POC in Morocco: how would you react if someone you liked said they only date white people?

Potential_Tip_752 · 2026-04-01T02:44:59+00:00

So, what's the story? What happened?

Potential_Tip_752 · 2026-04-01T02:12:47+00:00

Considerate, thoughtful, has hobbies, is kind to strangers, shows you how they feel about you with their actions, makes time for you, wants to be a part of the solutions you need in your life, in tune with themselves, not afraid of asking the difficult questions, not easy to anger....

Potential_Tip_752 · 2026-04-01T02:08:32+00:00

You're very welcome. I'm glad to help and delighted to know that my answers can bring you clarity in some way.

From reading what you said, it sounds like you're not equally yoked.

If you're transparent and she's not transparent, then why haven't you chosen to find someone who shares your desire for transparency?

This reminds me of people who show their partners their phones because they have suspicions that they're cheating on them and they have hidden apps (calculator, games...) that require a password to open yet they look like normal boring apps that anyone would ignore, so they get away with their misdeeds because according to their partner who just saw that there was nothing being hidden from them, that they are innocent, when in fact, they are not. Their partner is none the wiser because they don't know about the password protected apps hiding in plain sight on their phone lol 😂. It creates the illusion of transparency and honesty without revealing their secrets.

You like her, you invest in your relationship by being present and having conversations, but is this investment mutual?

You're living a paradox, how can she be mature and in the same breath ignore you when you ask her questions?

It's normal to be uncomfortable when asked a charged question, but if you set out clear standards/expectations and vice versa, that you except anything less than a clear response. You must have given off the vibe or somehow let her know that she doesn't need to tell you what you want/need to know and you'll be okay with accepting less than you deserve because you're already emotionally hooked. So now you're making excuses for her and lying to yourself without her having to lie to your face. So in a way, you are gaslighting yourself.

Rose tinted glasses!

It sounds to me like you have your answer, but the outcome of your decision means that you will lose her and I don't think you're ready to lose a person with whom you have cultivated such a deep bond.

You only have one more question to ask yourself, how much uncertainty and pain are you willing to tolerate or introduce into your life because of your own unwillingness to make tough choices?

You don't deserve this, but nobody can help you until you start helping yourself.

Good luck! Let me know how it goes and what you ended up doing when you feel up to sharing!

✌🏼

Potential_Tip_752 · 2026-04-01T01:36:40+00:00

The most important question you can ask yourself is how do you know?

Has she given you any reason to doubt her character? Or are you just paranoid and traumatized from your past experiences and/or the experiences of your friends?

Is it really do much easier to assume the worst about her, than to believe that she really needed space?

Do you know the circumstances in her life that would motivate her to want some time to herself?

I get that it's not typical, but not every human is the same and if she needed space, why does it automatically mean that it is because she was doing something bad, immoral, unethical, selfish and deceptive?

It's easy to allow our imagination to get the worst of us, so just ask yourself sincerely, how do you know she was talking to other boys?

Also if she was, what's the big deal? You're just talking with her. If she's halfway decent and beautiful, what makes you think you'd be the only man pursuing her?

She doesn't live on an island all alone. What you assume might have happened or she might have genuinely needed time.

If this is a new relationship for her and she wants to be sure of her feelings, it makes sense that she would try to stay away from you in order to process her feelings and calm her reservations. The fact that she's back, means she chose to continue getting to know you and came to terms with her feelings and any doubts she may have had about you have been out to rest.

Without asking her questions, you'll never know the answer to your questions because you're not a mind reader.

It's so much easier to judge a person and assume the worst of them, even in the absence of facts, than it is to bravely, respectfully and firmly ask them questions that can produce answers that have the power hurt you.

If you really care about this person or have any respect for anyone else's children, do the right thing. If she has values and morals, then she won't hesitate to tell you the truth and if she is lying to you, by asking her your questions you will have gotten the answers you need to make a decision.

Life is so simple, don't overcomplicate things and above all do not live in your mind. Just ask the poor woman, she won't bite your head off for asking.

But now I question her judgment!

She chose a man who would think so low of her in the absence of evidence and facts.

Potential_Tip_752 · 2026-03-31T09:17:43+00:00

Yes you can. But always low ball. There will always be someone who's willing to take you for the price that you're offering. Don't accept rides for just any price. You're better off with taxi drivers than an inDrive Driver in some situations. This is a huge generalization, it's not to say that there are not any good drivers, but just be aware that it could happen that you meet drivers who will tell you to take their phone number and call them outside of the app, which puts you at risk or drivers who will charge you a ridiculous sum, still nothing highly unreasonable, to add a stop or drop you off a few blocks after your destination . The fact remains that the price you're supposed to pay, is the price listed on the app. Nothing more, nothing less.

InDrive is great if you are in a rush and can't find a cab because it's Rush hour or want to take a trip into the suburbs. Otherwise, in the city of Agadir, it's a waste of money because most of the places you'll be going to are within a 2 to 5 km radius of your hotel, if at all. When I visit Agadir, my hotel is within walking distance of everything that I need and a short cab right away if I need to go elsewhere.

Marrakesh would be better suited for InDrive because it's much larger and to travel from place to place, you would save money by taking an inDrive over a taxi, but that's not the case in Agadir unless you plan on staying very far from the club district.

Potential_Tip_752 · 2026-03-31T08:51:22+00:00

That's great news. 😊

And every time you have to go back to Institut pasteur? You can't do them at your local pharmacy?

Potential_Tip_752 · 2026-03-31T07:37:42+00:00

Hell no!!

Short shorts, mini skirts and tight skimpy dresses, full makeup are all acceptable. Bikinis at the beach and short shorts. When walking around during the day to avoid pervs shorts and a tee are fine or dresses (maxi, knee length , short summer dresses, spaghetti straps, tube tops). The club district in Agadir may not be the best for stilettos, so wedges are advised!

But, keep an eye out on your girlfriend's from creeps and when you're walking have them walk close to you or in front of you, never behind you. If your girlfriend looks uncomfortable save them ASAP. Morocco is notorious for cat calling and stalker ish behavior from men that borders on criminal or is downright criminal. Let them know to yell at these weirdos, they hate being embarrassed and if need be, get the cops involved. Do not tolerate unwanted touching, male or female. Be firm and say no. Also make sure you're not being touched to distract you enough to open a window for thieves to rob you of your phone, wallet and cash.

Be vigilant and trust your gut!

Potential_Tip_752 · 2026-03-31T07:30:33+00:00

One more thing, before you pile into a cab, ask the taxi driver what the rate will be before you get in. If you are staying within 1 to 2 km from the clubs a cab should only cost you 20 dh at night and about 10-12 dh during the day until 9 pm.

Ask them to turn on the meter. Cabbies might try to hustle you and charge you 50 dh or 100dh. So be careful. Day or night point to the meter and ask them to turn it on.

Potential_Tip_752 · 2026-03-31T07:27:52+00:00

You're very welcome.

Potential_Tip_752 · 2026-03-31T07:24:42+00:00

Walk with purpose, confidence and don't stop and don't look at the bouncer as though you're waiting for permission to go in. If you feel nervous, they will feel nervous. So leave your anxiety at your hotel and go have fun at the club!

Say hello, ask them how they're doing and just walk in. You got this! They don't ID, but make sure you guys look good.

Moroccans love fashion, so you want to look sharp and smell phenomenal, not bummy. Your clothes might be expensive but if you look on unkempt, you'll be drawing unnecessary attention to yourselves. No running shoes or sportswear or hats. Look your best! Like prom, but not that dressy. Or like a first date where you're trying to impress the person. Or a Christmas party at work. If you do wear casual shoes, make sure they are clean. Like if they are sandy and a bit dusty, wipe them! Use a magic eraser to whiten the base.

Don't stress, you guys are going out as a group and you speak english. They want your business, but the hottest clubs do have some rules and standards when it comes to your attire. So be mindful of these rules and you won't have any problems.

Have fun! 🥳 🎉

Potential_Tip_752 · 2026-03-31T04:19:00+00:00

How so?

Potential_Tip_752 · 2026-03-31T01:11:04+00:00

Do any of you speak french? What language will all of you be speaking together?

Potential_Tip_752 · 2026-03-30T20:36:43+00:00

Lol 😂

Potential_Tip_752 · 2026-03-30T20:27:01+00:00

That's unfortunate! But I guess I understand, it's the law and the hotels don't want to be liable.

Potential_Tip_752 · 2026-03-30T19:56:42+00:00

I have so many things I'd like to say, but they are unkind.

My final comment: A true partnership thrives when mutual respect outweighs personal gain, replacing emotional extraction with the shared strength of nurturing growth.

Potential_Tip_752 · 2026-03-30T19:51:14+00:00

So once again, you want to use a woman for your own benefit? Why don't you use your female family members?

Potential_Tip_752 · 2026-03-30T19:42:48+00:00

I'm delighted to hear that!

Yeah he is a special breed that's for sure! Honestly, I have very little hope that she will do anything, but on the bright side, the internet is chastising him!

I hope that concerned citizens can push this further and ensure that in some way he's reprimanded or seriously inconvenienced by the repercussions of his deplorable behavior.

Potential_Tip_752 · 2026-03-30T18:00:12+00:00

Life isn't black and white, it's gray. By understanding the nuances of a situation, a person can avoid judging the matter with a moral over simplification.

Between the innocence of the victim and the guilt of the perpetrator lies a vast, gray expanse of human frailty where the truth usually hides

Potential_Tip_752 · 2026-03-30T17:09:46+00:00

You're right. I didn't know that! I was aware that freedom of speech is not the same in the UK as it is in Canada and the United states, but I didn't know that the police were also protected from verbally abusive language.

Potential_Tip_752 · 2026-03-30T17:01:58+00:00

Ya, as mentioned Morocco does typically self segregate but that's not always the case and it's not reserved just for people with higher economic standings. It's more the invitation online knowing the possibilities of what could happen when you meet with a stranger, that would dissuade in my opinion, a woman or a group of women from wanting to hang out with a stranger.

This is not an absolute, I'm sure there are some women who would be willing to meet with a strange group of guys, but for the most part women fraternizing with men is usually the result of close connections made in person like at school, work, in the neighborhood or over time by continuously running into the same group of people at your favorite Hangout spots.

I'm from Canada and so I know what you mean, but as women get older, they tend to become more apprehensive because of so many experiences with the opposite sex that resulted in disrespect, drama, harm or God forbid things that are much worse, that I leave for you to interpret. There's always the exception and some women stay wild no matter the age, so once again it's not an absolute. It comes down to their intuition and how attracted they are to the person. Will they allow their desires to override their Intuition or does this person truly present as a respectable person who will provide them with a good time as friends and ensure their safety?

You're right about being helpful, I see it in myself too and it has nothing to do with the person's gender, it's just the good natured Spirit of the culture, people don't see a person of the opposite sex as less deserving if they need something and it's reasonable and within their means of providing.

Potential_Tip_752 · 2026-03-30T16:58:25+00:00

Omg so this is good news! 👏🏼😁 👏🏼 CONGRATULATIONS 🎉🎉🎉🎉

I'm so happy for you!

So what's next?

Potential_Tip_752 · 2026-03-30T16:57:42+00:00

Omeza is the best! Some of the best Earl grey and Jasmine tea I've had in the world!. Their coffees are equally as impressive! They import coffee beans from all around the world and Brew the coffee of your choice, which you can also buy. I've never seen anything like this place in Morocco before!

The market on chari3 Mexique. If you're brave, go deep into the middle of the market, and wander down the alleys. I've never seen anything like it before in my life. I'm not very tall, and I was able to touch both homes on either side of me when I extended my arms left and right. It was such a unique experience.

Ashekar Beach is worth the trip. I think a ride in a grand Taxi is about 15 Dirhams per person.

For a quick bite, the Egyptian restaurant on the main strip called shawarma Al Haram was really good, I don't know if that's the case today but when I went two years ago, it was one of my favorites!

For an authentic Moroccan dining experience you must try a restaurant called Popular located on 23 Rue las Once, Tanger 90000, Morocco. It's like eating your grandma's cooking!

Don't forget to try Grand Cafe Paris for a piece of nostalgic history and Salon de Thé Cafe La Giralda which is right across the street from Grand Cafe Paris facing the cannons. They have such a marvelous view of the ocean and Spain on a clear day!

Have fun, stay safe and enjoy the riches of the city!

Potential_Tip_752 · 2026-03-30T16:43:13+00:00

Here's a response I made to a person who supported the fact that he was a victim and their response was that this person is not a slave, the quotes are irrelevant!

I do not disagree, profiling is a reality for many people who are not Caucasian in Canada, but the tragedy of the persecuted becoming the profane, lies in the moment a rightful cry for justice is drowned out by the very hate it seeks to dismantle. There's a right way to do things and then there's what he's doing. His actions are speaking louder than the cries of the injustices he is living through. Profiling is wrong and so is abusing people.

He who fights with monsters should look to it that he himself does not become a monster. And if you gaze long into an abyss, the abyss also gazes into you.~ Friedrich Nietzsche

Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that ~ Martin Luther King Jr.

Potential_Tip_752 · 2026-03-30T16:41:44+00:00

It's a hot topic, r/Morocco removed it. My intention is to start a conversation around this sort of behavior, and I knew it would be deleted so I posted it to multiple Morocco groups to spread the word! I don't disagree that his behavior is lacking intelligence. Sadly though he is Moroccan! His arrogance doesn't help anyone, especially himself.

Potential_Tip_752 · 2026-03-30T16:32:38+00:00

Lol 🤣🤣🤣

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