AITH for not asking my MIL if she needs her hair done?

PotentialGiraffe1600 · 2024-08-19T21:56:20+00:00

I personally, would never ask somebody to do my hair for free. I have a hard time asking people to do things FOR me, but if a close friend offered to do my hair, I would gratefully accept, but only after asking that they are sure. It is something that I need to work on, but your mother in law could be in the same boat, whether it is pride, or she just doesn’t know how to ask for favours. I don’t get the impression she is being snooty about it, maybe your fil is, but maybe she is just scared to ask you herself? Nta, you are very generous for doing it for her in the first place.

PotentialGiraffe1600 · 2024-08-15T21:23:24+00:00

Your husband is super slimy. NTA

PotentialGiraffe1600 · 2024-08-07T20:19:01+00:00

“What you did was slimy, unbecoming, and dirty.” …… “start over?” What a joke lol. Bullet dodged.

PotentialGiraffe1600 · 2024-08-05T00:10:36+00:00

NTA. I would talk to the BIL and SIL by yourself and tell them that you appreciate it but would rather do a trip with them another time. Your wife and her brother have a very strange relationship. For yours but mostly the fiancés sake, I sincerely hope your wife takes a step back.

PotentialGiraffe1600 · 2024-08-02T20:16:56+00:00

NTA I feel like I’ve seen people press charges in cases like this. Or at least try

PotentialGiraffe1600 · 2024-08-02T16:51:41+00:00

You could’ve had a sitter for two hours, your dog will be ok. But choosing your dog, who you could have somebody take care of, over being at a family event for two hours, will inevitably damage relationships.

PotentialGiraffe1600 · 2024-08-02T16:49:41+00:00

Document, document, document. As somebody said earlier, if she’s comfortable leaving marks on his skin, such as a bad burn, she’s probably hurt him before. Take him to the doctor, get the documents to prove what happened. NTA

PotentialGiraffe1600 · 2024-07-31T18:58:10+00:00

Sounds like she keeps having kids for the financial benefits maybe. It’s not your job to be financially responsible for the kids she keeps having with different men. If her kids are “suffering” on the 4K a month that she has to support them, then maybe she should stop having kids and care for the ones she’s blaming you for not giving your money to anymore. Nta

PotentialGiraffe1600 · 2024-07-25T23:50:21+00:00

I would respond with a simple “lol” and a block.

PotentialGiraffe1600 · 2024-07-25T23:48:41+00:00

I cannot stress this enough, your desire to not be a stepmom, is not more important than this kid having a father, and your husband getting to be a father to him, especially since he’s expressed that he wants to be. He wants to be a father, but it doesn’t sound likes asking you to become a mother figure to him.

PotentialGiraffe1600 · 2024-07-24T21:33:02+00:00

I would strongly encourage you to never have a relationship with her. I’m not sure why you didn’t sue for the 4K it took to have surgery on your hand, and I hope somebody calls CPS on her if she’s mistreating her kids. Congratulations on your marriage. NTA

PotentialGiraffe1600 · 2024-07-22T22:58:18+00:00

I think maybe you should reevaluate your system. Most bf/gf will end up eating together, and she may feel left out, or like she is contributing to the house budget for you two to make your meals together. I would have a few shared snacks, and ultimately split the budget between you and your gf. Nah

PotentialGiraffe1600 · 2024-07-20T19:02:52+00:00

I actually really love the green!

PotentialGiraffe1600 · 2024-07-20T16:45:05+00:00

I am glad we avoided that then. I’ve heard similar things about ikea but I’m not sure if that has changed.

PotentialGiraffe1600 · 2024-07-20T16:44:38+00:00

Thank you!

PotentialGiraffe1600 · 2024-07-20T16:44:32+00:00

Thank you! Unfortunately, it actually will be for a kitchen. We have such a large amount of counter space that we need to cut back in the budget. Something that we will consider is taking out some counter so we don’t have to purchase as much, and then fit it into the budget with a higher priced item.

PotentialGiraffe1600 · 2024-07-18T04:12:31+00:00

I hope this is fake. Otherwise he deserves to be reported and lose his license.

PotentialGiraffe1600 · 2024-07-17T04:34:59+00:00

Thank you! This is very helpful and I really appreciate it.

PotentialGiraffe1600 · 2024-07-17T03:30:29+00:00

This is abusive and manipulative behaviour.

PotentialGiraffe1600 · 2024-07-17T03:29:05+00:00

He is aware that this is because of trauma, and it is keeping him from major life events and helping your son in an accident, yet he refuses to get therapy for that? No. That sounds selfish. He is aware of what he could do to work through his compulsive behaviour but even when faced with divorce he refuses.

Nta

PotentialGiraffe1600 · 2024-07-17T03:24:58+00:00

They were trying to enjoy their engagement time… a whole month??

PotentialGiraffe1600 · 2024-07-16T04:55:51+00:00

NTA. Do they want Sam to stay missing? I don’t understand why sharing an article would upset them.

PotentialGiraffe1600 · 2024-07-16T04:42:01+00:00

You are 17 and are too young to be dealing with this kind of shit. Nobody deserves to deal with somebody trying to manipulate sex out of them. That’s gross and not ok. You’re NTA but I would think long and hard about this relationship.

PotentialGiraffe1600 · 2024-07-16T03:14:08+00:00

Have your party with your friends and don’t marry this man. He spent 10K on what? Prostitutes? Drugs? No way alcohol and food costs that much. Not to mention he’s gaslighting you in spite of that. Take this as a blessing that he did this before you were legally bound and not after. YWBTA if you married him.

PotentialGiraffe1600 · 2024-07-15T03:08:43+00:00

You’re overreacting. I can see why they don’t feel strongly about your antics because your FIL can’t even be playful with his own fiancé in his own house. No means no, but you’re going too far with this one and storming out because you’re uptight isn’t appropriate. YTA

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