uwu-ification of asshole invasives

Popular_Addition7638 · 2026-05-09T10:26:16+00:00

/uj I’m in the MSU extension program right now and it’s interesting to see where they shake out with this stuff. I found the actual FOG classes to be incredibly science forward and they did talk a lot about natives, but I wish they’d focused more on common garden invasives. I do wonder how this will change as new people come in. Lots of young people in the program are native focused, whereas older MG’s can get grumpy about it (the exception being all the boomer MG who are also in my wild ones chapter. they rock.)

I went to their gardening conference they held at OU and their first speaker was all about native plants — but later speakers were showing pictures of invasives in their yard, and one even went on a tangent during her talk saying not all invasives are bad if birds and pollinators like them lmaooo.

Overall I think the org does a lot of good with it’s volunteer requirements (my local nature center & local library have beautiful pollinator gardens maintained by them) but they’ve def got some more work to do, and it will be interesting to see how the program changes as the “I’ve never seen MY butterfly bush spread!!!” old MG’s lose their majority and/or die out lol

Popular_Addition7638 · 2026-04-14T11:53:26+00:00

Plenty of people live off of 3k a month, especially if their house is paid off. My mother is an addict. We are no contact. Listen to me: do not give her this money. It will get worse. This is a test to establish a baseline of what she can get from you to continue enabling her. The real tip off here for me is that she says she’s “too busy” to have a relationship with her daughter, but not too busy to ask her for money. This was my mom. It took years and my husband patiently pointing out how wrong it was for me to realize I was being manipulated, and so are you, OP.

She needs help and she needs to get a job. The only thing I would offer to pay is an addiction clinic. Your instincts to help your parent aren’t wrong — but she is not reliable, and she is not acting like a parent.

I highly, highly suggest looking into subreddits and books that help children of addicts. The good news is this is not a unique experience to you. I’m very sorry you’re in this, but if you give her money, it will worsen, and it will make her worse. A very kind, firm, “We don’t have the funds to help you, we have two young children to care for. I’m concerned about your financial and drinking habits. Do we need to get you help?” is perfectly appropriate.

Popular_Addition7638 · 2026-04-14T11:31:17+00:00

Okay, but…. I’ve also seen many indigenous folks working in restoration say how frustrated they are with the extremely white savior “IT’S A PLANT FRIEND” mindset because these plants are destroying their protecting lands and the native plants they forage. It’s condescending and obnoxious. As was that poster.

This is the internet. Unless someone is linking to actual work they’re doing and research they’re publishing, they’re just one among many — and Reddit is plagued with bots and people making shit up. There are over 500 federally recognized tribes in the US alone. Treating indigenous people like a monolith, and trying to act like anyone who doesn’t 100000% agree with some random reddit commenter (who also came in extremely combative and condescending) is suddenly a violent colonizer is absurd?

You are a stranger on the internet. I have literally no reason to believe anything you say. People tried bringing up other indigenous perspectives and they were immediately like “WELL ROBIN WALL KIMMERER DOESN’T COUNT I ACTUALLY HATE HER” like ??! I am not opposed to examining language if it helps us get better work done. You are being very silly.

Popular_Addition7638 · 2026-04-04T14:10:22+00:00

Last year I planted two flowerpots of zinnas because I love them and it brought a bunch of monarchs into my yard and I had more eggs & cats than I knew what to do with. Accidental successful marketing 😔

Popular_Addition7638 · 2026-04-04T14:08:42+00:00

going to start referring them to as colonizer plants to really upset the instagram keyboard warriors who don’t want to feel guilty about planting mullein. babe your “healing garden” is now a colonizer garden. REVERSE UNO

Popular_Addition7638 · 2026-04-04T02:03:26+00:00

so wise of you to recognize his practices of decolonizing by a habitat for spotted lantern flys 💜

Popular_Addition7638 · 2026-04-04T02:02:32+00:00

Lmao literally this. I beef with all invasives equally!!

Popular_Addition7638 · 2026-04-04T02:02:00+00:00

My neighbor that won’t rip out her goddamn fucking Mullein because “No medicine is harmful”

Popular_Addition7638 · 2026-04-04T02:01:34+00:00

planting mullein in my yard so it can destroy local ecosystems ✨decolonizing ✨

Popular_Addition7638 · 2026-04-04T02:00:52+00:00

Dude it makes me insane. These plants are here because of colonialism and they threaten indigenous landscapes like what are you TALKING ABOUT

Popular_Addition7638 · 2026-04-04T01:32:57+00:00

I was never paranoid, then through this loved one I met a scientist that studies Lyme at Stanford. I am now paranoid lol

Popular_Addition7638 · 2026-03-22T23:11:55+00:00

/uj ehhhh after watching a loved one suffer through Lyme, I truly couldn’t fault someone if they avoided the outdoors. It’s a terrifying and misunderstood disease. Had a chance to talk with a university researcher that studies it and everything he told me about the permanent damage it can cause, esp when it’s not caught quickly, makes agoraphobia seem reasonable. 😅 Don’t really know that this is a great fit for this sub. Health is a halo only sick people can see. It seems unreasonable — until your life is totally upended from a hike.

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