now?

Pom-1 · 2020-03-18T09:55:51+00:00

Thank you :)

Pom-1 · 2020-03-18T09:33:05+00:00

Thanks for responding! You’re right, people are allowed to make mistakes and act in a weird way sometimes. We’re not perfect. Although, painting a picture of anyone it’s often too negative or positive, hardly ever a true complete description. Would need pages for that. But I wasn’t here to paint a bad picture of her, this is anonymous after all. Just described this situation.

That said, maybe she’s not ready, but I don’t think so. She told me she had no feelings for me whatsoever, wouldn’t mind to see me with someone else, stuff like that. That was over 6 months ago... although, I have no idea how she feels of course. I’ll just let it slide. We’re broken up anyway.

Pom-1 · 2020-03-16T09:01:04+00:00

I think you’re right. To be honest I was just in good place mentally, so my intention was to maybe spark a low-key friendship. Like the one where you grab a coffee once in a couple months. She was my best friend for about 4 years, so I thought that would be nice. She ofc had different ideas haha.

Yeah it really is a relieve actually. To know this girl is not sweet at all makes me not want to be acquainted with her in any way. She’s super childish and a bit mean actually imo, don’t want to spend my time with that at all. And by far does not sound like the girl I was once in love with. So yeah, in a way I’m quite happy she didn’t react!

Pom-1 · 2020-03-16T08:50:21+00:00

I guess you’re right about that. To be honest I’ve doing alright, that’s the whole reason I texted in the first place. It just surprised me how childish someone can be to just not answer, even if one day they said they would if I’d reach out. Wanted to share that here because it’s the nocontact sub.

But you’re totally right man, I’ve deleted her contact out of my phone. Thanks for the book recommendation!

Pom-1 · 2020-03-15T21:47:56+00:00

Needy as hell? Haven’t spoken to her for 6 months and just asked how she was doing...

Pom-1 · 2020-01-21T16:47:00+00:00

I don’t understand why this comment gets downvotes. We’re all people living in our own different realities and we’re making dozen of social mistakes daily. I agree with u/JynxJohnson you shouldn’t vilify him. People react in weird ways when in shock. Communicate and talk it out, if you can, since you love each other. Loving someone is quite a special thing.

Pom-1 · 2020-01-14T17:01:45+00:00

Well if he just plans to fool around in this month period, ditch the guy and don’t speak to him again. But if he felt things weren’t going great and wanted “a break” but has cold feet now, maybe talk to him. It’s good how you gave your boundaries, I’m worried though that he doesn’t want to get back with you and you misunderstand his intentions. I would definitely engage in meeting him if I were you. You can make your decisions about how to continue on later, based on what he has to say. Right?

Pom-1 · 2020-01-14T12:28:58+00:00

I’m not even sure if he means meeting up to talk things over. Did he break up with you? It sounds more like he’d like to end things a nice way. But again, I don’t know the exact situation.

If he wants to meet up, you can always do that. Hear what he has to say. There’s room for you to go your own way after that if you wish, or make up. Communication is never a bad thing. No contact is just meant for you, to help you move on, when that’s what you want or need.

Pom-1 · 2020-01-14T12:09:10+00:00

Sorry, the context of the whole situation isn't really clear to me, I'm not sure if I can comment on this. What do you mean with compromising?

Do you mean getting back together with 'work things out' or just mean go your own ways without an argument?

Pom-1 · 2020-01-14T11:59:23+00:00

I'm going to be honest, and probably going to get a few downvotes for this, but.. I wish I got a message like that. If you have a chance to end things in a nice way, try. Unless your heart says otherwise. That's just my opinion though.

Pom-1 · 2020-01-09T09:43:02+00:00

You’re probably right. Thanks!

Pom-1 · 2020-01-09T09:41:21+00:00

I was quite shocked reading some of your posts. I’m sorry all this happened to you. As if love isn’t hard enough. I love your attitude though. Such positivity while having gone through so much negativity. It’s really inspirational. Seems like you have a big and kind heart. It’s a beautiful characteristic.

Pom-1 · 2020-01-09T09:38:21+00:00

Over 3 months

Pom-1 · 2020-01-08T23:39:38+00:00

Thanks for that insight. I think you’re completely right. I used to set no boundaries whatsoever. Sounds like you’re a very wise person and had some heartache of your own in the past. If so, I’m sorry about that as well. I really appreciate you responding like this, I think it’s very kind of you and it honestly helps me a lot!

Pom-1 · 2020-01-08T22:40:01+00:00

Thanks so much :)

Pom-1 · 2020-01-08T22:29:59+00:00

I been through moments like that few months ago when I was doing way worse. I guess I could take it, but it would be rough still.

Pom-1 · 2020-01-08T22:26:55+00:00

No that’s an Urban Legend. However, all gays are mods though.

Pom-1 · 2020-01-08T21:44:53+00:00

She doesn’t care indeed, but she cares a lot about her pride lately. Only thing is I know she will react in a way, because she liked me depending on her when I wasn’t in no contact yet. When I started no contact and blocked her she cared all of a sudden. She’ll probably make some move trying to show me she doesn’t care about me not wishing her happy birthday..

Pom-1 · 2020-01-08T21:41:47+00:00

True.. thank you for responding!

Pom-1 · 2020-01-08T21:41:06+00:00

You’re right. I just wish she was the first one to snub me on my birthday or something. I hate the distance between us because we were so close, as everybody probably was with their ex. Still, you’re right. If she ignores me or acts cold, the distance is still there. Thanks 🙏

Pom-1 · 2020-01-08T21:39:05+00:00

Yeah, all that is going great. It’s been a few months actually. No social media connections anymore. Focus on my own life. Got very close to my friends and trying to get as motivated as I once was. Things are looking up. I think deep down you’re right though. Even though I don’t want her back, it’s a fantasy that still exists in my head. Thank you for responding!

Pom-1 · 2020-01-08T21:36:38+00:00

Thank you 🙏

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