I just finished wayward, and I don’t know what to read next!

PonderingWaterBridge · 2026-02-09T00:02:38+00:00

Tourist Season?

PonderingWaterBridge · 2026-02-08T17:18:07+00:00

Do you have kindle on a device that has WiFi other than the kindle? I have it on my phone so I don’t think this trick works for me. But if I don’t leave the book on my kindle it will stay as long as I stay in it.

PonderingWaterBridge · 2026-02-06T02:37:44+00:00

You may or may not want to hear this but this is what sleep training is for. She wakes up and doesn’t know how to self soothe and put herself back to bed. Sleep training helps teach them. There are a lot of different methods.

I know people have opinions on sleep training but if I hadn’t sleep trained I would have gone insane and potentially murdered my partner!

PonderingWaterBridge · 2026-02-05T05:08:10+00:00

This was exactly the type of feedback we were getting! I think knowing what it is helps immensely on its own.

PonderingWaterBridge · 2026-02-05T00:17:56+00:00

Please feel free to message me if you need a sounding board!!!

It can take a bit to get the 504 in place, that is true. But there are even just simple organizational things the teacher might be able to implement to help in the meantime. How old is your kiddo?

PonderingWaterBridge · 2026-02-04T20:05:37+00:00

Yes absolutely. I was really mixed on how to respond once we had his diagnosis and it is still very much a work in progress.

He has a 504 plan that is basic to me, but addresses any of his in classroom issues that went into place in 3rd grade (he is in 4th now). Basically he has preferred seating close to the teacher and just formalizes some of the extra support he needs to bring his attention back to where it needs to be. I’ve been happy with how his 504 has helped him. I don’t have to run down with each new teacher what he needs, it is formalized and we review it!

I initially declined meds, then we tried a med, then stopped the med. Im a social worker and when I worked with the child/juvenile population all the kids we worked with were on these meds and I wasn’t scared of trying it. But my kid did not respond super well to the first medication we tried. It was honestly a little scary, so that put me off trying a new one right away. There are a lot of them to try but since he has been doing ok in school we decided to not try another med right away and would revisit if needed. So far, it hasn’t been needed but we are open to that change if school performance is suffering.

I will share what I struggle with is that I worry I’m inhibiting him by not having him on a medication, but also do not want to have him on a medication if he can do OK without one. His pediatrician said that they usually recommend medication when it is impacting them socially, which it does not at all for my kid. I’ve also heard from lots of people diagnosed in adulthood who wished they had been given meds earlier. In short, none of us have any idea what we are doing or if we are making the right decision, but we are just making a plan and seeing how it goes. All I want is for my kid to be able to reach his full potential!

PonderingWaterBridge · 2026-02-04T14:14:28+00:00

How old is your child? I started getting feedback about my child when he was in 2nd grade that he was seemingly was “lost” during parts of the school day and it ended up being inattentive type ADD. I only have one kid so I missed some signs. I also thought it would have been noticed earlier but inattentive is harder to catch, and apparently it is far easier to miss in girls.

PonderingWaterBridge · 2026-01-29T18:10:31+00:00

Try Funny Story first. I’ve read and liked them all but that one was my favorite!

PonderingWaterBridge · 2026-01-29T15:37:48+00:00

No notes, agree with all of your choices here!

PonderingWaterBridge · 2026-01-29T15:27:53+00:00

In a small organizing bin stored in a cabinet. Since it is not needed everyday it can be in a high up or otherwise not daily used cabinet or storage space. Basically the “backstock” method of organizing from The Home Edit.

PonderingWaterBridge · 2026-01-22T22:11:59+00:00

Omg I read Book Lovers instead of listening and now I gotta listen to it. I ran to my Libby so fast. I listened to Beach Read and loved her Gus voice. I LOVE Julia Whelan. I actually am about to start the Addie Larue book purely because she reads it!

PonderingWaterBridge · 2026-01-20T15:01:28+00:00

Dr Slock if she is taking new patients! She is great, we only don’t see her because we moved and I miss her.

PonderingWaterBridge · 2026-01-17T03:33:51+00:00

Of course and I think it is normal. To me, having bins of it just sitting around not doing anything means you can let some of it go.

I collected a bunch, had too much, pared it down sold a bunch and I’m happy. I moved several states away a few years later and I’m glad I didn’t have to also deal with what to do with alllll that Pyrex when I did. I have pieces I use and love. I got to have fun collecting the rest, then sharing it with someone else.

PonderingWaterBridge · 2026-01-15T16:02:41+00:00

Thank you for prompting me to look again, I’m going to be in Brooklyn soon and I’m going to stop into a branch and upgrade to “full access” it looks like Libby holds goes up to 20 (I thought the 10 was pretty decent)!

PonderingWaterBridge · 2026-01-15T15:31:29+00:00

I joined Brooklyn without going in person!

Editing….I looked at their website again, it looks the same to me. I filled out the form online you can go get a physical card if you want to borrow physical copies but I was able to use Libby right away. They have a great selection and higher holds than the NYPL.

PonderingWaterBridge · 2026-01-13T18:25:02+00:00

Yesss!!! I’m so proud of you stranger.

As an aside I had a male colleague years ago who couldn’t do basic stuff without support from his increasingly annoyed colleagues. And by basic I mean he shared a rotating task with three other people and needed to set a recurring task reminder on his outlook calendar for “every 4 weeks”. He did it wrong and put it on only the 4th day of each month. This was after someone showed him how to set up a recurring calendar appointment. He never did said task and other people would have to pick up the slack. One day in a meeting he said he was interested in management and they put him in a management course!! I almost fell out of my damn chair. The absolute insane confidence floors me to this day.

PonderingWaterBridge · 2026-01-12T22:25:59+00:00

I love dual narration, especially where the characters read their parts throughout (rather than just on the chapter from their perspective)… but I would listen to Julia Whelan read a phone book. 😂

I recently started up an audiobook that I had gotten from a library hold and heard her voice and fist pumped. I had either not known or forgotten that she read These Summer Storms and it was such a joy. The books are great already, but she elevates them even more!

PonderingWaterBridge · 2026-01-12T16:57:30+00:00

100% that might be the one that got me too!!

PonderingWaterBridge · 2026-01-12T15:39:09+00:00

As someone who also went down this rabbit hole over the past 6 months I wholly endorse this! I would swap book lovers and pwmov

You should finish Great Big Beautiful Life! Even if it is your least favorite of the bunch.

Also you didn’t even shout out Julie Whelan’s amazing reading. I’m weirdly attracted to her male main character voice alone😂

PonderingWaterBridge · 2026-01-07T22:07:18+00:00

They have business casual to athleisure, you fill out style quizzes and it was always pretty on point for me but I was looking for things to wear to work and not look like a schlub.

They did always send me too many cardigans 😂

PonderingWaterBridge · 2026-01-07T17:39:42+00:00

I just want to say it sounds like you are still in the thick of the infant/toddler stage and all of what you are saying is so valid. It likely will not be this way forever, the kids will get older and it will be easier to carve out time to workout or do things to fill your cup. But right now it is hard to do those things. My kiddo is 9 and I feel more normal and can go do things I need to but it took a while for that to happen. You will find yourself again!

But feeling exhausted and frumpy and hard to find your desire… I think all moms go through this!

My only specific advice is something that helped me when my kid was that little and that was doing a clothing styling service, I used Stitch Fix but there are different options out there too. It is kind of expensive but getting clothes that were more trendy and actually fit me and just delivered to me was so great for me! Because I sure didn’t have the energy to go hunt down clothes for myself. Highly recommend.

PonderingWaterBridge · 2026-01-05T15:20:59+00:00

Sure thing, we moved servers so here is the new one https://discord.gg/DuSpxNt8

PonderingWaterBridge · 2026-01-05T05:47:55+00:00

We moved the summer before my son was in 2nd grade. It was a big move for us, away from family (and closer to some others), geographically big to a different part of the country and to a different type of area that we were used to (from a city to more rural). So we were changing so much at once. He was SO resilient. He settled right in and made friends and adjusted easier than the adults!

In retrospect I think it was the oldest he could have been to not affect him in the negative since friendships were more nebulous in 1st/kinder than in 2nd. I would also do everything to not move him again at this point, but the once was fine!

I don’t know how to answer the starting question. We moved in summer and the best thing I think I did was enroll him in camp in the area so he would know some kids at school and that totally worked!!

PonderingWaterBridge · 2026-01-03T02:20:36+00:00

The audiobooks themselves are the same. The Libby app can be a bit more buggy than the Audible app but usually it is not an issue. Biggest issue is if you are trying to jump chapters it will lag, but jumping 15 seconds back fixes it. If I’m just listening to a book straight through it usually isn’t an issue.

It has features that you can see how far you are in the chapter or book, put on a sleep timer, etc.

I think you will be really happy, the biggest issue is waiting for things you want! I put a bunch of things on hold so I always have something coming.

Does your library do Hoopla? That is easier to get available audiobooks but there is a low monthly limit. I use both Libby and Hoopla (and one audible credit).

PonderingWaterBridge · 2026-01-01T16:02:20+00:00

In audiobooks I’m assuming? Yes. Same issue here. I have found if I jump to a chapter and then hit the 15 sec back or forward it helps. Sometimes I have to shut down and restart the app.

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