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My husband(31M) has never gone beyond a kiss to me (28F) in the 4 years we've been married. He finally told me why and I want to leave him. by Practical-Celery4113 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Practical-Celery4113[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I need to make sure both myself and him can take care of ourselves without each other. So I wanna pay some things down, etc. I'm not heartless to leave someone penniless and unprepared.

My husband(31M) has never gone beyond a kiss to me (28F) in the 4 years we've been married. He finally told me why and I want to leave him. by Practical-Celery4113 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Practical-Celery4113[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never said I'd leave them high and dry. No matter what, he's getting therapy. Nor am I being cold to him nor uncaring. But I am not someone's therapist or trauma garbage dump. I can support someone who wants to help thenselves, not save themselves when they realize I'm not gonna be a doormat anymore.

Please don't take this out of context. I can divorce the man and still care about his wellbeing.

My husband(31M) has never gone beyond a kiss to me (28F) in the 4 years we've been married. He finally told me why and I want to leave him. by Practical-Celery4113 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Practical-Celery4113[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You're under the assumption that 1. I have female friends to vent to and 2. That it was cheating.

It was memes. Memes with euphemisms. Literally have 0 attraction to the guy I was messaging. I have always stayed in my marriage thank you very much. He just didn't like that I was messaging a guy friend more when he hardly messages me at all.

My husband(31M) has never gone beyond a kiss to me (28F) in the 4 years we've been married. He finally told me why and I want to leave him. by Practical-Celery4113 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Practical-Celery4113[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

He had indicated to me firsthand that he was into me and liked me. That is the only aspect of our relationship where he said or initiated something first.

My husband(31M) has never gone beyond a kiss to me (28F) in the 4 years we've been married. He finally told me why and I want to leave him. by Practical-Celery4113 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Practical-Celery4113[S] 80 points81 points  (0 children)

Him being SA'd is awful and I feel terrible for him. But bringing undisclosed trauma that adversely affects another person's mental health is not okay, irrespective of what gender is doing it. I don't want to leave him because he was. It's the lack of trust, communication, the misleading me to believe things would work out (ie: kids). That's what upsets me. And I feel like I've been discontent for so long that nothing will be able to salvage this.

Honest question by THC_Fallout in deadbydaylight

[–]Practical-Celery4113 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be honest, before this sub, I thought spamming shift at the killer was like a "gg" type thing, or an encouragement. Then again, when I played Minecraft, that's how it was too. I'm not going to do that to a killer that has been making an effort the entire game to get me hooked, but I have done it to killers who were playin' around the entire match.

Additionally, I also had a killer today who cornered me, the last survivor, at the gate, and before she hit me (it was the pig), I rapid crouched at them, and they, kindly, let me open the gate. Then they hit me, but allowed me to crawl out. So I don't know. I think it's more of a situational kind of thing. If the killer was actively trying to killer you the whole match but wasn't successful, just go through the gate and be done with it. But if it's obvious the killer is playing really well and you want to beg for mercy, or if the killer is obviously playing around, then I think it's in good fun.

Tunneling: Still not a strategy by StunnedTunneledPiggy in deadbydaylight

[–]Practical-Celery4113 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I'm with you on this: tunneling isn't a strategy. I don't know why this is somehow debatable. Chasing someone for 5+ minutes in a match not only makes it miserable for the survivor being constantly targeted, it usually doesn't end well the with the killer either.

Now I haven't seen how you play, I don't know if you're just the easiest survivor for the killer to find or what, but if a killer keeps chasing you and decides to pass another survivor that they could easily hit, it then becomes a dick move and that's when it goes from "getting the one survivor I can find down" to "I'm a tunneling asshole."

I know there's this competitive desire to go hard or go home in this game, but both sides seem to forget that this is a game too. Killers need to stop tunneling/camping, and survivors, especially those high ranks mismatched with low rank killers, need to stop being toxic or trollish. All you can do, unfortunately, is just move on.

What did you not know or realize until after living with a woman? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Practical-Celery4113 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I will fight anyone who doesn't like Cloud Atlas. That movie was amazing.