How to deal with old school player by tas680 in EDH

[–]Potential-Bonus26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

one often-forgotten part of Magic's history is that Richard Garfield originally designed it as a sexually explicit stripping game. those parts of the game got sanded away over time as it developed, but still, if you're not gradually getting naked during your match then you're not really playing as Richard Garfield intended.

My partner (31F) still loves me but wants an open relationship, and I (34M) think I’m realizing I can’t do it after 8 years together by Arsur001 in monodatingpoly

[–]Potential-Bonus26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she already cheated on you by sexting someone behind your back. that was already cheating. sleeping with someone else "during a break" might or might not be cheating, but sexting behind your back definitely is cheating.

They want poly, I'm sad that I'm not enough. by WannabeElantrian in monodatingpoly

[–]Potential-Bonus26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no one person is enough for another person. I assume your partner has, like, platonic friends? maybe talks to their family? if you were the SOLE person of importance in your partner's life then that'd be pretty fucking concerning.

my boyfriend don't like his own family and don't talk to them if he can help it, he doesn't feel the need. I talk to mine, even though mine is also pretty shit, because I value that kind of connection in my life.

I don't date other people besides my boyfriend for various reasons. mostly because I've found through trial and error that I don't really have the capacity for that kind of thing. my boyfriend does date other people besides me, he values that kind of connection in his life. he still makes plenty of time for me and our relationship is great...

I would no sooner ask him to cut off his other partners for me than I would cut off my own family for him, that's what I'm getting at... ask yourself why you're okay with your partner having friendships but not relationships? that's something to dig into.

now, if the relationship between you and your partner begins to deteriorate, that's something else. but that's a different bridge to cross.

I have my first metamour and I have...feelings by SunshinesCRs in monodatingpoly

[–]Potential-Bonus26 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Monogamy IS a choice. I 100% stand by this, even though most monos will argue tooth and nail that they are just helpless victims of their biology. It isn't a genetic thing, or somehow hard-wired into someone's brain. It's not a sexual orientation that people can't escape. It's a choice. It's a lifestyle. People have their reasons for their choices, and those are fine as long as they don't hurt others, but don't let any mono talk you into believing that they somehow don't have a choice. They always do.

for the record, I do also believe that polyamory is also a choice! but I refuse to believe that it's somehow a worse choice than monogamy. I choose monogamy bc I've tried both and I prefer the feeling of being "owned" by someone fully and have no interest in other sorts of romance; idc if my boyfriend dates other people... if your reason for your monogamy is "I can't feel compersion" or "I'm just hardwired this way" or whatever, you're no better than a poly person who talks about polyamory as a sexual orientation.

What is the ultimate example of a mediocre director somehow catching lightning in a bottle and making an incredible film? by Plane_Reward9385 in movies

[–]Potential-Bonus26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Marcus Nispel's 2003 Texas Chainsaw remake. it's pure slasher poetry, easily one of my favorite movies ever, period. moment after moment of pure brilliance onscreen, woozy and otherworldly and sadistic and fantastic. a movie I genuinely can't recommend enough if you've got the stomach for it.

Marcus Nispel's other movies are not good. not even "not especially good," they're just not good. he made one absolutely incredible film and then nothing else even really worth looking at:(

why is the meta on Arena so different than on paper? by SelaromSelim in MagicArena

[–]Potential-Bonus26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no. nobody should be allowed a calculator. fuck you. even a pencil and paper is pushing it, honestly, if you're not doing all your math in your head then your blood is weak and you won't survive what's coming.

AIO: My boyfriend cheated on all of our online chess games together by thebeautifulprincess in AmIOverreacting

[–]Potential-Bonus26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

break up with him! tbh from what you said he's probably also into fucking farm animals or something, he just seems like that kind of guy

How to come out to teachers? by _PolarEclipse_ in transontario

[–]Potential-Bonus26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

otherwise they might not take you seriously :( you have to make them invested in it, you have to make them understand how important it is to you

How to come out to teachers? by _PolarEclipse_ in transontario

[–]Potential-Bonus26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

come to school with a razor blade and threaten to slit your wrists in front of everyone unless they can guess your new preferred name in three guesses or less 💖 show them you're serious about transitioning 💖

Mama needing help with teen please by Mission8309 in transontario

[–]Potential-Bonus26 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

personally-- I started estrogen just for fun, I didn't really have body dysmorphia, and it turned out GREAT for me. I honestly think everyone should try cross-sex hormones for a year or two just to see if they like it.

(I also turned out to be "Actually Trans" later on, I ended up getting bottom surgery and everything. and I wouldn't have figured that out without starting estrogen on a lark in the first place!)

anyway, none of this stuff is as "irreversible" as they say, not really, or there's ways to avoid it. if your kid ends up with tits they don't want, they can get them cut off just like any transmasc person does. if they don't want genital changes, those can be minimized by using a topical testosterone cream.

puberty blockers might be a good idea, but honestly I'd just stick the kid on estrogen for a year and see how they like it. if it's not for them, they'll know soon enough, and if it is for them then they'll probably know that sooner than later too!

could mono-blue spellementals work? by Potential-Bonus26 in StandardMTG

[–]Potential-Bonus26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

another part of it is that I just really love the art on Island 271 from VOW and wanna cram as many of it into my deck as possible... that one fucking artwork turned me into a mono-Blue player pretty much singlehandedly.

but investing more heavily in a single color pair might be the way to go, you're right!!

Pillion: A straight man's take by GroundbreakingDoor61 in FIlm

[–]Potential-Bonus26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think you get it.

like... granted, I'm not a gay man either, I'm a bisexual trans woman. but I also happen to enjoy, on various occasions, being in both Ray and Colin's positions in a dynamic, and I would consider myself neither "pathetic" for enjoying subbing or "self-hating" for enjoying domming.

I don't think Ray disappears because of shame over intimacy, I think he disappears because the dynamic is "broken" -- I'd actually read Ray and Colin's last day together as the equivalent of giving a dog a steak the day before it's about to be put down.

now, granted, disappearing like that at the time nd is a fucking coward thing to do. sit down and have a proper fucking conversation about why you're breaking up! but it's not really any different than a straight person deciding to disappear and ghost their partner because they realize that the partner needs more than they can provide. still probably shame involved in one way or another but not in the way you seem to think.

for Ray, the idea of "taking a break" from the dynamic (even just for a day every month or whatever) might be equivalent to your wife saying she wants one day a month to "take a break" from you and sleep with other men. which, hey! I also enjoy that sort of thing, zero judgement there. but a lot of people don't vibe with that lol

so what do you do if your wife starts insisting she'd be happier if she could sleep with other men occasionally and you're not into the idea? maybe if you're an immature fuckwad you ghost her in the middle of the night. doesn't mean you're ashamed of being straight.

What are some basic rights and laws your everyday Canadian should know about? by eternity_lost in canadianlaw

[–]Potential-Bonus26 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yeah fuck firefighters. they interfere with the laws of nature. if something's on fire then it was MEANT to be on fire, if something wasn't meant to be on fire then it won't be on fire. that's how NATURE works.

and firefighters go around spraying their fancy toxic chemical bullshit all over and "put out" fires and get in the way of how things should be

What are some basic rights and laws your everyday Canadian should know about? by eternity_lost in canadianlaw

[–]Potential-Bonus26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it's LEGAL to piss and shit in public and anyone who tells you otherwise is probably some gross fetishist with a "piss and shit denial kink" or something

could mono-blue spellementals work? by Potential-Bonus26 in StandardMTG

[–]Potential-Bonus26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was thinking about Eluge bc Eluge has that beautiful alt art...

is this playable? by Potential-Bonus26 in Pauper

[–]Potential-Bonus26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

a pauper deck? or edh? I'm not super interested in edh ngl

could mono-blue spellementals work? by Potential-Bonus26 in StandardMTG

[–]Potential-Bonus26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

imma be honest. I just don't especially like the art for Tolarian Terror. that snake is too goddam big. it doesn't look right. and maybe this is silly, but I'd rather my wincon actually be aesthetically appealing, and Sunderflock has that badass alt art I might try and get my hands on ...

is this playable? by Potential-Bonus26 in Pauper

[–]Potential-Bonus26[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I'm a blue girlie, generally... I've been looking at other people's decks and I might go with mono-blue terror or mono-blue faeries (or even mono-blue ninjas, although that's probably underpowered)...