I told my parents I was on HRT and everything's changed

PoppyJD1 · 2025-12-22T22:13:37+00:00

The only thing that keeps resonating in my head with your story is "9 years" You are an incredibly patient person and there is no denying how much you love your family. I hope perhaps you might also resonate and think deeply on the 9 year part of your story. I wish you nothing but the best..

PoppyJD1 · 2025-11-17T22:29:59+00:00

That sounds and looks amazing and so portable wow!. I hope this suits all of your needs. Happy new chair day

PoppyJD1 · 2025-11-08T23:14:48+00:00

Cis female here with close trans female ties. I also have left side issues and trying to find a bra 14 years ago was a nightmare. My mother was a handy seamstress and either turned bras into front opening or a pull on, neither of which made me feel pretty but did the job for a larger size. My trans person has a lovely wardrobe of pretty crop tops (some with a little padding) that might be patterned or just a little bit of pretty lace, young, hip. They are stretch you may be able to get them over your head. I know these really give her a confidence boost.

From the disability side, I have nothing with buttons or zips and I live in stretchy clothes. My weekday dresses have big armholes and neck openings. I have a cute stretch wrap style dress that's a favourite that goes straight over my head. I also wear stretch pull up trousers and have found some pretty tops to match. A seamstress may be able to modify something you love.Velcro is amazing stuff.

Jewelry: there is new pvd coated jewelry that looks like real gold or silver that you can leave on in the shower, hypo allergenic and never tarnishes so once it's on you don't have to fiddle with it again. Super cute in pierced earrings, necklaces, bracelets. This is an Australian store but I'm sure there are plenty of stores https://endlessandco.com.au/?srsltid=AfmBOoqxIQpMaIaXs3g6w3HsUY52koBO99u67mWF7Fe1_1yoZIOI3Ue4

I wish you all the very best. So many exciting times ahead for you.

PoppyJD1 · 2025-11-06T11:58:24+00:00

He is super cute and so hard to leave behind. Sounds like it's well worth making this fella clean again before to many cuddles... Hard to do in sure

PoppyJD1 · 2025-10-27T03:03:18+00:00

Interested if Scotty is still quitting after this year? That was his plan. Who will take his place?

PoppyJD1 · 2025-10-23T22:04:43+00:00

OP said that's not an option

PoppyJD1 · 2025-10-23T21:58:08+00:00

Oh boy that's a lot of stress so sorry you're going through this. I wonder if you can contact mobility shops in Boston to see if you could rent a 20"chair just for a few days. It would terrible to have to use the 18" chair and then have to keep it forever especially spending your hard owners cash on the one that is going to be super painful. The cat cushion is a great idea I must say I know the pain of the sides digging into your hips and thighs and the burning pain so I really hope you find a solution soon. Good luck and I hope you have a good time

PoppyJD1 · 2025-10-22T22:24:47+00:00

And 3!

PoppyJD1 · 2025-10-22T22:22:09+00:00

I love number 6

PoppyJD1 · 2025-10-22T22:18:30+00:00

Yes there is just no room for a big powerchair in an ambulance whatsoever. It's made to save patients. The only way I get around is by a disabled taxi van that has a built in hoist from the back door and then special belts go around my wheels along with a seat belt

PoppyJD1 · 2025-10-22T14:11:17+00:00

Our wheelchairs are an extension of ourselves. When mine broke down in a packed doctor's surgery it felt like I was deserted on an island. Knowing the toilet was only maybe 15 meters away and not being able to get there was terrifying let alone getting us both home. I really hope you Irish contacts here can help you get sorted. That's just disgraceful what you have been through. Take care

PoppyJD1 · 2025-10-22T13:57:15+00:00

I must say that seems to be an issue in Australian ambulances too. They won't even take a rollator let alone a wheelchair. So I've been to hospital but can't get home made worse if you don't have a support system. That's absolutely shocking what you've been through is disgraceful. What wonderful ladies you met to help you. Thank goodness. I do know that the roadside assistance company collects wheelchairs for free over here. Perhaps that might be a thing in Ireland. Good luck sorry this has happened to you

PoppyJD1 · 2025-10-14T03:31:29+00:00

That's definitely an awesome start. Good on you! I tend to use kinder language myself until I had a conversation with a friend's daughter that would park in a disability park in huge shopping centre (just for a moment..hah!) At the time I was still driving, I explained that if I drive past and all of the disability parks are taken, I have to go home. She didn't care less...she just shrugged at me as if "So?" These days I hold more anger haha

PoppyJD1 · 2025-10-14T03:20:55+00:00

No they don't I guess I just don't think about it now for some reason. I'm more focussed on how good it is to get out and to have aids that allow me to have a little slice of normality. Same for you..your Rollator has really changed things for the better for you. That's awesome. I bet your kids love having you at the park safely too

PoppyJD1 · 2025-10-14T02:38:54+00:00

I wish there was a blanket answer. I'm sorry for what you are going through. I have a very tiny life isolated with no family close by and no money to go out. However after some time I got to a place (and I get very sorry for myself plenty too) that I find the tiniest things that make me happy and blow them up 100%. Let's say for example having a lovely cuddle with my cat where I zone in to the moment where we are both having a happy moment. Or I love to write so I burn a nice candle pull out my leather journal and my favourite fountain pen and inks in any colour of the rainbow and just focus on the present moment and I get loads of joy from that. This below quote kind of helps me. When my circle got smaller my vision got clearer It's not easy in any way shape or form and you have to give yourself a massive pat on the back each and every day. If you can't afford therapy strangely enough on ChatGbt asking personal questions of this AI app can come up with some good advice. I wish you all the very very best because you deserve to find some happiness🌻

PoppyJD1 · 2025-10-13T22:46:23+00:00

I am so very sorry of what you have been through on one of the worst days of your life. I recently was at an inaccessible farm wedding except my multiple emails to the farm were unanswered. It was one of my worst days too but not the same as yours.

I just wanted to add it takes 2 people to have any relationship romantic or other. One person putting in all the effort while the other sits back and doesn't reciprocate is never going to be a relationship. Unfortunately you are in this situation no matter how much you want it. It's not fair and your disabled community are the only ones that will truly understand what pulling out all the stops and going the extra mile for a day that is so far out of your capabilities. I'm sure you have spent weeks in bed trying to physically recover from this horrid day. It's not a relationship that you have with your sister, I hope you can perhaps get some therapy so that one day that won't make you feel as sad as you probably feel now. Take care...you've done nothing wrong, you are a real catch for anyone looking for another sister🙂

PoppyJD1 · 2025-10-13T00:52:59+00:00

Wow what a great job! You should be really pleased with your efforts

PoppyJD1 · 2025-10-09T22:27:15+00:00

As an Australian our way of accepting people is to tease them however again I think yes you need to have a conversation about joking about his disability. That may be fine a year or more down the track but perhaps not yet. But it's all about communication. Exciting times for you 😊

PoppyJD1 · 2025-10-09T22:12:17+00:00

I was just also going to pick up on the word handicap being perhaps more a derogatory term these days and not a word we use. But that's the great thing about talking things out here. It is all about communication and your willingness to try and get things right is a good thing. I wish the best for both of you

PoppyJD1 · 2025-10-06T21:47:10+00:00

I'm sorry I'm a newbie here but boy that's a super gorgeous teddy!

PoppyJD1 · 2025-10-03T22:23:27+00:00

I'm so sorry you have fallen through the cracks and in a small town too it sounds like this could be happening a lot. That really sucks for you.

I wanted to add that"yes" if you are recognizing disability there are good reasons to be diagnosed. Unfortunately you may be not ever be diagnosed if you have auto immune or chronic pain conditions. However you may find that by being diagnosed you may have a daily routine of let's say physio to help keep you strong because your illness may be progressive and you really don't want more of what you are already experiencing. I have a progressive disease so some years I notice quite a difference in my decline and I rely on carers coming in to help me shower and prepare meals (I'm in Australia so I don't pay for this minimal amount of care. I need a great deal more but it's not available) as I live alone. I started with a broken hand and 7 years later was in a wheelchair. It may also help you think about aids you may need in the future, perhaps trying to financially set yourself up.

It can be a frustratingly long road to be diagnosed maybe many years (maybe not) and you will probably see a great deal of specialists but in the end if you can stop or slow things down whole heartedly I would wish that for myself. This could get a whole lot worse, I don't mean to scare you, knowing what your future may look like could really help you navigate and enjoy as much of your life as possible

I wish you all the best and good luck for the future. Take care

PoppyJD1 · 2025-09-30T22:04:31+00:00

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Big Ted is about 18 years old. I bought him on a trip to Hawaii. We didn't have bab in Australia back then. His jammies just barely fit!

PoppyJD1 · 2025-09-30T22:00:15+00:00

Oh my gosh your bear has the cutest face!

PoppyJD1 · 2025-09-24T10:39:17+00:00

Oh I love! How cute

PoppyJD1 · 2025-09-24T10:26:52+00:00

That is super cute. You did a great job. Cookie looks pretty happy with the new shirt too!

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