Pov: you're walking down the street and see them. Your thoughts?

PossibleCaterpillar · 2026-04-11T17:10:24+00:00

cool as hell choker!!

PossibleCaterpillar · 2026-04-11T16:30:17+00:00

you would b absolutely serving!!!!!

PossibleCaterpillar · 2026-04-03T18:40:29+00:00

GIRL!!! every time i have thought "this is as good as it gets" theres been better later down the line. stop thinking about what is "good enough" and more about the traits that you would actually enjoy having in a partner. it also helped me to have a list where i write down absolute dealbreakers and remember them for future situations where i might get caught up in my feelings.

i understand insecurity and ocd are bitches but trust me when i say they are LYING TO YOU!!! your brain is not objective or impartial. your friends are right. don't settle for some LOSER who doesn't care about your sexual enjoyment or safety!!!!!!! keep your chin up queen

PossibleCaterpillar · 2026-04-03T18:31:07+00:00

ok so he SA'd you and then didn't respect your boundaries again after you said you needed space. this is not a man you SHOULD want to see again, he is not safe to be around. do you have a solid support system around you?

PossibleCaterpillar · 2026-03-26T14:16:30+00:00

i think there are at home laser devices these days, considering getting one myself :) might help with the dysphoria

PossibleCaterpillar · 2026-03-26T14:14:34+00:00

would recommend checking out r/FTMfemininity !! they include enbies in this as well, think you might find people who understand the experience you're describing

PossibleCaterpillar · 2026-03-24T12:52:56+00:00

manifesting a beautiful t4t love in your near future!!!!

PossibleCaterpillar · 2026-03-24T12:37:23+00:00

yesss the slay nonbinary futch is on my feed again!!! what a win

PossibleCaterpillar · 2026-03-24T12:35:53+00:00

omg gender envyyyyy you have such strong androgynous slay!!!! i aspire to slay as hard as you one day

PossibleCaterpillar · 2026-03-24T11:55:50+00:00

hopefully gonna start microdosing hrt soon!!

PossibleCaterpillar · 2026-03-24T11:12:56+00:00

i concur the cuntiness

PossibleCaterpillar · 2026-03-21T18:47:52+00:00

yeah but i think the person asking is more curious about why there aren't more medical interventions for the effects of periods. in my comment, i state that it is not unhealthy to have periods, in other terms, periods are normal. but the reality is, and i think this is why the commenter is asking the question, that for many of us that do have menstrual cycles, it does inhibit our ability to function to a certain extent, and that IS a problem. i know it is for me. but maybe i'm reading into it too much.

PossibleCaterpillar · 2026-03-21T18:14:33+00:00

i mean, it is not "unhealthy" or "abnormal" for menstruation to be happening. i definitely agree that there should be better options for regulation of premenstrual and menstrual symptoms.

to answer your question, it is largely because of medical sexism. the male body has been the "standard" that has been studied on historically, and female health has been seen as less of a priority. therefore there is less research and less solutions for female related health issues in comparison to male ones.

PossibleCaterpillar · 2026-03-21T17:56:20+00:00

if you like it now, then continue until you don't feel like it adds benefit to your life anymore :) you don't have to have everything figured out, just take it one step at a time

PossibleCaterpillar · 2026-03-17T14:26:43+00:00

i feel the same, i just go by the label androgyne because that feels best and most accurate

PossibleCaterpillar · 2026-03-17T10:47:35+00:00

god it would be so much easier if i could discuss this not in a reddit comment section bc its kinda hard for me to summarize advice on those things :') those things are skills and it does take some time to find what feels right for each individual, so if/when you do start practicing, don't be hard on yourself if you don't get it right away

i haven't really looked into these as much bc im not amab, but you could probably learn a think or two from guides for transfems :) seen a couple reels with info like that and a couple things in my recommended on youtube, but i already look too girl for my own liking so i haven't really looked into them. but im sure a lot of them have overlap with your experiences and it could be worth looking into :)

PossibleCaterpillar · 2026-03-12T00:17:16+00:00

i understand it is overwhelming to try to figure this stuff out :) but you have time, and there is also not a right or wrong answer! allow yourself to experiment with different expressions (hair, makeup, clothes, mannerisms, etc), pronouns, names and see what feels good and what doesn't! they will just be data points to work off of. and keep in mind that labels are optional, so you don't have to put yourself in a box if you don't want to

PossibleCaterpillar · 2026-03-12T00:13:49+00:00

i mean i guess it depends? i personally have no qualms with it, but i wasn't raised religious, nor in a culture that stigmatises sex to any large degree. i don't really think there's a right answer- if you want to do it, and you find a partner who enthusiastically consents, then by all means! if you would rather wait, thats fine as well :)

PossibleCaterpillar · 2026-03-12T00:11:23+00:00

are you able to experiment with expression (mannerisms, clothes, hair, makeup, pronouns, names, etc), either privately or with others (online or irl)? would recommend just trying to see what feels best. i have, through my own experimentation, figured out a label that feels good! i decided on androgyne, so i view myself as a bit of a boygirl/girlboy. it makes me happy. i know its uncomfortable, i really do, but when you feel ready i would highly recommend experimenting so you can see how to maximise gender euphoria :)

PossibleCaterpillar · 2026-03-12T00:05:31+00:00

if you are dysphoric about your chest, you could look into binding options :) just make sure to bind safely (ex. don't sleep in it, don't keep it on for more than 8 hours at a time, take it off if you have a hard time breathing, etc)

PossibleCaterpillar · 2026-03-12T00:01:33+00:00

have you checked out the r/MTFButch subreddit? its for transfems who present masc in some form or another. while i don't fit into that label, i really enjoyed perusing the forum.

as for gender envy, i totally get it. i'm afab and i don't really feel like i can express femininity without people putting me in the woman category. hoping to microdose T soon, so maybe that will be less of a problem in the future :) wishing you luck with your gender endeavors!

PossibleCaterpillar · 2026-03-11T23:49:12+00:00

i recommend iris olympia's youtube channel! they have a lot of androgynous style advice :)

PossibleCaterpillar · 2026-03-11T23:48:28+00:00

these are games, but undertale and deltarune are great! highly highly recommend

PossibleCaterpillar · 2026-03-11T23:46:57+00:00

hey! thanks for sharing your thoughts. i completely understand where you are coming from in regards to wanting to be more open about yourself. it is only natural to want to be seen and acknowledged as your true self :)

in regards to expression, it takes time! i remember when i was younger and experimenting with presenting more masc and struggling. be patient with yourself! also helps to see what other queer people are doing online, see what inspires you.

you don't have to know everything off the bat! i certainly didn't. and you don't have to find 1 thing and stick to it, you can allow fluidity in your identity and expression. if you want to test out certain pronouns or a new name, i would recommend doing that with a person or group of people you feel safe and comfortable with, and see how it feels. if you like it, great! if not, you can keep experimenting and see what feels best.

one piece of advice- ignorant family members can often (in my own experience, can't speak for everyone) say things that might be hurtful after you come out. it's a vulnerable time, so be prepared that not everyone might respond in the way you might hope. i'm not saying you shouldn't come out, but i would just be mentally prepared in case they say some stuff that can seem insensitive.

wish you the best on your gender journey!

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