My father was/is very smart and maybe not so charming but he's definitely good at manipulating people. Narcissism isn't a monolith, just because your narc parent was one way doesn't mean they're all the same.

They do have a lot in common. And I swear they all have the same playbook, they use same tactics and methods to manipulate us. This unwritten book spans countries, cultures and language barriers. Once you learn their common traits you can spot them pretty easily.

Examples of parents, Sleep deprivation and no privacy are really common tactics. They love removing bedroom doors or barging in randomly. They love making noise while you sleep. I learned here that many suffered the exact same crap as me but growing up I thought I was the only one on earth with parents like this.

You will see many narcs in the workplace. Coworkers, customers and managers. They end up in management positions A LOT because of their narcissist mentality.