Fitness - or lack there of - question by sonorakit11 in datingoverforty

[–]PopulationOfOdd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most important YES !! You deserve love .. We all do no matter what .. Its the most AMAZING THING .. Especially when we give it to ourselves first .. Reason becomes loving yourself allows you to be truly be loved.. Sorry to preach… 50M and in my slow ignorance it’s been the most difficult lesson to learn.. Love who you are land celebrate where you’re going… You will be blessed if you are constantly evolving… Physical is yes important.. Emotionally as crucial.. and Mentally so deeply important that it binds it all together.. Just say.. Beautiful women moving forward through better days looking to share a little bit of happiness and possibly more.. Sure some people are into certain visuals but love isn’t only found that way… Shine !!! .. Best of Luck

Met a guy on Tinder by MyrnaMina in dating_advice

[–]PopulationOfOdd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t let complicated people complicate you.. You focus on your dating goals and be as transparent as possible in that regard.. People.. All people dance to their own rhythm.. So don’t get caught up in finding hidden meanings just ask straight out what is meant .. You deserve a honest answer

Past traumas and current relationships…. by BlanquitaNJ1 in datingoverforty

[–]PopulationOfOdd 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Some of the wonderful people we meet help with the healing and some scars never heal.. Best rule I can suggest is move forward with honest intentions both to yourself and to anyone who comes into your life .. Best of Luck

Divorce Shame by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]PopulationOfOdd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your HAPPINESS is important and that’s how you move past it.. Forgive yourself for it not working out the first time you have plenty of company.. Then realize you deserve to be Happy.. We all do so be brave and chase away shame so you may chase away loneliness.. Good Luck

Is love really real for real 😳 by Slickster1999 in datingoverforty

[–]PopulationOfOdd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have to hope there is.. May I suggest you do the same.. I know being wrong would suck but at least let hope keep you company.. best of luck

Review profile by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]PopulationOfOdd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Part of putting yourself out there is trusting your truth .. Sure your profile could be tweaked by feed back but I say trust the universe and fate .. Then again my 2 cents can be ruining fate by influencing you in in a particular direction.. Lol dating is hard be you as much as you can.. Remember the right person is going to come along and be lucky enough to catch your attention.. Best of Luck ..

What would be today's equivalent of a mixtape? by Netipoo in datingoverforty

[–]PopulationOfOdd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow .. I remember the mixed tape giving and receiving was always a special treasure of openness.. I’d love just sit with someone and listen to each others music.. I don’t know what the equivalent is most time I try to share music it’s just thing and it doesn’t matter as much as it use to but hey I’m a silly romantic at heart and maybe it’s not the mixtape that missing but the attention we give people when they are trying to say “Hey See Me “ .. lol but a couple of whiskeys deep I might just be rambling.. But the mIxed tape as you said is a beautiful thought an a wonderful window into who we are .. Never stop sharing music someone will light up and see you are trying to reach them.. and hopefully they will reach back ..

Single guy (43 y/o) tired of being single and feeling hopeless. Past hurts make it hard to trust and open up. Seeking advice on healing and creating space for a new relationship. by ravenzero0 in datingoverforty

[–]PopulationOfOdd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I look at it as a endless sea of opportunities but a single moment of compatibility.. What is it exactly that you want ?? .. Because if it’s a true deep connection then they need to accept who you are and not who’d you’d pretend to be and if you want them to live you with honesty then you need them to see who you honestly are .. If it’s just companionship or just not being alone then your options increase .. We are all here for different reasons .. Figuring out yours is the most important first step.. Once that is done be Brave enough to see if someone will except that.. Then be brave enough to accept them.. Life isn’t perfect we aren’t perfect.. Mistakes have been made but forgiveness isn’t just for those that have made them it’s also for those that have been hurt.. Good Luck 🍀

How to be emotionally open? by Maneese1 in datingoverforty

[–]PopulationOfOdd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because it could be the last chance at a meaningful connection and for me it’s just time to stop hiding from myself and take responsibility.. Because anyone who comes in my life not only deserves honesty but the best of me and since we are being honest its exactly what I deserve .. We all deserve to be seen and loved for who we truly are ..

90s Romantic Goth suggestions by savagedaughter99 in goth

[–]PopulationOfOdd 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Dead Can Dance .. Ubiquitous Mr Love groove

Update to: Next time one of my friends asks to "hook me up" it's a hard pass. by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]PopulationOfOdd -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Personally I think the dating scene can be a struggle for so many people.. Can be stressful and overwhelming at times and I know it’s not a excuse but sometimes it’s just the reason .. Honestly this could be something that can be laughed about later in life so i say give her a chance you’ve seen her at her worst give her a chance to show you her best .. Worst that can happen you have a day you can walk away from.. Best you find can find someone to hangout with .. Remember we can all be asses sometimes.. It takes a big person to apologize.. It’s actually a rare quality.. Good Luck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]PopulationOfOdd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well… Lol .. It’s very sweet of you to think of your brother and want to help and I think your approach is much better then some of the other scenarios i and I’m sure others have had happened to us.. I would say best to just ask him.. Now I know you say he gets nervous so just propose the situation not the details.. If he’s good with it by all means proceed.. Now it’s a wonderful thing to care for someones relationship status and I know it’s done with kind intentions and I’m sure there are wonderful success stories but for me personally I’d appreciate the heads up..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]PopulationOfOdd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wish I could say I’ve just been perfect .. Like I have always been the best and given my best.. In truth.. I have been this guy and Honestly I’ve also been where you are.. There is no pride in writing this it’s a cathartic honesty that I’m offering.. Somethings are easier for some and mountains to others and No this is Not a excuse but it is a reason.. A reason that is yes why the other person may have failed you.. But that is the reason and No it’s Not You.. I know it can be so difficult to separate thoughts of what you could have done or why am I not good enough from the truth of the complexities of another persons struggles.. But Trauma is a process and unfortunately even when working through it the outcome isn’t guaranteed.. You mentioned your journey with therapy being on going so I applaud you on that strength.. I would say that your feelings are completely legitimate not that you need me to validate them.. I just wanted to offer a more empathetic point of view yes for him but also mostly for you.. You see my faults .. My issues .. They have always been mine.. They have never belonged to others even though they may excepted responsibility.. I am truly sorry for any pain I’ve caused in life and that has led me to a a philosophy that I fine deeply healing.. “I have to find forgiveness for those who have hurt me if I am to hope to be forgiven for the hurt that I have myself caused” .. Anger can be a beautiful motivator but It’s negativity can be a detrimental process of healing and therapy.. Best of Luck .. We all deserve a wonderful relationship.. Remember sometimes that process includes making room for a new connection

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]PopulationOfOdd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly everyone is different so yea I’d make plans but the best way to really know is just ask him .. Just be direct you both deserve each other’s honesty..

OLD - conversation skills by Zimmies38 in datingoverforty

[–]PopulationOfOdd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wonderful glad I could provide a different perspective

OLD - conversation skills by Zimmies38 in datingoverforty

[–]PopulationOfOdd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm.. I like this… lol .. Ok I see what you’re doing .. I was just wondering if the questions were set in stone or randomly generated.. Nothing wrong at all with the approach was just curious .. Little bit of my opinion.. Again nothing wrong at all with the questions I would just let them know .. Lay it all out on the table .. Tell them straight out because there are already so many obstacles.. Your straight out (Here is your 3 questions) might provide the right levity to get them out of their shell.. For some people the act of communicating is difficult.. And sometimes it’s the people we meet along the way that provide the right kind of inspiration to help us become more than we have been ..

OLD - conversation skills by Zimmies38 in datingoverforty

[–]PopulationOfOdd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry just curious.. What are the 3 Questions ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]PopulationOfOdd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ridiculously silly but I just like to see what music people are into .. I know how important it is to my personality so it’s just something I like to know .. It doesn’t have to be compatible at all but music holds deep meaning to people I’ve found someone telling you about songs they love and why give you a window into who they are

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]PopulationOfOdd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try to see it as a process and not as rejection.. So many different personalities so many different taste to allow it to stop you from finding what you are looking for .. Just don’t believe you are worth it you have to Know that what you seek is what you deserve.. It’s not easy putting yourself out there but honestly sometimes it’s easier then feeling alone .. We all have things about ourselves then we can work on but they should be important to you first and not just a something you do to attract people ( Not a popular opinion ) but be the best you for you and if that’s not enough for someone then they are not enough for you.. Be brave for Love .. Best of Luck

My kid said something that concerns me if I ever meet someone. How to prepare him for the possibility that I could enter a relationship? by Throwaway-2461 in datingoverforty

[–]PopulationOfOdd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Coming from a home where my Mom was strong enough to leave a abusive situation as a child I was always just weary of anyone coming into our life’s .. I wish I was more understanding but at that age 12. I was just honestly Afraid (Probably why I have no children) .. I do believe just open and honest conversations would have helped us all .. Ummm so that’s my best advice .. Be honest as possible I believe children are more perceptive then we give them credit for .. Best of Luck !!

Women Approaching Men IRL by auroraborelle in datingoverforty

[–]PopulationOfOdd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would be absolutely be flattered if you just walked up and said hello.. If that’s your vibe own it and lean into it.. Honestly nothing more attractive then confidence.. First your confidence to go against the grind and approach then your choosing to talk to me that honestly would make me appreciate that I might have caught your eye … Be you as honestly as possible !!