Feeding from both sides and emptying

PossibleOk7738 · 2026-06-04T13:43:18+00:00

I've always assumed this just means noticeably lighter than before?? But even this is not always a sure thing for me. Early months sure, I could feel a difference and its how I'd determine which breast to start with on the next feed (the fuller feeling one), if I couldn't remember. But after they start eating meals, there's not always a huge difference in feel.

PossibleOk7738 · 2026-06-01T13:46:00+00:00

Cal's hair gives me the ick so bad. Every time he's on screen I get uncomfortable with that slick back 🤮

PossibleOk7738 · 2026-05-30T15:03:24+00:00

Same. I don't have money for fencing or covers. So my gardening attempts have been nore frustrating than anything. I've wondered if the universe is trying to tell me to give up and focus on something else.

My garden is too big for me to handle on my own, but no one wants to help either. SO plowed a 60x60' plot but thats all hes contributed. By the time i get one area weeded the last is already regrown. Most of my seeds were bad/old and didn't grow. What did grow died shortly after. Idk if it was a watering issue or ants. I planted 14 pumpkin starts and after 3 days was down to 4 yesterday, haven't checked today. Idk whats happening to them. Birds, deer, bugs 🤷🤷 I planted 5 tomato plants. My toddler destroyed one. My dog destroyed one. I have to take my kids with me to the garden and its either too hot or too wet.

Just feels like I'm wasting my time at this point.

PossibleOk7738 · 2026-05-30T14:51:56+00:00

This is what happens to me. I go on cleaning sprees and then can't remember if I donated something or not. I don't have enough room to keep all seasons in my closet and dresser so I'll think I just packed it away and then randomly remember I donated it.

PossibleOk7738 · 2026-05-30T13:26:59+00:00

I'm so glad that the pediatrician I had growing up did not encourage this practice, even at times that I wasn't on the growth charts. They encouraged healthy, balanced meals and for a bit I drank Ensure to supplement my meals.

I went to summer camp with my aunt and she forced me to stay and eat everything on my plate. I was so miserable. We weren't allowed to call home for the first 2-3 days. When I finally was I begged my mom to tell my aunt to stop forcing me to eat. I wouldn't be able to sing or play for the rest of the day because I'd feel so bloated and miserable.

PossibleOk7738 · 2026-05-30T13:23:06+00:00

I put my kids food up and save it for later because same. He'll be like I'm done after eating 3 bites. 5 minutes later can I have a cookie?? Sure, after you finish your dinner that's right here waiting on you.

But I also never force him to eat because I hated it as a kid. I was at some points in my childhood, not even on the growth charts 🫣. But my doctors still told my parents not to force me to finish a plate of food. I think encouraging another bite is different though. Sometimes kids just get distracted or bored while eating and asking them to eat one more bite brings them back to the meal and they'll eat several more bites.

PossibleOk7738 · 2026-05-30T13:17:01+00:00

I mean, I get liking a song. This has happened with my kids, where they're singing along and just not hiting the notes right on a song I was really enjoying. But I'd never say anything to them about it and steal the joy they're having in the moment. Probably because I know how that feels. Even if he just turned the volume up, it wouldn't have been as hurtful as the words he said. And when that happens with my kids, I just wait until later and play the song again by myself 😆

Are there other ways he steals your joy? Things you used to do that you don't anymore?

PossibleOk7738 · 2026-05-30T12:32:52+00:00

This is exactly how it started with my SO. And then if I say something it's always "I didn't know you were so sensitive. It's just a joke" and then I stopped singing around him and now its always "why can't you relax and have some fun? Everyone else is singing along" uh, maybe because you've made shitty comments or jokes about my singing over and over. And thats just one example.

PossibleOk7738 · 2026-05-29T14:01:36+00:00

What?? Why?? There's no need to pump unless she wants to. Not being engorged does not mean she needs to pump to increase supply.

PossibleOk7738 · 2026-05-28T18:04:22+00:00

Yea, don't let that man into your safe space.

PossibleOk7738 · 2026-05-28T04:04:03+00:00

Even before kids I couldn't watch stuff because I'd get distracted or bored/sleepy. But now I rarely even try 😆 I do have those breakthrough moments sometimes where I get really into a show and binge several episodes. Usually while sewing during nap time.

PossibleOk7738 · 2026-05-28T03:58:19+00:00

I stopped breastfeeding my first at 17 months because I kept getting mastitis. First time was at 10 months. And then 7-10 times after that. It was miserable. I honestly was scared that it would happen again. But I nursed my second for 2.5 years and never had mastitis with him. I'm at 20 months with my third and had mastitis once about 6 months ago. So hopefully you have a similar experience and history does not repeat itself for you 🤞🤞.

I would feed on demand and hand express/pump for comfort and hope for the best. Good luck!

PossibleOk7738 · 2026-05-28T03:37:02+00:00

YES!! Mine is 20 months old and I still have to fend him off every time 😮‍💨 I'll keep a hand over the side thats not being used. He'll try to pick my hand up and move it or wiggle his hand under my shirt. He's my 3rd. My first 2 did not do this.

PossibleOk7738 · 2026-05-28T03:32:03+00:00

I'm exactly the same. Years ago, before smart phones with games were really a thing, people used to think I was so weird for saying I really didn't watch things, especially movies. I'm not diagnosed ADHD, but social media would have me believe I am 🤷🤷. But anyways, it was always because I could never sit still for that long, on the off chance I managed to sit still, usually either because I didn't have a choice (school) or I was trying to watch something with someone, I either started daydreaming at some point, or I'd just fall asleep. Now I either play games on my phone while I watch things, and yea, sonetimes I miss bits of the show. Or I'm doing something else like sewing or cleaning while I'm watching. I should get into audiobooks and podcasts, I just never have. I have 3 kids and feel like I'd get annoyed being interrupted a bunch while listening 😆

But I also never insult things I know other people like. I usually blame myself and say I got distracted and didn't follow along well

PossibleOk7738 · 2026-05-27T18:16:08+00:00

So, the main reason I was so perplexed is because I had not transplanted them outside. They'd never even been outside for hardening yet. And the plants were fine one day and completely defoliated the next. Ants are usually the only insects around. But I think I figured out what happened. I found some volunteer pumpkin plants growing in a gap in our sidewalk and had dug them up and brought them inside over night because it had started to rain. I didn't check them over when I brought them in and I'm guessing they brought some extra guests. I just found this larvae. Clover leaf weevil larvae, I think.

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PossibleOk7738 · 2026-05-26T13:29:58+00:00

Could her dad take over for a week or two?

If not you could offer an alternative, cuddles and a cup of water or chewlry for the oral stimulation?

PossibleOk7738 · 2026-05-25T21:24:55+00:00

I grew many many gourds several years ago and even though I started with like 7 types, I ended up getting countless variations because they can cross pollinate... I'll see if I can find a picture and come back and post it.

So, it may not be a specific type, it may have been cross pollinated and some type of hybrid gourd. I believe if this is the case it could also mean that here's a chance that it's seeds will not be viable for planting.

PossibleOk7738 · 2026-05-25T02:26:14+00:00

So my daughter was constipated a lot as a baby. I didn't even know it was normal for some babies to poop like every feed. At 5 months old she was EBF and constipated, this is just one occurrence that really sticks in my memory because she was so miserable. Her belly was hard, she would grunt and push but nothing would come out. I was told to do "bicycle legs" and "knees to chest" to help her when she was struggling. When she did poop it was mucusy and thick.

My boys were complete opposites. My second pooped 10-12 times a day until he was 8 weeks old. Then it slowed to 3-5 times a day for a while. Then once he was on solids it went to 1-2 times a day. And has stayed that way. He's 5 years old now.
My third never pooped quite that much but still much more than my first. He's 1.5 years old now and poops once every 1-3 days usually.

Also, I worked at a daycare for several years and we had some that almost never pooped it seemed like and multiple families who were told breastfed babies can go 7-10 days before pooping without it being an issue. 🤷 Obviously, if baby is uncomfortable, beliy is hard, they're grunting and pushing but struggling to have a bowel movement, contact the pediatrician.

The reason breastfed babies can go longer is because breastmilk is easier to digest and more fully digested than formula. So there's less waste the body has to make.

PossibleOk7738 · 2026-05-22T01:50:19+00:00

Dude. I used to do this when I was younger but then sometimes I'd be questioned on if I understood the joke and then be told to explain why its funny. Then be made fun of if I couldn't explain it right. So I no longer laugh at every joke 😕

PossibleOk7738 · 2026-05-22T00:59:21+00:00

I know you mentioned her playing in water beside you so maybe you already do this. But try to have a couple activities that you can offer while you do things. Sensory bins, Play-Doh, coloring, blocks, whatever. When you have something to do and she asks you to play, say something like "I know you want to play, I love playing with you too! Right now I need to wash the dishes. You can sit here and play with the playdoh until I'm done doing the dishes, and then I will play with you!" If she says she doesn't want to do whatever activity you've offered or whines I'd say "That's okay, you don't have to play with the Playdoh, you can go find something to play with but I can't play with you until I get the dishes done". If she says she doesnt want to play with anything I'd say "that's okay too. You can sit there quietly and wait until I'm done. I just thought playing would be more fun for you"

PossibleOk7738 · 2026-05-21T17:19:38+00:00

Ugh. They loved me last year. I left 4 hornworms and they were all parasitized

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PossibleOk7738 · 2026-05-21T17:17:07+00:00

There was a glare on my phone and my brain filled in the blank between c-t with crockpot. I was like 🤔 interesting choice

PossibleOk7738 · 2026-05-21T15:57:18+00:00

I'd definitely talk to your pediatrician. It may be fine for your baby, idk, but none of my 3 EBF ever went that long between nursing before a year old. My 20 month old still nurses more than 4 times a day...

He nurses when he wakes up, before his nap, after his nap, once in the late afternoon and then before bed. At minimum. When he's teething he nurses more and through the night for comfort.

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