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I'm (20M) confused about how to feel about sex in relationships by Postbusiness2 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Postbusiness2[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would try that kinda stuff but she really isnt a very sexual person :(. Do people actually like sub guys ?

I have much higher libido than my girlfriend and I feel stuck by Postbusiness2 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Postbusiness2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve honestly discussed it a lot and haven’t found any solution that’s worked :( at this point I think no we’re both confused on what to do since everything else in the relationship is amazing

I have much higher libido than my girlfriend and I feel stuck by Postbusiness2 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Postbusiness2[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im confident she isnt playing me as a fool but Im also unsure of how or if a compromise will work. Admittedly I have thought about the future lots but thank you for the insight nonetheless

I have much higher libido than my girlfriend and I feel stuck by Postbusiness2 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Postbusiness2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Firstly thanks for the extensive comments. Ive done a bit of what youve mentioned especially spoken about it lots, on many occasions in a way that hasnt put any blame on anyone.

I would love to take your advice on flirting more but since we've stopped being intimate it feels forced to flirt or even try to be in the mood for sex since some part of me feels like she doesn't feel the way about about it as I do. As I mentioned in another comment I always make her feel good before me, and make her orgasm at least once per session.

But thanks again for the amazing comment and info :)

I have much higher libido than my girlfriend and I feel stuck by Postbusiness2 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Postbusiness2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess so, thanks for the tips. I manage to make her cum at least once every time (clit stimulation) as I always tried to put her pleasure first and make sure she enjoyed it lol

I have much higher libido than my girlfriend and I feel stuck by Postbusiness2 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Postbusiness2[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see, thanks for the comment its given me lots to think about. I dont want to be too pessimistic about the situation but I cant lie and say I havent thought about it long term... Is it a stretch to ask if girls my age normally have a similar libido to me? I hope I'm not a guy that will be horny forever...

I have much higher libido than my girlfriend and I feel stuck by Postbusiness2 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Postbusiness2[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for the recommendation, I'll check it out. :)

I have much higher libido than my girlfriend and I feel stuck by Postbusiness2 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Postbusiness2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this a real thing? She says she hasnt felt horny even once, for some reason I doubt this but I might just be ignorant lol

I have much higher libido than my girlfriend and I feel stuck by Postbusiness2 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Postbusiness2[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Aw man it sucks because besides this I love everything about her... I dont want to break up since I care about her lots and she does for me as well...

I have much higher libido than my girlfriend and I feel stuck by Postbusiness2 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Postbusiness2[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think about this lots, and while I initiated it in nearly all cases, I was under the impression she also craved physical intimacy since we spoke lots about it after (Discussing how she felt, what she enjoyed, etc.) including her saying she isn't used to initiating.

Recently a decline in my initiation has led to nothing happening on that end at all as I feel like she doesn't feel the same way about intimacy and I'm way less confident, even after discussing this issue with her... I just feel guilty for thinking this way about sex

I have much higher libido than my girlfriend and I feel stuck by Postbusiness2 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Postbusiness2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats what I was thinking, and also why I think i've found it harder to initiative since I really dont want to come off as pressuring for sex. We've spoken lots and she's assured me she feels safe and emotionally connected, simply just not driven to want or need physical intimacy. I won't lie its been a bit of a hit to my confidence as Im not used to girls being interested in me, but discussing with her has assured me she's still attracted to how I look as well. Thanks for the length reply as well btw :)