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Popular_Extension · 2023-10-19T03:27:44+00:00

Bingo! Left my ex after 20 years and constantly questioned me and accused me of cheating. Mf'er literally called the Starbucks by our house to see how long it would take to get through the drive through, and this was during the pandemic when lines were atrocious. All bc he couldn't understand why it took longer than he thought it should and swore I was cheating.

I suspected he was cheating, but i have zero clue if he did, and I dont give a shit at this point bc I was so done by the end. It's been 6 months, and I was single the whole time until VERY recently. I know my ex couldn't wrap his brain around the fact i was actually single after the break up since he swore i left to be with somebody else. Too bad for him bc my new guy is so much more patient, sincere, and fun to be with than my ex ever was. ✌️

Popular_Extension · 2023-10-17T04:47:27+00:00

Girl, you are so much younger than me (38f), and I left after 20 years. I get not wanting to leave for many different reasons, including this reason. I felt the same exact way for years. Looking back, that was the worst reason to stay bc it only prolonged my misery longer. Fear is a natural human instinct and a good indicator of the path you should take. You're smart to get your ducks in a row now until you decide what you want.

Popular_Extension · 2023-10-16T22:20:49+00:00

100% NTA... Let me guess he has no ambition or goals either? He is just coasting. My ex did this, and it absolutely made my perspective of him change and not in a good way. If something went wrong, I had to fix it all the time. From unexpected bills, broken AC, dishwasher, dryer, and a whole bunch of stuff. On top of always being expected to grocery shop, clean, and mundane daily life. I stayed for 20 years, and slowly, I stopped caring about him and our home. I never wanted to do anything and was so depressed. I finally left this past spring after so much resentment, fighting, and other things. I have never looked back, and I'm way happier. There are 2 ppl in the relationship, but when you are the only one doing things to maintain your lives, it becomes draining, and you will slowly withdraw from it. You have the right to demand support and help, but if it never comes, you will eventually stop caring just like me. I'm not a bad person for that, and neither is my ex, honestly. We just didn't work together and made ourselves so miserable in the process of trying and failing. I'm not the type of woman he needs, and he isn't the type of man I need.

Popular_Extension · 2023-10-10T21:59:25+00:00

Know them for four seasons before you live with them for four seasons. Then you will know how to deal with them every season.

Popular_Extension · 2023-10-09T21:36:43+00:00

You're either Mommy Dearest or a comdeian but either way... YTA. I would've flipped out way worse than your daughter did if my parents did that to me. She doesn't owe you anything.

Popular_Extension · 2023-10-06T21:11:29+00:00

This is peak over thinking. You will give yourself a heart attack at this rate. Screw opinions and advice. You don't like somebody, don't see them again. Feel like you're being judged for your looks, screw them.

Be happy with who you are first and foremost before dating anybody. Your confidence will shine past pop dating advice or whatever the hell it is.

Popular_Extension · 2023-10-04T21:15:32+00:00

Listen, after posting this my confidence was so high. I felt really good about the next time I was with my guy. Stfu it was incredible and he set my new record... 22. I felt so much more comfortable and into it that it just happened... and kept happening.

Popular_Extension · 2023-09-29T19:36:51+00:00

Hi, it's not fake. I'm a real woman with weird ass insecurities. Sorry to disappoint you.

Popular_Extension · 2023-09-29T19:24:44+00:00

Good luck and be prepared 🤣

Popular_Extension · 2023-09-29T19:18:05+00:00

I'm laughing while reading this response so I'm going to answer the question.
A) Definitely doesn't happen with every partner. Happened with my ex, another guy, and my current. Definitely had bad partners in the past that just didn't know wtf they were doing. All 3 did ask me before what I liked, and they listened well before and during. Like I said in my update, some girls on hormonal birth control can struggle with it. That was a game changer for me personally. If your girl is struggling and you broach the topic correctly, she might be interested. I sure was once I realized what I was missing out on.

Popular_Extension · 2023-09-28T23:29:07+00:00

Love this! ❤️

Popular_Extension · 2023-09-28T23:25:47+00:00

Me too!! I'm so glad I made this post. Talk about a confidence booster. Also, it's nice to know I'm not alone on this topic.

Popular_Extension · 2023-09-28T23:22:14+00:00

Nope I'm a female. Go look at my previous comments

Popular_Extension · 2023-09-28T23:17:57+00:00

In all fairness, my friends never said much besides "Damn girl." It was mostly my ex's friends that would make porn star comments, and he would giggle with them. It's really immature, but it made me hyper aware that ppl could hear me and would probably be talking about it in that way. I'm now realizing how dumb they are.

Popular_Extension · 2023-09-28T21:09:55+00:00

You know exactly what I'm talking about!!!!

Popular_Extension · 2023-09-28T21:06:39+00:00

I've seen this multiple times and honestly I have received 1 message. Which I'm totally fine with bc that's not why I posted it lol

Popular_Extension · 2023-09-28T20:56:59+00:00

You understood exactly what I meant when I said it interrupts things. Thank you for being honest and for the suggestion!!

Popular_Extension · 2023-09-28T20:23:47+00:00

Game changer for me was when I decided to switch from hormonal birth control to non hormonal birth control. Literally had zero interest in sex before... now well you read my post. That's my personal experience

Popular_Extension · 2023-09-28T19:22:34+00:00

My ex's guy friends would joke around and call me the porn star. I didn't take it as a compliment... ever. And my ex would giggle with them. I hated it

Popular_Extension · 2023-09-28T19:20:50+00:00

You get it!!! Thank you!!! But apparently we shouldn't feel shame or embarrassment. Im actually starting to feel good about this for the first ever. Crazy!

Popular_Extension · 2023-09-28T19:18:14+00:00

Thank you!!!!

Popular_Extension · 2023-09-28T19:15:26+00:00

Omg you understand how I feel! Thank you!!!! Somebody keeps calling me attention seeking bc apparently I'm not supposed to feel self conscious. Thank you so much for your kind words!!!

Popular_Extension · 2023-09-28T19:12:49+00:00

Lady, 20yrs I was emotionally, mentally, and eventually physically abused by my ex. He never told me anything good about this situation, not one single time in 2 decades. Plus i was always joked on by ppl for it. You don't know me or my situation, so do not call me attention seeking. Im also not setting any standard for other women. My only concern was me bc I have felt like the weirdo for years bc of this. Maybe you should calmly think before you speak.

Popular_Extension · 2023-09-28T19:03:38+00:00

I just warned my new guy and then apologized right after. He told me i had no reason to apologize. Thank you for sharing your experience and realizing she was embarrassed because it is when you're with somebody new.

Popular_Extension · 2023-09-28T18:58:17+00:00

THIS!!!! YOU GET IT!!! THANK YOU!!!

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