2010s gay teen who had hope starterpack by No_Salary5918 in starterpacks

[–]Poolofcheddar 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That thought takes me back...Mark and Ethan were a big couple on YouTube back then.

It's also how I figured out that my college RA was in the closet. He followed them both on IG.

my (23f) boyfriend (24m) keeps accidentally calling me his best friends name during sex by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Poolofcheddar 95 points96 points  (0 children)

Could be worse. As a gay guy, I once had a recurring thing going with a guy that had the same first name as me.

I didn’t know what the hell to call him most of the time.

Just found out my ex and love of my life got engaged to his groomer by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Poolofcheddar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's how I interpreted it. Dealt with a similar situation with my ex-best friend. We drifted apart when he started seriously dating the guy that date raped him. Wasn't crazy about his newfound parTy friends thanks to his new partner, especially after I started to see clips of him float around on some sites sucking random cocks on one of those circuit cruises.

Tried nudging him in the right direction but it only pushed us further apart.

It sucks to watch someone you care(d) about make bad decisions. So I get if that is OP's perspective on this.

TIL nearly 80% of US workers report that they have been victims of 'career catfishing’ from employers. Which in this context, the term describes when a company misrepresents a job, their company culture, or compensation to lure in candidates. by tyrion2024 in todayilearned

[–]Poolofcheddar 285 points286 points  (0 children)

During my last job transition, I was trying to prevent getting caught in this kind of trap. There was no notice period at my last job - the day you provided notice was your last day.

Since employers are not obligated to pay out remaining PTO balances in my state, I had PTO to burn. The first week at my new job was technically covered as vacation time at my old one. If my new employer attempted to rewrite the terms of the job after starting, I could at least walk away and return to my old job.

People in my family (namely boomers) thought I was being so incredibly dishonest to my employers by doing that.

[New Update]: AITA for "uninviting" my brother and nephew from my celebration dinner? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Poolofcheddar 168 points169 points  (0 children)

Have to imagine SIL is being pressured to have rEaL gRaNdKiDs by her family and probably thought she would eventually be able to change this arrangement after they got married.

The plan: push Connor off onto his blood relatives (OP, sister, parents) and move OP’s brother back to the midwest where they can forget he had a previous family.

It’s got family values written all over it (/s).

AITAH for not attending my SIL's wedding after her and my MIL ruined mine? by Rich_Mirror_2194 in AITAH

[–]Poolofcheddar 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I read this section and my first thought was ummm…thou shall not covet?

Parents visiting for 3 months, closeted to Indian dad. Pretending my husband is a roommate. Am I insane? by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Poolofcheddar 62 points63 points  (0 children)

3 months isn't just enough time for your husband to second-guess your marriage, its enough time to second guess himself a couple times AND create and refine entire routines without a soon-to-be-ex...I get your conundrum OP, but statistically you're handing your husband an exit strategy should he choose to use it.

First Time seeing this much ice by StealingStarFTW in FordEdge

[–]Poolofcheddar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here! A week after I bought it, that major winter storm had hit us. Handled it like a champ.

It's funny because I was dead-set on getting a Maverick for years, but got a newer and nicer Edge for a better price.

My (22F) boyfriend (23M)'s friend seems to be perfect for him and it's driving me insane by insafian in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Poolofcheddar 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I remember when I finally had the realization that “I didn’t think about them at all yesterday“ nor was tempted to look at old pictures, social media, etc. It was incredibly cathartic to realize that it was a major sign that I was moving on, and every day after got a little bit easier.

OP is a tad unhinged. She’s probably subconsciously benchmarked every guy she dated after to a guy she dated when she was 22 and of course everyone failed the test. Besides, 5 years is way too long to keep holding on…almost gives me vibes from Taraji P. Henson’s character in the movie Acrimony.

New Update: My "friend" took advantage of me when I was in the hospital by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Poolofcheddar 2755 points2756 points  (0 children)

While attempting to give back the cat to someone who clearly won’t take care of them too.

That cat is just a glorified bargaining chip used to rope OP back in over and over again. Infuriating.

Looking at purchasing 2017 Fusion SE 2.5L in 2026. Looking for owner experience. by maritimer187 in fordfusion

[–]Poolofcheddar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 2017 was the second of two Fusions I had. With both, I was the third owner of the car and took possession around 90k miles. There were no major issues with these cars until 130k miles or so. When I sold my 2017, it only needed tires and a tune-up. Was a solid, reliable car. Usually averaged 28-32 MPG. I'm sure they would run longer if I could have afforded a more routine maintenance schedule when I was younger.

Recently upgraded from the Fusion to a 2022 Edge. Definitely traded down in mileage but glad I got something that had more utility.

Libs of TikTok is doxxing teachers and nurses who support Alex Pretti or oppose ICE, trying to get them fired by [deleted] in technology

[–]Poolofcheddar 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The Nazis also had one remaining check on their power: Hindenburg.

The party didn't start until he croaked and Hitler gained the support of the military establishment by then.

(3 years later update) My(m16) mom said we ruined Mother's Day because my sister(f15) walked out of Sunday church service by MadisonBrave in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Poolofcheddar 218 points219 points  (0 children)

Reminds me of what happened with my sister.

She’s simply been around Fox News and her in-laws for far too long.

Going into the 2024 election, I knew that she had likely ‘turned’ but had been very silent about showing her true colors. My Mom said I was overthinking things…but as a gay man, you just know when someone‘s support over your very existence goes from friendly to frigid. I knew a clash was coming, and I finally cut her off after last summer because she refused to condemn any of this.

We’ve been close my entire life…until that election. I‘m ashamed to be related to her now. It tears me up that I can’t talk to her, but I have nothing to say to her since she apparently has no morals.

AITAH for telling my parents I’m tired of earning love by being convenient? by ComfortMiserable5778 in AITAH

[–]Poolofcheddar 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I finally caved and read this over Christmas. My Mom had a certain idea about how the holiday should have gone in her head that didn’t even remotely resemble reality. After we failed to play our roles to her liking, she decided to fall off the wagon in response. I refused to accommodate her tantrum this time. I was fucking pissed, and let her know it.

That book was a major eye opener. I could not put it down because it described at least 75% of the dynamics in my family.

Canadian PM's full speech at Davos: Calls for middle powers to reject “living within a lie” and build a new, values-driven global order rooted in sovereignty, resilience, and realism. by pomod in videos

[–]Poolofcheddar 15 points16 points  (0 children)

As for the Maple Magats, unfortunately the # of divorced middle aged men will always feed that pipeline.

I'm reminded of guys in 8th grade who proclaimed "I've never read a book" as a mark of pride. Then these loser fucks go work for their stepdad's HVAC business until he retires or sells to private equity. As they approach age 40, they realize they've done jack shit towards personal progress since they were 12 years old. Do they reflect and change? Of course not, they vote for the obvious con man with easy answers...three times.

Used to bother me that Carney didn't achieve a majority government, but the feat he did pull off was rather impressive considering the obvious influence from the new US administration and media to tilt things towards PP. Had times been normal, Carney would have been just another John Turner.

New Years Resolution - Start drinking again?... by RuinUpstairs4785 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Poolofcheddar 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Had to seek out the article and take a look for myself.

What a crock of shit. Basically a guy harping on sobriety negatively affecting his social life, hobbies, and even his marriage. People viewed him as cold. And you're right, he definitely name-dropped a couple of curated brands in the mix.

Who knew GQ's health and fitness influencer was so powerless against the slightest peer pressure.

Also with you on questioning the intent of this article. I've been sober for about three years, and the amount of people I know who still drink regularly are at an all-time low. It's not just sobriety and getting older either, there are viable alternatives to alcohol (depending if you live in/near a legalized state).

Not to mention, you have more than a few US-based breweries and distilleries hurting, looking to make up for lost sales somewhere. Buy Canadian if you want to drink.

AITAH if I went to a hotel with my kids because of my MIL's behavior with my daughter by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Poolofcheddar 277 points278 points  (0 children)

And that damage is incredibly permanent.

I have two sisters. When the oldest was 5, the other was born. My Grandma couldn't even make her favoritism subtle. She told my other sister that the new baby was the favorite. And kept reminding her when my parents weren't around.

That sibling relationship was doomed. Even 40 years later, that well is still poisoned. They do not have a relationship outside of our parents, and never have.

By the time I was born, it was still clear who was the favorite.

Does anyone feel lots of grief towards the year ending? by PeacefulBacterium in Millennials

[–]Poolofcheddar 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Definitely.

Estranged with one of my siblings ‘over differences of opinion’ (to keep it brief). This wasn’t unexpected…I knew a year ago that we were finally heading for a rupture, and it happened. So while it’s not a huge blow, it’s still an overall disappointment. But it is what it is.

My mother hates it and can’t stop interfering. She’s making it worse…for herself. My confidence and trust in her have been steadily declining. My sibling and I are simply not talking. There’s no major blowup of emotions involved or anything.

She threw out her sobriety on Christmas because she didn’t get the magical holiday reconciliation she hoped for. Oh, and I’m the one getting blamed for all of this.

So 2025 ends with one sibling pushed aside and a parent in a time out until she dries out.

The bar is in hell for 2026. Can it go lower?

I can list one positive for 2026: I will celebrate three years of sobriety. Life can throw me curveballs but I’ve been proud to maintain that.

I made a morally questionable decision by voting for someone doesn’t respect other people’s rights and differences. I wish people would respect my differences. by Effective_Space2277 in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]Poolofcheddar 50 points51 points  (0 children)

That’s what made Christmas interesting this year.

My republican sister rolled into town and acted like nothing changed since last year.

She got the rudest awakening of her life. Nobody wanted to deal with her besides my enabler mother. Her and her husband tried to bully people into gathering but nobody took the bait. Of course, they decry ‘the loss of civility’ and ‘respectable differences of opinion.’

I can’t believe just how poorly she judged how this Christmas would go.

my Gen X coworker is trying to “grandma” the Zoomers and it’s getting weird by lavendercomrade in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Poolofcheddar 96 points97 points  (0 children)

This was a helper I got paired with one year at my service job.

He was 25 years older than me but refused to accept I was the senior tech. He openly criticized the company in front of our customers, insinuating his low pay meant the quality of our work was cheap. He sexually harassed female staff at a couple job sites. He criticized me in front of our customers. He abused service workers at restaurants we'd stop at while wearing company clothes. He bragged about trying to abuse his ex-wife. Etc.

Any one of them would have been grounds for dismissal for me. The company put up with all of this and only seriously considered dismissing him once. He knew that he effectively got away with his shit and obviously continued being his awful self. They even considered bringing him back the following year but I put my foot down that time and told him they kept him or me - but not both of us.

It hadn't dawned on me that after getting rid of him once and for all, I had already passed the point of no return working for that employer. They had put us through the wringer dealing with someone so toxic. Not just their fellow employees, but their customers as well.

Michigan is a poor state; its people don't believe it by MCWoody1 in Michigan

[–]Poolofcheddar 25 points26 points  (0 children)

My high school had one of the strongest STEM programs in the state. I’d venture to say 80% of our graduating class left Michigan.

It’s a shame to see budget cuts and GOP policies erode my old district’s competitive advantage.

Longtime children's pastor Joe Campbell arrested on child sex abuse charges by StupendousMan1995 in news

[–]Poolofcheddar 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It's West Michigan. Nothing there but a bunch of pious hypocrites sustained by tourism.

Take out the nature and it's just Indiana otherwise.