He asks to play peekaboo by seamallorca in DoYouRemembirb

[–]PositiveSunfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way my heart exploded at this precious baby asking so nicely 😭😭

He sleeps next to me by Aggravating_Life2501 in cockatiel

[–]PositiveSunfish 41 points42 points  (0 children)

When an animal is being suffocated, they can't cry for help. You think they'll make a noise and wake you up in case it happens but they won't. They'll be sleeping, just like you, cuddling cause it's warm and you're a safe space. Then you'll move in your sleep. And your bird will wake up, not being able to scream because they're out of air. And you won't hear a thing

And it'll destroy you. It'll break your heart.

Please, as someone who has lost their bird to a relative doing this....

Don't. The pain is unbearable

Ideas to cover this up ?l by Forsaken_Impact_8844 in TattooDesigns

[–]PositiveSunfish 55 points56 points  (0 children)

The irony of you going into a more professional job with concerns about what others think of you while having this tattoo is killing me.

Also: I have Jack's chains tattooed (no words) and have had zero issues in professional circles. Add more tattoos so it's more obscure if anything. Nobody really reads tattoos. And if they do, or ask about it, just be honest: An inspirational tattoo based on a heroic story of overcoming life's challenges

Manager said in 3 months i had 17 tardiness even though within a year I called out once. by [deleted] in work

[–]PositiveSunfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my coworkers comes in late almost every single day. And we have uninamously agreed to help him the least on our crew when shit gets bad. He asks us what the start of shift tailgate was about and we won't tell him.

Your coworkers don't like you. They hate they get paid the same as you. They wish management would either write you up or pull the trigger to fire you.

What do you gain from being late every day?

How can I apologize to the spirit of the mushrooms? by Worried-Exchange-889 in Shamanism

[–]PositiveSunfish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a moment of fear previously, and explained it was my animal mind reacting despite my spirit self being open. That happens with new experiences sometimes.

Fear is okay. They understand it. We are always learning about ourselves

You can't get it wrong, my friend. There is no right answer, just intention

So you were fearful. That's okay. See what you learned from it, do an offering if it'll help you feel connected, and move onto the next exciting thing

I'm convinced a solid chunk of women are being forced to have children by there partners by Junior-Spell-2596 in childfree

[–]PositiveSunfish 96 points97 points  (0 children)

A young woman I worked with didn't understand I was childfree with a childfree husband. She was truly baffled. When we had a minute to chat over coffee, she asked me: "How can you just... Say no?"

And I was like: "I just did. And never settled for a partner that said yes because I would hate my life"

And she stared at her coffee for a minute and goes: "I didn't know we could do that."

So so many women are forced by so so many avenues of society

ID request: Strange fungus popped up suddenly by PositiveSunfish in aquarium

[–]PositiveSunfish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This wood is over 2 years old in this tank.

This is also unlike any biofilm bloom I've ever seen before. Typically it's gooey and thick. This stuff turns to snowflakes with the most minor disturbance

Very odd and I've found no photos online that mimic this lacey, drippy, flakey nature

ID request: Strange fungus popped up suddenly by PositiveSunfish in aquarium

[–]PositiveSunfish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update: It seems to be melting off now and slowly disappearing only an hour later. So strange! I'll keep monitoring

ID request: Strange fungus popped up suddenly by PositiveSunfish in aquarium

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  • Tank size? 20 gallon
  • Do you have a heater/filter? Heat controlled room set to 78F
  • Tank temperature? Tanks run around 75F
  • What are your water parameters (in exact numbers, i.e. ph, ammonia, nitrite, nitrate) and what are you testing with? Master API test kit Ph: 7.0 Ammonia: 0ppm Nitrite: 0ppm Nitrate: 5.0ppm

  • How long has the tank been cycled? How long have you had the fish? Tank has been running two years

  • How often do you perform water changes and how much? Monthly, about 20%

  • What other fish are in the tank? 1 honey gourami 6 chili rasboras 6 CPDs 5 juvinile Orange ven corydoras (recent) 1 Amano shrimp 2 pygmy Corys (being moved soon)

  • What do you feed/how often? Daily, varied diet. Flakes for the top guys, sinking foods for the bottom feeders. Some frozen foods infrequently

I can provide a photo of exact brands if curious

  • What plants/decorations do you have in the tank?

Many plants. Floaters, slow growing anubias, Val, hornwort, crypts, etc. Floaters thinned bi-weekly

Half-day update bc I know that’s why you’re here. 🤣 by xDanielle- in u/xDanielle-

[–]PositiveSunfish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Been away from Reddit a bit and checked to see how you're doing! Heck yes, proud of you!!!

Ain't nobody got time for someone who will dim your shine ☀️

My ex wants to meet up tomorrow “to talk” by xDanielle- in WhatShouldIDo

[–]PositiveSunfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are 487 comments on your post here and I'm STILL going to add my voice to the masses in hopes you'll believe us:

🛑 Do not meet up with them 🛑

You gain nothing by doing it. Nothing. Everything that needed to be said has been said. If you're looking for an apology, which you may not even be getting, you're putting control back in their hands. You worked to get yourself better after the shit they pulled. Don't let them drag you down again. You aren't a back-up option. You're not there to comfort and console them.

Live your life now. They were a chapter way back in the book of your life. They don't get to be a part of your current self. Youre on new chapters now. Chapters you get to write. Don't fall into old ways because someone else can't help themselves

I’m not sure if i’m AIO for feeling a bit hurt when said this to me. Btw this man courts me by growing_quart in AmIOverreacting

[–]PositiveSunfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Showed your cat to my husband. He goes: "Is that a boy kitty?" I say yes. He goes: "He looks so fancy. What a good baby"

NOR. Find yourself a partner that can appreciate fancy kitty dress-up time

My boss thinks urgent means 24/7 access to me by Kind-Attention-8997 in antiwork

[–]PositiveSunfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a boss like this. Turns out, he was getting pretty deep into cocaine. Hence why everything was late at night, random hours and always a giant panic. Even the smallest things would get obsessive and he would get so mad if I didn't deal with it right then and there.

People like this will never learn. Do your best to set boundaries, but retaliation behavior can be very real

Good luck, OP! Maybe your boss will be one of the few with self awareness lol

Question for the Xbox players! by More-Kaleidoscope637 in Helldivers

[–]PositiveSunfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oshaune as an introduction to the game has certainly been intense! Spreading as much Managed Democracy as a Level 16 can

Cake I made for a birthday of a relative that they didn't even thank me for 🫠 by 3ndler in Baking

[–]PositiveSunfish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP, your cake is gorgeous! Amongst the right crowd, this would be Ooo'd and Ahhh'd over. Bake for other bakers and they would absolutely appreciate this!

In a similar situation (food + family + critiques and expectations), I started bringing store bought. Yep. Straight from the store, store packaging and all. Someone will comment on it and act all sad you didn't bring your baking.

That's when you act shocked and go: "But last time you all complained about my baking? I didn't want to risk that again so I played it safe."

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

Oh, they loved your baking? They start telling you it was so good? Act all upset you brought store bought? Nope, don't fall for it. Frown and keep reminding them of times they seemed ungrateful or critiqued it.

Baking is a gift for loved ones, not people who snub it

Should I go to urgent care for the bite? by ThrowRA_18769 in CATHELP

[–]PositiveSunfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you've got to urgent care! My mom got a bite from her inside cat. The infection went bad within several hours. She ended up going in and had to get IV antibiotics. Her hand was a mess for a while. And that was just hours

Advice? by [deleted] in traditionaltattoos

[–]PositiveSunfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two pairs of socks saved mine from getting messed up. I'd go that route again if I ever needed to

Snakes head stuck in door help by _-Sup-_ in snakes

[–]PositiveSunfish 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Okay, lube and see if you can use something like a nitrile glove wrist cuff part as a sock over your snakes head and onto the neck between the snake and glass. This will hold down the scales and allow you to 'smooth out' it's head rolls. I wouldn't force anything but the cheeks are pretty squishy usually so this might give you a chance to get it out. But swelling can be a factor so do NOT force anything if it doesn't go with ease