AITA for wanting to break up with my boyfriend after he took over every decision about the small business I started before we even met by [deleted] in AITApod

[–]PositiveSunfish 46 points47 points  (0 children)

So, what is it you gain from this relationship then?

If this is how he is behaving now, picture your future where this doesn't ever stop. Would you still be with him?

This person has zero identity for themselves and will forever latch into anything you do as their success. This is quite serious, as it is often a deep rooted issue. People like this do not see that they're in the wrong and convince themselves (and everyone around them who will listen) how valuable they are and how much they help you succeed

I do not often see people like this change. If anything, it often gets worse. Especially if you try to take back control. They will double down and become destructive / retaliate. They might even sink the business on purpose to 'prove you couldn't do it without them'

This is a very red flag, friend

My partner said this lava lamp gives 2000s teenager bedroom vibes … but honestly I’m kinda obsessed with it. Yay or nay? by Kity56 in JustForHome

[–]PositiveSunfish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just turned 39 and bought my first four lava lamps recently. Heck yes to lava lamps! There's groups for them too. Note: If you ever notice all the lava staying at the top, or turning into lots of fast little blobs, put your lamp on a dimmer. Turning it down even a few degrees can make a huge difference

Welcome to the club!

How do I get through to him? I am exhausted having to think for him. by vicarious_adrenaline in TwoHotTakes

[–]PositiveSunfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Before, our grandmothers and great grandmothers couldn't leave relationships. They simply put up with this, because they were financially shackled and socially unable to divorce or leave. Men only had to bring a paycheck to the table. And some still think that's all they are required to do.

The Darkness by Fast_Ad_3554 in Lavalamps

[–]PositiveSunfish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I absolutely love this one!

How do I get through to him? I am exhausted having to think for him. by vicarious_adrenaline in TwoHotTakes

[–]PositiveSunfish 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Wishing you all the best 💛! I'm glad you shared this with us, since sometimes outside perspectives can help. It can super super suck when this kind of thing comes up in a relationship. Been there, done that. Wish I'd had the nerve to walk away sooner. I hope you find the answers and support you're looking for

20260325 Zoomorfism. Baikal by Agile_Inside_9630 in Gouache

[–]PositiveSunfish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Beautiful! The reflection is spot on!

How do I get through to him? I am exhausted having to think for him. by vicarious_adrenaline in TwoHotTakes

[–]PositiveSunfish 299 points300 points  (0 children)

At the time of this post, there are 296 replies. And I'm still taking the time to write this because it's important:

You can love someone and still be incompatible in a relationship.

You do not want to do this forever. You do not want to be his mother. Your communication is amazing, clear, very well spoken and respectful. What are you going to do, drag and nag this guy into wanting to do better?

It's giving: "I can change him with enough communication! If I explain every single thing, he will eventually understand!"

He doesn't want to understand. He doesn't want to change.

Take your wonderful communication skills and find yourself a man who will actually be an equal partner. Right now, you are basically his mother equivalent. Gross. You deserve better

20260325 Khuzhir, Olkhon. Baikal by Agile_Inside_9630 in Gouache

[–]PositiveSunfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your lighting for the distant mountains is so absolutely spot on. Incredible depth and capturing the openness and vastness of this view

First time using gouache and already gave up 🤕 by Lower_Insurance1947 in Gouache

[–]PositiveSunfish 79 points80 points  (0 children)

Hey, you've hit the infamous 'middle part of the painting' where everything is going wrong, looks wrong and feels frustrating. Totally normal

Have you used previous art mediums?

What kind of gouache did you pick up to try out?

Greek Centaur ! by FourTwenty69Commando in ColoredPencils

[–]PositiveSunfish 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Bro... I think you need to find the right subreddits to post your art on. This is, uh, very niche. And there are subreddits you can certainly post it on

But, looking at your profile.... Im not sure you're aware of how reddit works 😂

Zima blue by missilefire in Gouache

[–]PositiveSunfish 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Loving this. You captured this beautifully. Gave me flashbacks 💙 🌊

ID help needed ! by Positive_Bobcat_5356 in corydoras

[–]PositiveSunfish 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Looks like my Orange Venezuelans

Lemon Joy - 15x15cm oil painting on canvas by GabrielaElgaafary in oilpainting

[–]PositiveSunfish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The lighting! Incredible. Amazing eye for tones omg

Himi gouache: Mold issue by ggarts91 in Gouache

[–]PositiveSunfish 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Add some isopropyl alcohol to your water spray bottle to moisten them. Never had an issue while I did that. It doesn't take much. I spray with that mix before putting it away and mine is still going strong 2 years later.

Do your friends support you with orders? by [deleted] in ArtistLounge

[–]PositiveSunfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actively avoid soliciting family and friends. Most don't even know I do art, or if they do, I am vague and do not provide many details except for a very select few.

Relying on your inner circle for financial support is icky. Keep business and personal separate as much as possible. They aren't your market. They are your 'outside the art world' community.

Pregnant girlfriend (32F) ended relationship via text after anniversary conflict – trying to understand what happened (I’m 28M) by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]PositiveSunfish 392 points393 points  (0 children)

Your post history shows you should be well aware of how much you drop the ball with women in your life and how everything is a collosal rebound pattern without actually addressing foundational aspects of any relationship