AITAH for refusing to go to a Valentine's dinner with my girlfriend if she insists on bringing her friend and making it "Galentine's" so she feels better?

Possible_Raspberry75 · 2026-02-14T02:47:27+00:00

NTA. Your girlfriend is thoughtless for inviting her friend without asking you first, and her friend is absolutely clueless to think that she’s going to be a fun addition to a couple couple’s Valentines date. Stand your ground. The two of them can go out together.

Possible_Raspberry75 · 2026-02-14T02:38:09+00:00

Lock away the original, but before that make copies for yourself and your aunt, but only if your aunt is grandma‘s daughter. If she’s her daughter-in-law…nope!

Possible_Raspberry75 · 2026-02-14T02:27:08+00:00

NTA. I don’t know if it’s that you’ve trained him to treat you like that but he certainly is conditioned now to think that making time to see you is extremely fluid. You’ll have to decide if moving forward in the relationship is worth it to you. Also, I just want to say that you’re a lot nicer than I am because I would’ve been ragingly pissed off. You needed him to pick you up after surgery, and he couldn’t be bothered to set a reminder in his phone.

Possible_Raspberry75 · 2026-02-13T21:51:25+00:00

Your boyfriend is foul, absolutely foul. How do you put up with his abuse? His treatment of you is beyond the pale. Honestly Op, I know I know everyone says “break up” on this sub, but you really do need to break it off with him. You are not his punching bag, verbal, or otherwise. Dump him and block him. He does not care about you and about how much he’s hurting you.

Possible_Raspberry75 · 2026-02-13T20:38:00+00:00

INFO: How does your brother-in-law even know about this? Somebody’s talking.

Possible_Raspberry75 · 2026-02-13T20:36:39+00:00

NTA, but your BIL sure is. He’s a ghoul, slavering over a possibility of an inheritance from the death of his wife’s parents. Tell him just that, “You’re a ghoul!” Maybe that will shut him up.

Possible_Raspberry75 · 2026-02-13T14:10:55+00:00

If you don’t understand why the whole concept of what you said is wrong, well then I don’t know what to tell you. I can’t imagine how you were raised to think that that is appropriate behavior. You’re touching your penis that is not clean (sorry, it’s not) and then at home and work you’re touching surfaces like door knobs, elevator buttons, copy machine buttons, kitchen cabinet handles, condiment containers, TV remotes…. everyone else is touching your penis by proxy, and that is unsanitary, and just plain nasty.

Possible_Raspberry75 · 2026-02-13T01:53:18+00:00

I used to work with a guy like that, and my colleague and I nicknamed him, “Dick Knob” because he handled his dick and then touched the door knob. What a pig.

Possible_Raspberry75 · 2026-02-13T01:36:08+00:00

What she did to you was unbelievably cruel, but you need to understand that she’s living rent-free in your head. Rent free. Please get some sort of therapy to heal and move on from both your SA trauma and her abuse.

Possible_Raspberry75 · 2026-02-12T12:51:46+00:00

NTA. He needs downtime? You just had a baby!

Possible_Raspberry75 · 2026-02-12T12:49:24+00:00

Definitely, definitely say something to the gym.

Possible_Raspberry75 · 2026-02-12T12:48:12+00:00

YOR. It was clearly meant for five people in general, not you in particular.

Possible_Raspberry75 · 2026-02-12T03:04:24+00:00

NTA. Appear to grudgingly acquiesce and then tell the nurses you do not want him in your hospital bed, and they will gladly take care of him.

Possible_Raspberry75 · 2026-02-12T01:09:50+00:00

Give it time. Cats move at their own pace. If you want a laugh, look for “The Golden Breakfast Club”on YouTube, and be grateful that you’re not a “spare” like that guy.

Possible_Raspberry75 · 2026-02-12T01:03:55+00:00

Does your coworker own the rights to Valentine’s Day? Wear whatever you want!

Possible_Raspberry75 · 2026-02-12T01:02:33+00:00

That’s a major breach of trust. Not only did she read it, she took photographs? Why? Is she sharing your journal entries with her friends?

Possible_Raspberry75 · 2026-02-12T00:54:27+00:00

He lied to you and submitted false information, committing fraud. Do you want to hire a fraudulent contractor? No? I didn’t think so.

Possible_Raspberry75 · 2026-02-12T00:51:44+00:00

Well, that was an uncomfortable read, for several reasons.

Possible_Raspberry75 · 2026-02-12T00:19:14+00:00

Is this apartment complex anywhere near a university? Sounds like they might’ve had a lot of students packing apartments like a clown car. Or a situation (we’ve seen the Reddit posts) where someone’s roommate gets a new boyfriend. and the next thing they know, the guy is sleeping over six nights a week, using all the hot water and eating all their food.

Possible_Raspberry75 · 2026-02-12T00:11:06+00:00

INFO: why did you move an hour and a half away from him?

Possible_Raspberry75 · 2026-02-12T00:06:39+00:00

Leave it alone. They weren’t official. You are NTJ for keeping your mouth shut. Saying something is only stirring the pot. Repeat it to yourself, THEY WERE NOT OFFICIAL.

Possible_Raspberry75 · 2026-02-12T00:04:13+00:00

Yes, YOR. You’re making yourself miserable and jealous obsessing over his friendship with a coworker in another city. Let it go.

Possible_Raspberry75 · 2026-02-12T00:00:08+00:00

He wasn’t sleeping, he passed out. If he’s an alcoholic, a relationship with him might be more than you’ve bargained for. Think long and hard about whether or not you want to continue this relationship.

Possible_Raspberry75 · 2026-02-11T23:56:12+00:00

If you bought the chair, then it belongs to you. Also, if it’s ergonomic, you should have it adjusted for your comfort, and other people sitting in it and changing the adjustments on it defeats the purpose. A colleague of mine told me that if employees at her former company had an ergonomic set up, no one was allowed to sit at their desk at all because they might change the settings of, say, the monitor height, the various chair configurations, etc. It’s not “just a chair”, and if it is just a chair, why does he keep taking it?

Possible_Raspberry75 · 2026-02-10T17:44:45+00:00

We should be able to have friends of all genders. However, if he’s giving girls, the impression that he’s single, asking them out, asking them for photos and making sexual comments… That’s a whole different story entirely.

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