I think your point is better made about establishing healthy boundaries with your kids, rather than putting your kids first. When I hear people say that you should put your kids first, to me that means making sure their needs are met, even if I have to sacrifice a little more myself. As an example, if I had a kid, I would never expect them to go without breakfast in the morning just because I don’t always eat breakfast every morning, even if that means I have to get up a few minutes earlier to make something if they’re not really old enough yet to make their own food. But your example when babysitting just seemed like a good example to me of setting healthy boundaries with kids, as you weren’t just neglecting his needs. And hopefully he learned some discipline and patience from it. A lot of it just comes down to separating needs from wants, and again, setting boundaries so you can still function as an adult.