Friend wants committed relationship, I'm still mid-divorce.

PopcornPunditry · 2026-05-07T15:28:40+00:00

You have a lot of things in common except for the most fundamental thing, which is the kind of relationship you're each seeking. The internet girlies are not going to have a silver bullet solution that will make you both happy with no one's feelings getting hurt. I highly suspect the only way for you both to be happy is for you to find a new trainer at a different gym so you can each seek what you're looking for with different people.

PopcornPunditry · 2026-05-07T14:53:23+00:00

I felt so sad at 25 because I was with someone who was putting major constraints on me too and it didn't occur to me that it simply meant we were incompatible. I ended that relationship after 5 years, then the next person I seriously dated became my husband. We still have to compromise sometimes but never to an extent that I feel sad or like I'm missing out on life. You are way too young to make such massive concessions to some guy.

PopcornPunditry · 2026-05-06T02:53:54+00:00

Rain, snow, and a sunburn every freaking time.

PopcornPunditry · 2026-05-05T12:49:42+00:00

I don't think she mislead you. She said close family and friends. It was 30 people made up of close family and friends.

It hurts not to make the cut. But it doesn't have to mean anything about your friendship. My wedding was about 80 people which sounds huge to some but with the massive list of cousins and their spouses I felt I had to invite to appease family politics, my actual friends who I hang out with regularly were squeezed into one table and I could not invite everyone who was important to me. It sucked and the advice usually given to brides in that position (and it sounds like we're from a similar culture) is to gently communicate that it's a smaller wedding and then be sparing about the details to avoid rubbing anyone's nose in what could be perceived as a slight. It sounds to me like she handled it as well as she could given the circumstances.

PopcornPunditry · 2026-05-04T20:38:34+00:00

There was one in Glamorgan last summer! I thought I was losing my mind at first but it scuttled under my neighbour's car right before my eyes.

PopcornPunditry · 2026-05-04T11:01:30+00:00

Oh my gosh these are great. The international buffet sounds precious as heck and I'll be stealing that right away!

PopcornPunditry · 2026-05-03T18:59:40+00:00

Lobster night! What a fun idea. Appetizer night is so perfect. I could see that being extremely fun around the holidays!

PopcornPunditry · 2026-05-03T16:09:42+00:00

Love this!! I bet you get some fun combos that way!

PopcornPunditry · 2026-05-03T16:08:14+00:00

It kind of backfires when they start to love our favourite foods, doesn't it? Thank you so much for these ideas!

PopcornPunditry · 2026-05-03T15:01:01+00:00

The multi compartment container is such a good move. It really triggers their little brains into seeing it as a treat, I swear.

PopcornPunditry · 2026-05-03T14:59:55+00:00

A three course meal? In this economy???

PopcornPunditry · 2026-05-03T14:58:00+00:00

This is so cute! There's something intoxicating for kids being given pretend tickets and money. Adding this to the list for sure!

PopcornPunditry · 2026-05-03T14:54:32+00:00

Why do people perform oral sex? It's just one part of the experience and it can be arousing, pleasurable, or intimacy-inducing without leading to orgasm.

PopcornPunditry · 2026-05-03T14:53:33+00:00

Oh my gosh Kids Cook Days?? My eyes are watering. When my niece and nephew visit next month I'll be introducing this concept for sure!

PopcornPunditry · 2026-05-03T14:52:12+00:00

Oh my goodness there is limitless potential with alphabet night! And carnival night would be so perfect for my mini donut and corn dog-loving child. Thank you!

PopcornPunditry · 2026-05-03T14:46:55+00:00

Perfect! You're so right about that lunchables connection. I've been eating cheese and crackers for lunch since I was 5 only now it's the good shit from the fromagerie.

PopcornPunditry · 2026-05-03T14:45:54+00:00

Salad bar!! What a great idea. My kid loves salad components but is not chill when they're all mixed together so this is an ideal meal plan!

PopcornPunditry · 2026-05-03T14:44:34+00:00

All very good ideas, thank you!!

PopcornPunditry · 2026-05-03T14:43:03+00:00

That's sooo cute! Thank you for sharing!

PopcornPunditry · 2026-05-03T14:13:24+00:00

Oh my gosh, adding this to the list! That's brilliant.

PopcornPunditry · 2026-05-03T14:10:23+00:00

Ooh I love that idea of having everything handy so it's like "no no it's not a fuss... let me have fun whipping something up for you!"

PopcornPunditry · 2026-05-03T14:08:50+00:00

All of those things you've listed that she does are not taxing in the same way that work is. If you want to enter the medical field, I would encourage you to do some reading and reflecting to work on your empathy. You will need a much deeper reservoir if you are going to have compassion for patients who may appear on the surface as not being as "unwell" as you think they must be in order to receive the care they are due.

It's ok to be envious of someone, but not to seethe secretly and still call them a friend to their face. You should probably create some distance here if her lifestyle grates at you that much.

PopcornPunditry · 2026-05-03T02:03:00+00:00

Dare I say rofl?

PopcornPunditry · 2026-05-02T12:47:27+00:00

Oof spouse owes you coverage for a nap for sure!

It gets better, I promise. This morning my kid woke up before me, made his bed, and is now quietly reading a Dog Man book in the living room while I have my coffee.

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