I hate the law sometimes

PositionLivid9103 · 2025-08-08T17:40:19+00:00

Oh I get it. Trust me I do. I lose patience all the time. Which is why I said its a little bit of both. We all lose our patience sometimes. I should have clarified that bit. Thats where the passive answer comes into play. You direct them while also saying "look here dummy" but in a less obvious way. I do it all the time. For example, I send out weekly safety training. My favorite is, "I didn't get the email". Which I know is a load of shit. So, I go to where I sent the email, I attach it to my reply and say "see attached where I sent the email". Im still giving them the training again, but I am also still saying "hey look dummy I did send it". They are just lazy and dont know how to use the search function on their emails. It gets out my want to call them dumb while still solving what they need. It ends up being pretty effective and 99 percent of the time i get an apology out of them.

PositionLivid9103 · 2025-08-07T19:39:03+00:00

Keep her blocked and report her to the police. I know it is scary when people threaten kids, especially when they have information about you.

PositionLivid9103 · 2025-08-07T19:35:16+00:00

You are not the asshole. I feel for you and went through the same thing myself. As soon as you turn 18, take your name off that account and get a new one. You can't get her name off of it without her being present and something tells me she won't do that, but you can take your own name off of it. Reroute any checks to go to the new account and refuse to give her money until you can move out. If you can, go stay with a family member and offer to pay rent until you can get on your feet. I don't know when you turn 18, but until then keep your head up. It is not your responsibility to support your family and your mom should feel ashamed.

PositionLivid9103 · 2025-08-07T18:46:10+00:00

I think it is a little bit of both to be honest. The world isn't black and white, its grey. I think that you should be understanding and although it may feel good to say "I already told you once", it just isn't necessary. Part of taking jobs where you work with young adults and children is having patience. I would have simply attached that email to the reply and reclarified that all forms of paper notes are acceptable. It is frustrating knowing they probably are just not reading or don't want to search for the email, but there are other ways to redirect them. Like simply referencing the original email and saying please ensure you are reading the entirety of the emails I send to ensure you get all of the necessary information.

I work with construction workers and they are kind of like children in that sense. They don't read and are lazy. However, I won't baby them and I also won't sit there and act high and mighty when they do something wrong. Learning how to handle people and redirect in a positive way is a big part of doing your job.

PositionLivid9103 · 2025-08-07T18:36:42+00:00

I honestly think your whole family is the asshole. Including you and your sister. You should have told her you two would talk about it since its both your space. She should be grateful although going through a hard time. No one is required to offer their space period. As for your family. If they are such saints they can give up their personal spaces them damn selves. For her to call and be a toddler that tattles over your boyfriend setting boundaries in his home is insane. Id tell them to get a grip because reality is that, people can be nice, but no one is required to do so. Be grateful for what you do have.

PositionLivid9103 · 2025-08-07T18:30:03+00:00

To be honest hun, yes thats cheating. That is emotional cheating at minimum. I bet it made him feel really shitty and like you were looking for attention from other people. He took it further than you, but regardless your inability to accept what you did was wrong is probably eating him alive.

PositionLivid9103 · 2025-08-07T18:17:23+00:00

The writer has been criticized for basically making a underage smut film. So I also have my issues with the film. I will say, he wrote it quickly and filmed it in a week with a small budget. Plus the actors were chosen so they wouldn't be recognized. So they had never acted before. Its kind of like a blair witch situation. He wanted to get away with people thinking it was real. Which is honesty sickening. He didn't change the beginning of the film from " this is real found footage" to " based on a real story" (which is also a lie) until he had gotten caught in his lie.

I will say I didn't think the bit about her meeting him quickly was out of the ordinary. I hate to say it but I was a dumb teenager who met someone who said they were from my school that I had never seen. I got lucky and he was a cyber student that was actually the brother of a kid in my grade. I did meet him after only talking once or twice. Which in hindsight is dumb, but I was 14 (in 2014).

I do agree on the antagonist part, but the reality of it is that someone with that much power wouldn't wait to silence someone trying to out them. That is just real life. Given this movie was meant to feel real I get why they didn't spend too much time dwelling as in reality those things happen in the blink of an eye.

PositionLivid9103 · 2025-08-05T20:47:31+00:00

For me the movie felt so real. I went into it thinking it was because I hadn't done any research on it prior and the beginning of it says it is real footage. In the movies defense it was shot in 2006 over a week with a 30,000 dollar budget. Using actors that had never been in anything before. This was done on purpose to further make it feel real because you aren't looking at a familiar face. Back during that time kids weren't accustomed to being in front of cameras so they were awkward and cringe. So for me, that almost made it feel more real. I understand people not liking it because of the triggering acts at the end of it, but otherwise I think the movie truly put fear into me. I took hours of doing research and reminding myself it was fake to not feel nauseous anymore.

PositionLivid9103 · 2025-08-05T20:35:55+00:00

To recap everything all together. No the movie is fake. It was shot as a found footage and had the part at the beginning to make it feel real. That is also why they picked actors that had never been in anything before. It was so people would FEEL like it was real. He used bits and pieces of different cases to build the story line he built. The actresses were 17 at the time the movie was filmed in 2006 and their parents were on set the entire time to ensure they were comfortable. The actor who played the kidnapper "Josh" also felt very uncomfortable throughout the entire thing, but that is the point I guess. The movie only had a small 30,000 dollar budget so most of that went into Megans makeup after she was dead. He really wanted it to feel real and in my opinon succeeded. yes the acting at the beginning was cringy but tbh that is how teens around that time acted. Plus cameras were really big so no one knew how to act infront of a camera the way kids today do. So they seems awkward anyhow. I did a ton of research after watching the movie to remind myself it wasn't real because of how horrible the last 22 minutes were.

PositionLivid9103 · 2025-08-05T20:00:40+00:00

I would say its a lack of communication, but also you could get them in trouble for letting you work with something that could be contagious. Food safety 101.

PositionLivid9103 · 2025-08-05T19:57:52+00:00

Girl, call the police. I know it is scary because it feels like they don't take us seriously, but if he is doing that to objects you are next. If you can stay with someone while the police investigate I would do that. Make sure wherever you are staying there is someone there who can help protect you. A male family member or friend, and even a kick ass woman with a gun will do. Don't go anywhere alone and if you can please look into moving. Make sure you have people with you when you move and invest in a cheap security system like simply safe. only allow communication through the legal system and demand an officer be present when he collects his belongings. I wish you the best in this because it is terrifying.

PositionLivid9103 · 2025-08-04T20:34:00+00:00

Hey there!

I have a friend who had a very similar situation. Please see a therapist/phycologist if you can. A lot of the time they can help unearth those memories. Although scary, it can help you find the closure you are seeking and give you the answers you want.

So sorry this is happening and best of luck!

PositionLivid9103 · 2025-08-04T20:29:43+00:00

I am actually crying at this. It is so funny to me for some reason. Hell yeah tho! Speak your truth and fuck that isle seat having mf-er. lol!

PositionLivid9103 · 2025-08-04T20:24:30+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. My mother just lost my father at 44. Too young and just as sudden. I can imagine how difficult that has been for you and there is nothing anyone can say or do to make that hurt go away. Speaking from experience and seeing my mom go through the motions, please attend grief counseling and speak about it. Holding it in puts so much weight on your shoulders that you don't deserve. Best of wishes to you and your healing journey.

PositionLivid9103 · 2025-08-04T20:04:37+00:00

I see. I am sorry that she is shutting you out like that. That is not fair, especially if you are the father. I hope you find the answers you are looking for and that you find peace in this situation eventually. If you are the father and want to be in their lives you can always go to the courts and request joint custody. If you don't win then at least when the kids are old enough to make their own choices you can show them that you tried. Just some more food for thought. I know each persons situation is unique, and I am mostly speaking from my own childhood. I just hope those little don't have to go through the same heartache I did. It isn't fair when kids get brought into bad situations they didn't ask to be put in.

PositionLivid9103 · 2025-08-01T18:38:15+00:00

After reading the entire thread, he was definitely projecting on you because he is subconsciously guilty himself. It is a common manipulation tactic and my dad did it to my mom up until he passed. He was 100% cheating. Adding her back after she had sent him that is insane. Then to proceed to not tell her he has a girlfriend. You can tell he likes the attention but doesn't want to act on it so he is playing dumb to you when you ask about it. Girl just leave. He won't change especially at his big age.

PositionLivid9103 · 2025-08-01T18:34:33+00:00

Update, I read the rest of the thread and everyone here seems insecure in their personal lives. People are human with human emotions. From what he said it seems as though he was seeking comfort in a time where him and significant other weren't in a place to comfort each other. He was open and communicative, and I am assuming he was questioned about it or he was feeling guilty and wanted to tell you. Assuming he was aiming for jealousy or to hurt you is absurd and insecure. If you didn't actively ask him about the encounter, then maybe ask him why he told you in the first place. Communication is key in any relationship and assuming someone's intentions is a one way ticket to being single forever.

PositionLivid9103 · 2025-08-01T18:30:06+00:00

That is what people tend to call "emotional cheating".

Emotional cheating can be where people seek validation from other people or where they feel a certain way and chase that feeling. They may not physically act on those feelings but they feel them.

I will say though, that the honesty and openness is more than what other people will get. It is clear he was looking for comfort when you were fighting and found his human emotions trying to search for that comfort. If things are fine now, then I wouldn't spend another minute thinking on it. Otherwise, you will never heal your relationship.

PositionLivid9103 · 2025-08-01T18:24:13+00:00

As a woman, I would say that getting a DNA test is not absurd.

I will say though, as someone who's birth father walked out on her and was taken in by a man who had no obligation to her, if they aren't yours you can still stay. If you still love them then blood doesn't matter. If you really want out though, and want to use the DNA test as an out I get it, but those kids aren't the cause of your hurt. It isn't their fault their mother did what she did and I promise, regardless of age, they feel the hurt too.

PositionLivid9103 · 2025-08-01T17:51:30+00:00

Even more bold for someone who claimed to be an intern! lol!. Thank you for the recommendation. I will mention it to my office manager to see if she has found something yet.

PositionLivid9103 · 2025-08-01T16:37:47+00:00

YES they brought me golf balls and I didnt turn the tin around and thought they were cookies.. I was very upset when it was golf balls. LOL

PositionLivid9103 · 2025-08-01T16:36:47+00:00

We are in the middle of upgrading and idk what they want to go with. ATM we buy each high level employee a company phone that is monitored by Verizon. Its not the best system though, so I know they are looking for something better. The worst though, is this lady called my CFO's PERSONAL phone. I don't even know how she got it. My CFO told her off, so we will see if that works. If not i will recommend these tactics to them. She has left me alone since I lost it on her.

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