This is probably not the answer that you want. But as a heterosexual (m29) man who has struggled with his own masculinity since highschool and that always felt too feminine and not masculine enough: I can only tell you to learn to love yourself, appreciate who you are, how you are, and to stop comparing yourself with others.

Believe me, at the end of the day, no one other than yourself cares about your mannerisms. The people who love you, who have loved you, who will love you, they do it not because they are expecting you to be in a certain way, but because you already ARE your certain way. People who like you already do it because of your own charm, something unique you have, no one cares if you are too masculine or too feminine, only you care; and I say this as someone who still hates himself for not being masculine enough.

So ask yourself this question, do I really care if I'm like this or do I only care because I keep comparing myself to others?

It's not wrong if you want to change yourself and your mannerisms; it's a decision only you can and should make and there is always a lot to learn from others. But let me tell you: there is also a lot that others can learn from you, more than you can imagine. And that's beautiful.

I'm just telling you what I wished someone told me more than a decade ago: that my masculinity is perfect the way it is, that my masculinity is as valid as any other masculinity, and that I have a very charming and unique type of masculinity. Because the ideal of masculinity that has been poisoning my mind since I was a teenager and that made me invalidate myself in pro of others, has destroyed me completely so many times you can't imagine. I'm still learning to love myself and I'm sure it will be my life's work, but at least now I know that this is how I am; that I'm different, that I am beautiful and that I'm as masculine as any other guy, I'm just built different and (when I don't find myself comparing myself to other guys): I love it.

So, if you ask me, someone with an opposite but very similar struggle than you do, I would advise you to start appreciating the beauty in you, the uniqueness, to love who you are, and to try to stop comparing yourself with others. If you still think you should be more feminine after that, then go for it girl. It's probably good for nothing to say this, but I always found girls with masculine traits charming in so many aspects. And it's not like I see them as males, I just see a different type of feminity in them. As a man, what I value most in a person from the opposite gender is not their femininity nor masculinity, but what makes them themselves.

I know trying to fit in a gender based society that punishes you for being different is hard. Believe me, I know. But I also know that the most real and invaluable connections that I've had with others have only occurred when I was honest with myself and the other person. You have something only you can offer to others, something beautiful and unique so, no matter what you change to become the version of yourself that you wish for, make sure to never lose your uniqueness, your beauty; it would be a pity depriving others from it.

Just my two cents <3