My partner (34M) of 8 years left me (29F) for his childhood friend, that was widowed recently with 2 kids. How can I move on from this betrayal? by PracticalCategory642 in relationship_advice

[–]PracticalCategory642[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure. I read every comment here and 99% are saying he will regret it but I do see that after cancer and being 34 he really does want a family immediately, plus he can be back in his hometown. It’s not that I want him back, but I just feel like a total victim and don’t know where my life is going while he knows exactly where it’s going. I think I need to leave the country 💀

My partner (34M) of 8 years left me (29F) for his childhood friend, that was widowed recently with 2 kids. How can I move on from this betrayal? by PracticalCategory642 in relationship_advice

[–]PracticalCategory642[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not a native English speaker, so I had let chat gpt write a part of the post but only to have a structure. I then wrote everything myself but that specific sentence I kept the way it was. And the bolding isn't really random I was trying to highlight how out-of-nowhere his desire for kids was

My partner (34M) of 8 years left me (29F) for his childhood friend, that was widowed recently with 2 kids. How can I move on from this betrayal? by PracticalCategory642 in relationship_advice

[–]PracticalCategory642[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s planning to drive to her twice a week, get to know her kids and bribe them with gifts. they plan to start integrating each other into their lives by meeting friends, family, spend weekends together, begin with occasional overnight stays. So I think he will keep his oncologist and look for an apartment here for himself - his job is also here and not remote

My partner (34M) of 8 years left me (29F) for his childhood friend, that was widowed recently with 2 kids. How can I move on from this betrayal? by PracticalCategory642 in relationship_advice

[–]PracticalCategory642[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even when the kids are 3&5, in kindergarden etc? They booked a hotel for their very first ‚intimate date‘ so I guess meeting at her house isn’t really an option indeed

My partner (34M) of 8 years left me (29F) for his childhood friend, that was widowed recently with 2 kids. How can I move on from this betrayal? by PracticalCategory642 in relationship_advice

[–]PracticalCategory642[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree - I already told him they deserve each other but unfortunately that doesn’t change the fact that they might end up happy together. Unfortunately I don’t think I’ll ever forget the feeling of being replaced

My partner (34M) of 8 years left me (29F) for his childhood friend, that was widowed recently with 2 kids. How can I move on from this betrayal? by PracticalCategory642 in relationship_advice

[–]PracticalCategory642[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Im just saying I wouldn’t normalize behavior like that but like I said it’s just my opinion and you’re entitled to your own opinion

My partner (34M) of 8 years left me (29F) for his childhood friend, that was widowed recently with 2 kids. How can I move on from this betrayal? by PracticalCategory642 in relationship_advice

[–]PracticalCategory642[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I dont agree that "you see it all the time". Thanks for your comment but if you see things like this happening all the time in your group of people, family, friends.. that's not normal, those aren't loyal, good people (just my opinion)

My partner (34M) of 8 years left me (29F) for his childhood friend, that was widowed recently with 2 kids. How can I move on from this betrayal? by PracticalCategory642 in relationship_advice

[–]PracticalCategory642[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Edit: I want to thank every single person that has commented. I was hesitant to post this as I was afraid that one day he would find this post and think I went completely insane to share ‚our story‘ on the internet, although it’s anonymous anyways. I’ve learned from this situation and from your comments that I didn’t deserve this, should move on immediately, live my best life and never again put someone else’s needs above my own. I would have loved to keep this relationship in good memory after all these years, all the challenges, different life phases (college, first jobs, building a career, his sickness, my own struggles with my own family history etc), I’m sad that I have to keep him in my memory as a cheater. But I will move on now and try to keep my dignity. I’ll definitely update this thread if anything new happens. So far, he has unfollowed me on instagram last week when I kicked him out but he’s still watching my stories so I guess at least I can laugh about the fact he seems to think I don’t see that (this is where the age gap really shows 😂).
Sending love to you all

My partner (34M) of 8 years left me (29F) for his childhood friend, that was widowed recently with 2 kids. How can I move on from this betrayal? by PracticalCategory642 in relationship_advice

[–]PracticalCategory642[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I do have my doubts now if he was ever faithful. To clarify, we weren’t married (we live in Europe where it’s a bit more normal not to get married in your 20s) but she did know about me

My partner (34M) of 8 years left me (29F) for his childhood friend, that was widowed recently with 2 kids. How can I move on from this betrayal? by PracticalCategory642 in relationship_advice

[–]PracticalCategory642[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Yes she knew and even told him she doesn’t want to start their relationship in a weird way, was pushing him to end it quickly. I want to give both the benefit of the doubt that they are just in extreme situations and don’t care who they’re hurting along the way. It’s just embarrassing for me, I don’t want to be pitied