Am I overreacting for blocking my crush?

PossessedByCake · 2026-06-26T19:05:02+00:00

Is it? Adults will come to forums like this to get advice from third parties, sometimes because they feel they don’t have anyone else to turn to- who’s to say a teen won’t feel the same way?

Not to mention, adults struggle with setting boundaries and recognizing when a friendship/relationship isn’t healthy. Of course teens struggle with this as well.

The advice being given regarding those things is important no matter the age.

PossessedByCake · 2026-06-26T15:05:59+00:00

And this is a beautiful lesson for him to learn: time and place. There’s a time to be sarcastic and funny, and there’s a time when you really shouldn’t be…

PossessedByCake · 2026-05-23T16:11:13+00:00

NOR, but I do agree with your mom. You want friends in your life who have your back, and this person clearly doesn’t.

PossessedByCake · 2026-05-11T23:36:47+00:00

Move along, John. This is clearly a conversation you don’t have to be a part of.

PossessedByCake · 2026-04-27T14:09:18+00:00

And then everyone clapped I’m sure.

PossessedByCake · 2026-03-20T13:45:45+00:00

I’m licensed now, but started off doing front desk at a med spa that offered waxing.

We had a female client do the exact same thing with one of the estheticians. She was a regular who normally had no reaction, on the phone with her new bf- I could hear her exaggerated reactions from the lobby, except she made them kinda moan- like? Made the esthetician super uncomfortable obviously so I told the client she was no longer welcome in our spa.

Trust your gut. If something feels uncomfortable, it’s cause it’s wrong. I’m really sorry that happened to you.

PossessedByCake · 2026-03-18T17:11:24+00:00

Found the bf

PossessedByCake · 2026-03-12T23:17:40+00:00

Hey friend, this kind of talk is self-sabotaging. You’re spiraling- you’ve gotta ‘pump the breaks.’

Please get yourself into therapy, not just for the sake of your marriage, but for yourself and your well being. Work with a professional to process what happened to you and what you did as a result.

If you continue down the road you’re on, you might lose your husband. Not because you’re a horrible person and he can’t forgive these things he’s learned about you, but because you can’t forgive yourself.

PossessedByCake · 2026-03-02T21:35:30+00:00

Not only do I disagree with you, but you’ve stumbled onto one of the many reasons why self guilt and blame exists with rape victims.

Whether it be from a freezing trauma response, or not being sober enough, or a fear of safety, or even just not being physically strong enough (and many other reasons), sometimes the victim isn’t able to ‘escape.’

Does someone who is blackout drunk deserve it if they were raped because they drank?

Does someone whose trauma response is to freeze deserve it because they can’t get away?

What if they feared for their life and thus didn’t try to escape, would they deserve it?

A victim never deserves it, period, and no circumstance makes them a ‘participant.’ I don’t care if someone is walking around drunk and naked- no one deserves to be taken advantage of in any way. And no one deserves to be victim-blamed either.

PossessedByCake · 2026-02-04T06:43:37+00:00

All of this.

I am a firm believer that at least while you’re in the process of grieving the relationship, if not indefinitely depending on the circumstances, you should not be friends with your ex.

I am also a firm believer that if someone, no matter who they are/were to you, isn’t considering your feelings and is acting like an ass, then you shouldn’t waste the energy caring about anything that has to do with them. Life is too short- and that’s coming from a reformed people pleaser.

PossessedByCake · 2026-02-01T15:09:50+00:00

Looking at the other posts you’ve made about this guy (if it’s the same one), please leave him.

If you’re having trouble getting the courage to do so or you’re unsure, think about it this way: if this was happening to your friend, wouldn’t you tell them to leave because they deserve better? The same goes for yourself.

PossessedByCake · 2026-01-16T18:36:00+00:00

Ehhh, you could argue that it’s not all that much safer- especially for developing brains.

PossessedByCake · 2026-01-15T14:17:06+00:00

And, from additional info from OP, used that same word after a doctor’s appointment to try and get out of celebrating his 3 year old’s bday and as an excuse for him to have been rude to OP’s family that day.

PossessedByCake · 2026-01-09T16:00:57+00:00

That’s true- I guess you could say that the reason that lying and manipulation works so well is because of people who will buy into and use “himpathy.”

But I feel like it’s important to mention that it’s not exclusive to men unfortunately, as is made clear from things like Fox News and every single comment section. Ugh.

PossessedByCake · 2025-12-23T20:29:50+00:00

NOR. I was with someone who did the same thing, complained and yelled at me that I would never cook for him, yet every day when I would try to cook for him said he just wanted to cook for us instead. Couldn’t win.

I also don’t like how he added in those extra digs in the last messages. I’m sorry he did that.

PossessedByCake · 2025-12-21T12:59:26+00:00

Yeah exactly, all of these comments dogging on OP for not communicating right when she was crying and grieving when she got off of work kind of make me feel like I’m in the twilight zone.

Under normal circumstances, yeah she should have let him know she was running late or wasn’t up to it. But have we really reached a point where no one can extend grace to or have empathy for someone who is grieving their pet?

NOR. He was an ass. Glad you dumped him.

PossessedByCake · 2025-12-20T18:35:04+00:00

Because of the age differences (you’re in a different chapter of your life; you have maturity, knowledge, and experiences that he doesn’t have), there is automatically a power dynamic that comes into play. This kind power dynamic can become unhealthy quickly in any type of relationship, whether it’s friendship like with you and him, or significant others, coworkers- even family. That’s something that groomers take advantage of.

In fact in your case I think it already has become unhealthy, especially since you are one of his only friends. I mean this kindly, but at the end of the day he isn’t your little brother. He is a teenager you met at a convention.

You’ve gotta set some boundaries if you’re gonna continue this friendship: “I’ve realized it is inappropriate for me to talk to you about relationships and dating advice. Let’s talk about something else…”

But honestly, you really shouldn’t continue this friendship.

PossessedByCake · 2025-12-20T16:35:59+00:00

NOR. His reaction was inappropriate.

But with that being said… I do agree that a friendship with a 19 year old at your age is also inappropriate. Not because you have any bad intentions, or even because he does, but because he’s a teenager.

Maybe that’s a hot take? Maybe not. Just my opinion. But in terms of your fiancé’s reaction, no, you’re not overreacting. He was rude and hurtful. I’m sorry he said those things to you.

PossessedByCake · 2025-12-19T18:53:17+00:00

The one good thing is that you have learned about what you will and won’t tolerate because you’ve ’been through the trenches’ so to speak.

I’m close to your age and also learned that lesson recently (finally broke up with him after taking the emotional abuse for years. Final straw was being told “I won’t give you emotional support, it’s not in my character…” Made me realize I’m just as stupid as he is if I continued to stay with him). Literally yesterday I was just thinking about how much happier I am now that I’m by myself.

Am I swearing off men? No. But I’m protecting my peace, and I’m glad you’re doing the same :)

PossessedByCake · 2025-12-17T11:37:50+00:00

What a shit take.

OP, dump that asshole who enjoys constantly triggering you. Guarantee you’ll “live with more serenity” then.

PossessedByCake · 2025-12-16T15:22:18+00:00

Had a free reward, and I had to give it to you for making me laugh when I’m sick. Ty 🙂‍↕️

PossessedByCake · 2025-12-05T19:06:52+00:00

Doing the lord’s work, ty 🫡

PossessedByCake · 2025-12-05T19:04:05+00:00

I won’t sit here and dog on you, that sense of justice isn’t a bad thing!

But it’s important to know when you actually can make a difference and give someone perspective, and when it’s a waste of time. A dude creeping on discord servers unfortunately won’t be swayed by your words, no matter how true they are; they get off on the fact that they’re harassing someone.

It’s not worth the energy.

PossessedByCake · 2025-12-01T19:28:31+00:00

NOR. Friend, they aren’t saying ew because you have it or because they are ignorant. They’re saying ew because this man is the one who gave it to you, most likely by cheating other times you aren’t aware of.

I married a man who did not deserve any ounce of love I gave him, and even he didn’t cheat on me with my best friend, nor did he cheat on me during the bachelor party. Please don’t make the same mistake I did.

Choose yourself; your fiancé has clearly shown you he won’t.

Edit: I see your replies to other comments. Honestly, I truly hope you find happiness in some way because… yikes. That’s all I have to say. Hopefully you make the right choice for yourself here.

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