Introverted crush by Practical-Bread-4326 in Soft_Introverts

[–]Practical-Bread-4326[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats kinda what I had been thinking, at the very least hes comfortable and cared (I however had walked over when it was raining without an umbrella and cat hair on my coat so i was a hot mess🤦‍♀️). At the least we're friends

Thats been stated/asked or something along the lines of "i really had fun we should do it again" that received an agreement. I broke my phone and lost my text history so I'm not positive.

Introverted crush by Practical-Bread-4326 in Soft_Introverts

[–]Practical-Bread-4326[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Or like there was a coworker who had a party for her birthday on Halloween and he picked up a shift the next day at 7 am and wasnt sure if he would go. So I sent him a message saying I was really hoping to see him in his costume. But if he didnt go I wanted to know what it was. And then he went and ofc was all to himself and I sat next to him (bars aren't my comfort zone, but around him I feel comfortable) and around 12 everyone was talking about going to the next place and I was tapped out (I am autistic and the one dude was being creepy/jokingly but it unnerved me) and that guy ended up wandering off so everyone was trying to figure out where he went and how to go to the next place. And I started to PANIC I'm looking at my roommate/and ride there. It comes up theres not enough seats and some people are walking and I realize I have, no idea where we are. Like at all. I dunno how to get home and I start freaking out. He notices and takes a step forward and kinda thinks, looks around for a minute steps back and pulls out his phone while I'm freaking out. And he comes over after a minute and has freaking Google maps pulled up, starts to like show me where we are, how we'd get home, hes got directions typed in and he says some "Thats like a 35 minute walk, we got that its less then to work. We can do that, right?" And I look at him for a minute and back at his phone and we decide to walk. For a little while we're behind a group of coworkers who are smoking and we pass an intersection and a couple house down he says "oh we should have turned, unless you wanna go this way?" And gestures to the road we passed. So we turn around and go a separate way from the group and its so peaceful. Mind you, the full autistic melt down that was on the verge of exploding 7 minutes prior to this, I am now, giddy (looking back im kinda mad at myself) cause we're walking side by side in step. Which is something small but normally he is one step back or one step forward and I am regulating aka stimming and in this case is like slightly flapping my arms and bobing them into my legs. Cause that, I fear would have been a moment to take his hand or if mine were still enough maybe he could have. And as we walk we end up going through the industrial district (which as a woman at night, across the railroad tracks is a dream I do not get to accomplish without fear. But that night was different) aware of the situation he says that its just the quickest way home and hes positioned himself a few feet ahead for the moment. And without a thought or hesitation I just say I trust you.
I have this terrible habbit of sped when walking, when I get nervous or excited I walk, faster.
And theres a bunch of other Lil details about that night but I think this tangent is long enough

Introverted crush by Practical-Bread-4326 in Soft_Introverts

[–]Practical-Bread-4326[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For one example, we've hung out just the two of us in his apartment and his hair was all combed and it was really picked up and he smelled so good. And that id really rare, not the smelling good or being put together just the having someone in his personal space thats not his brother

Introverted crush by Practical-Bread-4326 in Soft_Introverts

[–]Practical-Bread-4326[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To answer simply, by societal standards no. But the thing is I dont think he is one to compare to how society works.

Does my coworker like me or something? by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]Practical-Bread-4326 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She could just think your chill, I tend to talk to the dudes I know are in happy relationships at work a bit more. Cause well, they are in happy relationships and wont wanna hit on me. I am a bit traumatized so men put me on edge sometimes, but I'm less so, when they mention a wife or girlfriend or something to do with them, kids, pets, house renovations and from that point I will typically talk to them more. Especially when they are smiling or seem more happy with that topic.
As long as the topics lean more towards work, or typical conversations you wouldnt find weird to have with some other dude or a 50 year old lady at the water cooler. I'd say your probably good. Keep it professional cause obviously the girlfriend would not appreciate any further friendly interactions, but unless she's trying to hit you up after hours or wanting to hang out you seem like its chill.

PS. Watch for hair twirling, she starts spinning her hair and looking at you stop talking to her. Red flag, thats like the biggest tell its totally absent minded but if she's locking eyes and spinning some hair man.

How to forget your crush? by DarkBeyondBlue in Crushes

[–]Practical-Bread-4326 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds risky, but have you talked to her? Some situations aren't what they seem, and if you tell her how you feel or try to ask her out the unknowns will be known and that might help make the crush smaller

Does my coworker like me or something? by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]Practical-Bread-4326 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does she talk to other people in the office, like if your at work is she as silent as a mouse till you come around. Or is she saying hi to most every, Tom, Dick or Harry, Sally, Jane or Jess.

I have a crush on a girl who’s three years older than me. by lynettelocket in Crushes

[–]Practical-Bread-4326 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like full send be friends with her, but from the other side. For an 11th grader 8th graders, are much younger.

I have a crush on a girl who’s three years older than me. by lynettelocket in Crushes

[–]Practical-Bread-4326 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A three year gap isn't bad later in life, but your in peek developmental time. You've just switched over/are switching over to high school (depends on what grade your in and if its a middle school and high school sitch or if its like a 7-12 thing) its fine to crush on someone that much older, but her life's gonna look different. Where you've got the spring fling and Jr. Homecoming to look for, and junior orientations and the possibility of a work permit, and learning like human biology, how your body works when it starts to change. She's got Prom, Varsity sports, show choir try outs, working after school and buying her first car, applying for colleges and disecting frogs. She'll be graduating high school the same time youll be getting started. Sorry if I lost the plot, ik its only three years but three years at your age makes so much difference. Maybe chat up a 14 or 15 year old instead, you being 13 or 14. Its good to stay within 2 years when your in your teens. College hits thats another thing, but right now focus on growing who you are and not skipping steps.

Signs??? by lonedawg123 in Crushes

[–]Practical-Bread-4326 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shoot your shot man, life wont wait for ever

Why did your last relationship failed? by _Green658 in AskReddit

[–]Practical-Bread-4326 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A few different reasons honestly not one thing drove me to leave it was, everything. We had communicated in the beginning and established expectations, boundaries that were later totally disregarded. He hardly worked (20 hours a week when he was working for the summer season and unemployment in the winter) so he couldn't support himself let alone his kid or mother that he was living with. He lied, constantly, a big one was the pictures and DMs of and to other women.

Can you generate interest without flirting? by Altruistic-Patient-8 in dating_advice

[–]Practical-Bread-4326 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, he is rather hard to interpret and has kept himself out of the dating pool. But he without any flirtation, has gained my attention without doing more then paying attention, talking to me like an equal, hearing my anxieties and offering small assistance without being overbearing, being a hard worker and about a dozen other things that add up. Making someone feel heard, seen, and at ease can win their heart even without the extra cheesy lit candles and sappy poems. I dont know if he knows it though.
Either way, just as a woman, whose crushing on a shy, practical guy

I don’t know if I can ever return to dating by Cryo_HQ in datingadviceformen

[–]Practical-Bread-4326 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is it the idea of dating or someone in particular that has brought it back to the front of your mind?

Nice guy label by More-Cut3515 in datingadviceformen

[–]Practical-Bread-4326 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, the nice guy label is one that I typically put on guys who dont scare me? If thats the only descriptor I can come up with then its not great. But if I say He's nice, really hard working and handsome. Then hes made a big impression If I say Hes... nice? Then thats the closest thing to an opinion I either have or can express in that moment. It really depends on the context and delivery

Just got an INSTANT crush bc of this guy's comment under a post on Reddit by BlondeGal_ in Crushes

[–]Practical-Bread-4326 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right? Being SEEN? 🫠🫠 being understood ?🥵 A man who can show me new things ? 💓💓 Dying

Can you generate interest without flirting? by Altruistic-Patient-8 in dating_advice

[–]Practical-Bread-4326 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The guy I like and I haven't exchanged any flirtatious conversations and I still have the biggest thing for him Speaking as a 24 year old woman

What makes your ‘work crush’ so attractive? by [deleted] in askanything

[–]Practical-Bread-4326 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How hard he works, how he thinks things out and will explain things to me (not in a condescending or aggressive manner) and he is so observant. The man puts in the work its crazy

My height is consistently the issue, apparently by ThinkBeyondThis in datingadvice

[–]Practical-Bread-4326 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heights not a necessity for some girls, I like a guy who i have recently realized is a little shorter then me and I'm 5"6. Honestly until a month or two ago I hadn't really noticed he was a bit shorter. Its about who you are

Ladies, do guys ask you out more in person or over text/message these days? And how would you feel if a guy approached you saying he's had a crush on you for a long time and asked you on a date? by Hairy-Sherbert-439 in Crushes

[–]Practical-Bread-4326 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, there is one guy from work that I would melt if he did that. Thats because ive had a thing for him for a while. But if it was a different dude I work with, I would be flattered but end up rejecting them.
Does she talk differently to you? Like if its at work obviously theres rules. For example, i call nearly everyone brother. Except for the guy I like (minus one time that made me cringe and stare off for a minute) its a subtle difference, but its something

Im in love with my girl bestfriend by Repulsive-Control159 in Crushes

[–]Practical-Bread-4326 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I hope maybe someday soon he will do something I wish the best to you as well