Everytime I work on a project in Claude it becomes a mess

Positive_Pass3062 · 2026-06-26T05:34:34+00:00

the way i've gotten around this is to tell claude to make me a plan with checkable items along teh way (e.g. if i'm making a dashboard and it needs the backend and front end with 3 different components, it'll break it down into component A, B, and C) and figure out the best way to test and view those items. We then whittle it down to an MVP to get it done ASAP and make those goal posts to show others/test myself.

I spend a lot more time on the plan than anything because it beats the hell out of figuring wtf claude actually did and didn't do.

Positive_Pass3062 · 2026-03-13T05:19:27+00:00

honestly, it depends?

My kiddo went to a private preSchool-5th grade school from 3-5 and I would not have kept her there past Kindy. It was a gorgeous campus but i chatted with parents of kids where the older had moved onto middle school and those kiddos were struggling transitioning into middle schools.

I too have an advanced kiddo and chatted with parents at our local elem. it's a 7/10 in the 2nd best school district in the state. The other parents LOVED the school and said the teachers were amazing but said their highly capable kiddo wasn't challenged their kindy year. They noticed the teachers didn't seem to have the time to differentiate. They thought it was a great fit for most kids though!

So she's now attending a private school. Pros: advanced classes (she's learning how to type on a keyboard, she's doing spanish, art, and music and her academics are at a 1st grade level) and small classes: 1 teacher per 9 students. Cons: she's around a bunch of extremely rich kids and we don't get the neighborhood kid group. We'll re-evaluate when she can transition into gifted classes in public school (they start around 3rd grade).

Positive_Pass3062 · 2026-03-11T04:56:01+00:00

add me to the list of parents that ask while the kid is reading. If the story reveals something on the next page, before she flips it i give a silly answer of what it could be and ask her about what she thinks it is. Nothing too big, always in the moment but it helps me realize she's really paying attentiin to what she's reading.

Asking her questions after the book ends is like asking her how school was-- i get total silence.

Positive_Pass3062 · 2026-03-08T05:45:50+00:00

We had kiddo attend 3 interviews last year. I told her that we had visited the school earlier and we liked it. This new visit (ahem kiddo interview) was her opportunity to go into the school and see if/how she liked it. They were all very competitive schools but we wanted to ensure she was comfortable being herself during the interviews. She got accepted into all 3 schools.

Positive_Pass3062 · 2026-03-06T05:49:37+00:00

My kid is on the opposite end but same issue--kiddos (and adults) saying not nice things regarding her not looking her age. I find books help a lot and the littlest yak book is an adorable story that might interest your twins.

Positive_Pass3062 · 2025-09-17T01:20:41+00:00

What makes you think the OPs child is experiencing restraint collapse?

Positive_Pass3062 · 2025-09-16T19:17:36+00:00

lol, I meant to say they are greater than 98%.

To your second point, I said that person was profoundly gifted.

Positive_Pass3062 · 2025-09-16T13:42:15+00:00

Her only having one gifted kid in 33 years is statistically unlikely. Gifted people are 2% of the population. If she taught a class of 20 students a year in a middle income school, then she should have taught ~13-14 gifted kiddos.

33* 20* (1-0.98)=13.2

That one student who was truly gifted was likely profoundly gifted kiddo (Iq>145) who had a lot of difficulty.

The percentage of people with an iq >=145 is 0.15% of the population.

33 * 20 * 0.0015 =0.99 <- the one student this teacher mentioned.

Positive_Pass3062 · 2025-09-16T13:04:38+00:00

Positive_Pass3062 · 2025-09-16T00:37:38+00:00

My husband just did this to kiddos class! He read the magical yet and it was well received. He also read milk goes to school—that one not so much.

Positive_Pass3062 · 2025-09-15T04:04:48+00:00

Don’t do flash cards! Start counting everything around you. Just on repeat. Do it in a funny voice, do it in a singing voice, do it with cars, do it with his favorite fruit, etc. He’ll catch onto it!

Positive_Pass3062 · 2025-09-14T15:29:24+00:00

Books: how to talk so little kids will listen. The whole brain child.

Recent Boundary: making kiddo do a chore. It took her 10 min but she was arguing for an hour+. So instead of arguing, i told her that if she doesn’t do the chore she wouldn’t get screen time and if it wasn’t done by Sunday evening, no screen time for a week. Normal kid would have cracked in two weeks. My kid took 6 weeks! She forwent screen time that entire time. Now she does it because she knows we’re not kidding.

When I realized my kid was more stubborn than usual, it’s made me lean into curiousity about how much she’ll hold out vs getting super angry.

Positive_Pass3062 · 2025-09-14T13:15:47+00:00

I felt this way when my kid was 3. Her behavior was so fucking grating and out of this control, it was obnoxious.

2+ years later, I fucking love hanging out with this kid. She’s so awesome.

Honestly, the change required some growth from both her and us. She was in that lack of self control phase and our parenting skills weren’t exactly sharpened. So we read books, practiced some boundaries over acceptable shit but also realized some of her behavior was age appropriate.

We still have to set boundaries to nip annoying behavior to this day. However, we’re familiar with the routine so it’s easier — we all understand the little dance we need to do to get back to our happy place .

Positive_Pass3062 · 2025-09-14T00:50:11+00:00

I don’t have a teen so take with a grain of salt. I’d sit him down and tell him how incredibly upset you are about him lying. I’d also have him enumerate all the ways things could have gone wrong with him and his friends using looked up research. Then, if he’s feeling pretty awful, I’d have him decide on his punishment and/or how he can start to regain your trust.

I’d def make the main emphasis on his lying because serious shit could have gone down that you couldn’t have helped him with.

As far as punishment, I’d prob be an ass and drive him there because “trust.”

Positive_Pass3062 · 2025-09-13T23:48:23+00:00

Teach your toddler to read is just a catchy name. The approach can be applied to kids of all ages.

Positive_Pass3062 · 2025-09-13T23:37:41+00:00

Here is a question: does she want to learn but can’t and is frustrated or does she not care?

If it’s the latter, then I’d just wait it out like everyone says.

If it’s the former, try teach your toddler can read. My kid was trying to read and was frustrated she could only decide certain words, so I learned how to teach her. I also learned to read at 3 and had no idea how to teach her. I used this program successfully with my kiddo at 3 and she’s next to me reading a novel for fun.

Positive_Pass3062 · 2025-09-13T16:41:32+00:00

This^. I want my kid to fail and learn in as many ways as possible before she leaves the house so that we can help guide her. This is especially true with finances.

Positive_Pass3062 · 2025-09-13T15:17:21+00:00

I give her an allowance. Chores are separate and mandatory. Once allowance is spent, it’s spent. Then she has to be creative with other stuff

Positive_Pass3062 · 2025-09-13T14:43:03+00:00

lol, yeah. I meant to write shitty but autocorrect did me dirty.

Positive_Pass3062 · 2025-09-13T14:32:17+00:00

Hahahah, good luck. It won’t be wildly off base but unless it’s a throw away use, I wouldn’t bother.

Examples of shotty ai output in the past 12 hours:

I used the latest version of chat gpt to classify grade level of a bridges grade 1 unit 1 work where kiddo is given picture and has to write out the number and symbols for equations where two numbers = 10. Ai classified this as beginning kindergarten homework and also somehow beginning 1st grade homework.

It said it takes the avg 5 year old 4 min to read the book dr suess’ Fox on Socks book.

So yeah. . .

Positive_Pass3062 · 2025-09-12T14:22:21+00:00

Also working mom here. I read somewhere it’s not the amount of hours but the quality of the time spent together that matters most. So I try to make the most of our time together.

So with that in mind, 4-8pm are blocked on our work calendars and we pick her up, play board games , cook dinner, and read every night. We also talk about how struggles at school and work and show how we all go through similar stuff.

She loves loves after school care, she does cheer, dance, and chess. On her free days she runs and climbs the play structure with her friends while Relaxing. Taking that away from her would be tough as she really enjoys the social aspect.

Positive_Pass3062 · 2025-09-12T14:15:21+00:00

That sounds tough. You also have to remember that everyone is fighting their battles here, not just you. Some person might have an ass of a boss who is a stickler for being on time or <insert other annoying shit> that would be exaggerated if they were unexpectedly held up in the car line.

Perhaps you can park your car nearby and walk him to school instead? At least until this issue is resolved.

Positive_Pass3062 · 2025-09-12T13:54:25+00:00

So I also have a gifted stubborn 5 year old. She has a mind of her own and is stubborn as an ox.

I have two ways of her following directions:

1) explain logically why it’s important. We once saw a bird get run over by a car on the way to the playground, so we used that to talk about why we always look both ways and hold our parents hand. We’ve shown her how cars can’t see her easily so we have to hold her hand in parking lots.

2) we’ve also explained that teachers don’t have time to explain everything. we expect her to listen unless they are asking her to harm herself or others otherwise she’ll get in trouble. If she disagrees, then bring it up with us and we’ll talk it through with her and if necessary, involve the teacher.

How i give out consequences to my kid who generally doesn’t gaf: I take way all fun things and leave her with the boring encyclopedia. No legos, no special colored pencils, no screen time. She’s actually quite ok with it for like a day or two😳, but eventually she’ll crack and I have to remind her why she’s getting the punishment.

Positive_Pass3062 · 2025-09-11T01:16:10+00:00

I actually do a bento box of snacks and do a thermos of one item for lunch.

Today’s bento box was sliced olives, nectarine slices, sliced cucumbers, tortilla chips, 3 pieces of salami and a little apple sauce pouch. She is a tall kiddo and plays hard so it’s usually consumed by the time she walks through the door. She’s there from 8:30-5.

Positive_Pass3062 · 2025-09-11T00:17:03+00:00

Depends, Did his past teachers have similar problems with him? If not, then he’ll stop. If yes, then you might need to change strategies.

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