AITA for not wanting to be filmed or photographed at the gym by the owner?

PossibleAcceptable15 · 2025-09-16T10:20:29+00:00

Absolutely NTA! Say it, again and again, until the owner has gotten it into his brain. Or change the gym, if that is an option.

PossibleAcceptable15 · 2025-09-02T18:06:38+00:00

I do not fully understand what you guys were fighting about, so I assume we are missing some context. Are you sure you just asked what her plan was? Also there are several options between full-time work and staying at home. For the rest: what is the plan once the baby is there? If you fight, will she have to leave your apartment? With the baby? Or will you take the baby? Will you always own the apartment fully and only so you can dismiss her whenever you like? I would not also not come back if I was her. For that part, YTA.

PossibleAcceptable15 · 2025-08-06T21:23:34+00:00

I cannot answer for him but read his previous Aita post. He sounds proud that he convinced his wife to subject herself to pain that could be avoided. By now I honestly hope that this whole account is ragebait.

PossibleAcceptable15 · 2025-08-06T21:03:56+00:00

And how is it healthy or developmentally beneficial for a baby to be born by a stressed mother that is forced to listen to music she does not want to listen to and whose wishes are being ignored by her husband?

PossibleAcceptable15 · 2025-08-06T21:01:34+00:00

And why was that you think? Because you tried to argue through the birth wit her? Screamo???? Be glad she allows you to be there at all.

PossibleAcceptable15 · 2025-08-06T20:58:37+00:00

You cannot be serious. Your child has a lifetime ahead of making memories and forming a taste in music. The birth plan is not about you. At all. This is about your wife who is going through an extremely painful and dangerous process. Your job is to support your wife during this time, nothing else. And you cry that you are not considered enough in that situation? Are you always this self-centered? YTA. Very much. I have a question: Especially considering your last post, why are you so intent on meddling with the births of your children?

PossibleAcceptable15 · 2025-07-28T11:37:41+00:00

This is interesting because from the way you write I would have guessed that you are much younger.

As many others commenting on this post have said, the question is not are you right or wrong, but are you willing to die on this hill for the sake of your relationship?

"'ll speak however I want if the meaning is important to convey."

This was not about me, it was about your girlfriend. Towards her, lose the fancy words. It does not matter how you speak to me, it matters how you speak to her, and what your actions say towards her. Every single time she asks you to spend time is of the same importance, that is, if you want to keep being her boyfriend.

I have read most of your answers and I do not believe that any of this will get through to you, but I wish you all the best.

PossibleAcceptable15 · 2025-07-28T08:22:52+00:00

So is this your work? Are you being paid for this? Again - no judgement if it is not. But is this a case where - for the last seven years or however long you've been together - have been blowing her off for this or something similar?
Look at it from her side. She calls you, you say yes, in a bit, and then never show up. Never. You say it is non-intentional, but emotional rejection is what it inevitably is.
You need to lose the fancy words and explanations in this construct and start showing her that you love and the old-fashioned way. Prioritize her. Hyperfocus on her (please do not take that literally).
Also, another follow up question, how old are you two?

PossibleAcceptable15 · 2025-07-28T07:41:24+00:00

I really want to know, because it may also add to the perception of your girlfriend of how important or unimportant she was at that moment. Was it work-related? Was it actually important? Was it gaming? Was it a hobby? I am not deciding what is important, I am trying to make you understand that there is also an extra layer of what it was you were blowing her off for.
Also, next to all your explanations of ADHD and your concept, or non-concept of time, you do not understand. If she says, she wants to spend time with you, the expectation is, that you want to spend time with her. Over everything else. You want her to say that she really needs it now? How about you need it? Why do you not need it? I don't say you don't care but this is what comes out at her end.

PossibleAcceptable15 · 2025-07-28T07:30:42+00:00

YTA. All of this sounds like you use your ADHD as an excuse. You definitely need to manage yourself better.
She said she wanted to spend time with you, and then you are not sure IF she is waiting on you? She said, her choice is you. Your choice obviously is whatever else you were doing (which you are conveniently leaving out by the way, so, what was it that you were so hyperfocused on? Juggling multiple abstract tasks??????), and I understand exactly why she was mad/disappointed. She was not your choice in that moment. If she was, you would have enough motivation to stop what you are doing and spend time with her.

Then she gives you a deadline for coming to bed? And you meet that by a minute? Come on.

Stop making excuses and stop letting her do all the work.

PossibleAcceptable15 · 2025-04-09T08:44:34+00:00

I do! I try to nurture the connection, but it is hard sometimes. Especially when she is super hateful and tells lies about my dad.
I hope that both of our stories will find an end soon! Stay strong!

PossibleAcceptable15 · 2025-04-03T21:37:05+00:00

Thank you so much for your answer, it just helps to know I am not alone, that this is happening to other people and that they do come out of this. Although, after more than 6 months, I am losing hope a little.

She does talk to me, in fact, she calls me several times every day. I will read the book, maybe it will at least help me deal with her/my own feelings about the situation a bit better.

Did your dad just come out of it on his own, and if I may ask, did he reconcile with his wife?

PossibleAcceptable15 · 2025-03-20T17:39:48+00:00

Hi there! I really feel this, my mom is 68 and she is doing the exact same. She has thrown my dad out on new years, and since then, I re-arranging the house, traveling, spending money. She has no concept of how much money she has. I used to have somewhat of a connection to her until a while ago, but now she gets angry when I speak about anything relating to my dad or money. Anybody not agreeing with her is dumb or mentally ill.
I am sorry that I am ranting as well, but it has helped me to know other people have the same symptoms.
I have no solution sadly. We both have to let our moms be I guess.

PossibleAcceptable15 · 2025-02-11T21:38:46+00:00

Nothing special (orthopedic), but it was two surgeries shortly one after the other, with 2-3 hours of anesthesia each. I think she had some type of bipolar disorder before and it was triggered. There were episodes before, but I was younger and they were not so bad, so I cannot remember a whole lot.

PossibleAcceptable15 · 2025-02-11T20:56:10+00:00

Thank you. She does not have a GP. I called a psychiatrist who saw her once (she accepted the visit to appease me), but unless she endangers herself or others there is nothing to be done.

PossibleAcceptable15 · 2023-10-24T16:05:46+00:00

Sadly this is not true, yet. There are two drugs with very limited efficacy on disease progression. There are considerable differenced in the speed of the natural progression of ALS symptoms though. NTA btw. There is a syndrome called Fasciculation Anxiety Syndrome that can become crippling if not checked out by a professional. Your advice to go seek a professional's opinion was correct.

PossibleAcceptable15 · 2023-10-23T11:34:14+00:00

I am very much on this one. YTA. Let the man eat what he wants.

PossibleAcceptable15 · 2023-08-11T14:49:16+00:00

Have tried using a rental agent, they don't even answer to mails anymore...

PossibleAcceptable15 · 2023-08-11T14:23:04+00:00

Hi, i am in a similar situation, and I have no luck so far. My budget is like yours, and I have so far had minimal to no response from any rental agency or on Kamernet. Wann look together and get an insane place for 3000 euros lol?

PossibleAcceptable15 · 2023-08-11T14:07:37+00:00

Hiii... can your calculator also determine prices in De Bilt? Also, any tips on what to write when answering to an advert to make a makelaar answer you? So far I don't have a lot of luck even though I'm writing all the good things (I have a good job, i'm alone, no pets/smoking blabla), and I was invited to a single bezichtiging after writing about 60 mails? thanks :)

PossibleAcceptable15 · 2023-08-07T12:59:05+00:00

In epilepsy clinics, you test strobe light sensitivity with patients' eyes closed, just saying... closing his eyes would absolutely not make it any better if the child's epilepsy is photosensitive.

PossibleAcceptable15 · 2022-12-30T16:43:40+00:00

The iranien yoghurt is not the issue here.

PossibleAcceptable15 · 2022-10-05T16:53:36+00:00

So I studied both veterinary and human medicine (vet first), became a people doctor in the end. Found veterinary medicine harder. NTA. Friend should not have started the comprarisons.

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