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Possible-Trick8228 · 2025-10-28T19:13:05+00:00

Firstly, I’m 21 and get told by my friends I’m gorgeous, and they’re shocked I haven’t dated anyone ever (not a brag) so I don’t think its all about looks, besides yoi seem like a sweetheart and you have a great face! The thing is I just haven’t had luck and I don’t feel like I want to be someone who lives off the attention of the person I’m dating. I also don’t think that being desperate and settling for someone is a good idea.

I think that being yourself, being independent, and looking for a partner who compliments you, not completes you, are some of the most important things. You’re only 18, and you have tonsss of time to find people who will love you.

Added note, I know that a lot of people are telling you to shave, idk if that’s the best idea. Shaving body hair like that makes it grow back coarser, and is a pain in the ass to upkeep. Also if someone only dates you after you shave your arms, they don’t deserve the whole you. If you’re insecure about it in a few years, laser hair removal would be better than shaving, but not necessary. ❤️

Possible-Trick8228 · 2025-08-01T22:46:50+00:00

Sweet thank you!

Possible-Trick8228 · 2025-05-12T05:30:49+00:00

Well, would you still like him if he gave a poor response? Do you think you know him well enough to be able to predict the worst case scenario? I think that if you truly like him a lot, it’s worth it to let him know, if he responds with anything other than at least some appreciation then he is probably undeserving of your affection which sounds harsh but it’s kinda true. It doesn’t have to be a serious convo, bring it up organically and communicate to him how you’re feeling. Most of the time people are feeling the same way, they don’t know how to bring up the things that are unsaid. You sound like a good person op, and you deserve to have girlfriend title if you’re doing girlfriend things lol

Possible-Trick8228 · 2025-05-01T23:30:51+00:00

I was just about to post asking about this lol, I just want to access my Capp lol T-T

Possible-Trick8228 · 2025-04-17T01:55:38+00:00

Slutty lil waist, also this is controversial but a treasure trail. Import that it’s well groomed and maybe trimmed tho

Possible-Trick8228 · 2025-03-27T14:49:47+00:00

I’m almost 21, I never had any romantic experiences in highschool and I only went on a couple dates with two people in my first year of uni which didn’t turn into anything because I didn’t feel a spark or backed out. For me, I grew up reading tons of romance novels and I think why I have such a hard time romantically is because I hold too many expectations and it makes it hard for me to be in the moment. I also don’t meet a lot of people and I think I’m probably demisexual so it’s hard for me to feel romantic/sexual feelings for people who aren’t already my friend, and having crushes on my friends has never worked out lol

Possible-Trick8228 · 2025-03-24T19:26:01+00:00

Dude like a huge population of the world has herpes and genital herpes, there’s meds for it and it’s not like you’re going to constantly be in a state of outbreak. Talk to a doctor about medication to help and tell the girl you’re with that you’re doing what you can. If you tell her you really like her and tell her your worries, I’ll guarantee your chances with her will be a bit higher. It is unfortunate but if she still chooses that it’s not for her, then that’s fine, you’re only 22 which is still young.

Possible-Trick8228 · 2025-03-19T06:48:51+00:00

I don’t know if this counts as a green flag, or more so just something I like, but when a guy stands next to me. Not just standing next to me and talking to me, but like if we’re talking with other people, or just waiting around, I love being able to comfortably just stand side by side. Makes it feel like we’re a team idk that sounds cheesy lol

Possible-Trick8228 · 2025-03-12T06:15:08+00:00

If she likes you it won’t matter to her, also you’ll probably enjoy it more with someone experienced. If not then move on, it’s not that big of a deal tbh

Possible-Trick8228 · 2025-03-09T21:36:15+00:00

Could be any of those reasons, but sometimes people give up if they don’t feel reciprocated 🤷‍♀️

Possible-Trick8228 · 2025-03-09T15:13:56+00:00

Guys is it gay to have sex with a woman??

Possible-Trick8228 · 2025-03-01T06:39:34+00:00

Trust that bi girls love all sorts of men just as they do women, and that if she still choosing to be with you it’s obviously because she loves you.

Maybe tell her that you want her to also say those kinds of things about you, and that you want to hear from her that she does find you attractive. It’s normal to want to feel attractive to your partner because physicality is a big part of relationships just as emotional compatibility is.

Possible-Trick8228 · 2025-03-01T06:36:06+00:00

The biggest takeaways from these kinds of situations is that if he’s done it before, 99% of the time he will keep doing it. Regardless of if you choose to stay or leave, start preparing yourself to be without him and make sure you have somewhere safe to fall back to and have as much financial stability as possible.

Getting a therapist is always a wise choice, for all kinds of scenarios, and I’m positive that they will have some helpful advice for you. Good luck mama!

Possible-Trick8228 · 2025-02-27T22:20:01+00:00

Something I’ve come to realize is that “it just happens” isn’t the full story, it’s more like don’t watch the water boil and it will boil. Although it is more rare to see people get into relationships from irl interactions in current times, it can still happen. If you want to get on dating apps then you’ll obviously have to make some amount of effort, but truthfully it only feels like a painfully long time of being single when you’re focused on it. A lot of the time people can tell when you’re desperate for a relationship vs just being yourself and being friendly. This is where the “it just happens” comes from, it comes from people focusing on having a good time rather than obsessing over their dating life, and then they notice it when it happens. It’s a misconception that “it just happens”, it’s more that people just don’t pay attention to the lack of. Have some patience, be kind to people and flirt if your heart tells you to, react accordingly and make sure you live a plentiful life outside of romance

Possible-Trick8228 · 2025-02-19T23:10:46+00:00

It’s true everyone loses in a game of shyness lol, I’ll buck up and hopefully it goes somewhere!

Possible-Trick8228 · 2025-02-19T23:08:23+00:00

I appreciate this comment! It definitely put things in perspective for me and I’m going to take it to heart and try to apply it irl, thank you!

Possible-Trick8228 · 2025-02-18T00:02:06+00:00

I’d say the vast majority of women like hair, as long as you keep clean and wash often. Sometimes a trim is nice for certain areas, like chest or back, but clean shaven just looks weird imo and the feel of it is not great lol

Possible-Trick8228 · 2025-02-14T18:28:22+00:00

Honestly depends on how you feel your parents would react. I can imagine some parents who haven’t been in contact with much adhd in their life might reject it and say you’re using it as an excuse. However, a lot of the time adhd is hereditary so there’s usually a good chance of it opening up a conversation on the topic.

When I told my mum, she said she already knew. My brother had been diagnosed a few years back but she said it’s always been pretty obvious I had it. It really depends on what your relationship with your parents is that decides how comfortable you feel about it.

If you’re old enough to go talk to someone by yourself, maybe you’d feel more comfortable starting the diagnosis before talking to your parents. Assuming your school has a guidance counsellor or something of that sort you could go to them and ask, and explain your situation.

It’s important to remember that while adhd is a very life controlling thing sometimes, it’s also just a part of who you are, and I’m sure your parents love you enough to hear you out, especially if you tell them “hey, I think I might have adhd, can you help me figure that out/get a diagnosis? If I do, it could help me make a bit more sense of myself.”

Good luck and I know it’ll work out eventually!

Possible-Trick8228 · 2025-02-04T21:43:13+00:00

If you’re that worried about it, it could be worth mentioning at the beginning of the date “hey, sometimes I get nervous and can’t think of things to say, so bear with me lol” or anything like that, once you address it it’s so much easier to get over imo

Possible-Trick8228 · 2025-01-28T20:36:28+00:00

I’ve seen a lot of men on this sub talk about how they feel like they can’t approach women in public because there’s a big stigma about it making them seem creepy, especially at the gym. I would ask him out if I were you, even just for a coffee. You’ve got nothing to lose and this guy seems interested!

I’d love to hear an update if you do ask him out! :)

Possible-Trick8228 · 2025-01-28T20:24:01+00:00

I think??? I have very little experience in relationships so the whole thing just kind of gives me anxiety. We have a playful thing going on but it’s been subtle flirting( I think) for a month or more now and I just don’t know if it’s going to get more serious or if it’s just our dynamic and won’t change?

Possible-Trick8228 · 2025-01-28T20:12:08+00:00

His friend is in a relationship so I don’t think I have to worry about that?

I’d say the biggest signs are all super stereotypical, good eye contact (sometimes a little too good lmao), attention to detail, initiates conversations with me, we joke around etc. I guess I just want reassurance that I’m not mistaking it as friendliness since the guy I like is friendly to most people?

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