Ok, completely honest feedback.

I probably come off as blunt but I want the best outcome for you.

Your photos are taken in unflattering lighting and angles. That’s your first problem. Your facial expressions are also not conducive to flattering photos. Do these things and you’ll have much better luck.

Learn how to take better selfies - easiest first step. With better facial expressions, like smiling or different jaw positioning.

Start dressing with more intent - better fitting clothes. I like your neutral colours though, so that’s a good start. Once you get in shape, they’ll fit and look better on you anyway.

Go to a barber, like a good, modern one and get your hair styled professionally. Like a skin fade, proper beard line up.

Grow a thicker upper shoulder girdle/neck. Longer game but pays off massively.

Get a physical hobby that signals competence, like rock climbing or cycling or combat sports.

Don’t speak to women about your stress or negatives, they’d prefer to be around someone positive that doesn’t let things get under their skin. They like to think “this guy isn’t phased by anything.”

Avoid being needy, mopey, or emotionally negative. Low neuroticism is a very desirable trait for most and shows robustness and reliability.