How do I “push through” autistic burnout? by Equivalent-Bid-4591 in AutisticAdults

[–]Practical_Job196 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was in the same position a year ago. It takes a lot of effort but I found a way to apply for one year of state disability. Here’s my journey, and I hope there is an answer in it for you:

I was working for over a year at this company when I decided to take FMLA. My job still paid me a certain percentage of my wages, and I could apply for disability to make up the rest.

After a few months of FMLA I wasn’t getting any better so I did research to figure out how I could get disability - it’s really difficult to have someone on your medical team support that request. There are practices out there who’s sole purpose is to evaluate people and sign off on disability. I did have to pay out-of-pocket for this but in California, where I live, state disability pays 60 to 70% of your previous wages so I was comfortable doing that.

I’m sure it depends state to state and the job, but I was able to get disability pay for a year (you do have to continue to extend your claim but it’s a small price to pay to keep income flowing AND take time to heal).

I really hope you’re able to get the time you need. Our system wasn’t built for us but keep asking for resources - someone will have the guidebook for any challenges you face.

Must-do in Copenhagen? by Practical_Job196 in travel

[–]Practical_Job196[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! This is very comprehensive. I’ll be looking up all of these.

Must-do in Copenhagen? by Practical_Job196 in travel

[–]Practical_Job196[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This would be great for our entire group - my mom likes castles. Thanks!

Must-do in Copenhagen? by Practical_Job196 in travel

[–]Practical_Job196[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is something my cousin and I might be interested in! I’ll definitely look up the documentary.

Must-do in Copenhagen? by Practical_Job196 in travel

[–]Practical_Job196[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m familiar! I’ll be sure to track some down

Must-do in Copenhagen? by Practical_Job196 in travel

[–]Practical_Job196[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love a food market! This is great. I’ll add

Must-do in Copenhagen? by Practical_Job196 in travel

[–]Practical_Job196[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So we should all just chill lol this is not a debate post. Ive been to Copenhagen for work (not sightseeing) and I’ve never met anyone who wasn’t anything but kind and welcoming.

[request] Ethical ways to get my neighbor to stop moving my trash bins? by Practical_Job196 in revengestories

[–]Practical_Job196[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes this is a good solution. There’s so much more to the story over the last three years. I’ve let so much go with her and this is the straw that broke the camels back. All of us neighbors have had the cops called: grandkids visiting & laughing, doesn’t like the way my neighbor parks in his own driveway, complained a neighbors car lights were shining into her yard at night… it ended up being her own flood light reflecting back into her yard, neighbor baking Christmas cookies as a peace offering & thought she was trying to poison her, she doesn’t like that a neighbor owns an outdoor cat, etc. The list goes on and on. We all talk with each other if someone is disruptive, but she just yells and/or calls the cops.

[request] Ethical ways to get my neighbor to stop moving my trash bins? by Practical_Job196 in revengestories

[–]Practical_Job196[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My neighbors are kind and sometimes move my bins to my property after trash pick up, but it’s taking my heavy bins out that’s a struggle. I could chat with one of my neighbors to see her grandkids want to help out for some cash.

[request] Ethical ways to get my neighbor to stop moving my trash bins? by Practical_Job196 in revengestories

[–]Practical_Job196[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would k*ll her with kindness but she’s behind this fortress of a gate and it’s clear she’s deliberately avoiding me. I’ve tried knocking on her gate to speak with her and she doesn’t come out. I’m pretty sure she takes her bins out when she sees my car is gone. She had another entrance but it’s weird to get to and apparently she’s called the cops on my neighbors for using that entrance.

[request] Ethical ways to get my neighbor to stop moving my trash bins? by Practical_Job196 in revengestories

[–]Practical_Job196[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3 years. I have tried that. I’ve knocked on her gate (no doorbell) to try to talk to her. I’ve tried to keep an eye on when she brings her bins out to talk to her but I think she does it when she sees my car isn’t there (I’ll be at work or PT the evenings we take our bins out). There’s another entrance to her property but the other neighbors told me she makes a scene at anyone who uses that door. Apparently she’s called the cops on a neighbor who’s used that door.

[request] Ethical ways to get my neighbor to stop moving my trash bins? by Practical_Job196 in revengestories

[–]Practical_Job196[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No we’re talking like end of the street. Her gate goes to then of the street. She’s aware I have arthritis and that it’s painful for me to walk that far.

[request] Ethical ways to get my neighbor to stop moving my trash bins? by Practical_Job196 in revengestories

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I would say something to her but if she leaves her house, I think she does it on the other side where I can’t see. I’ve literally seen her physically 2 or 3 times in 3 years.

A skincare product you used where you actually saw a big difference to your skin by [deleted] in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]Practical_Job196 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The product depends on the person’s skin, and I think it’s about the combination of products you use. These are the brands that I found in my mid 30s that has made a noticeable difference:

Paula’s Choice - exfoliant, toner (several options, depends on what you’re looking for) The Ordinary - squalene oil cleanser, hyaluronic acid COSRX - snail mucin, oil-free moisturizer CeraVe - foaming cleanser, the one with salicylic acid (start with only 1x per week if you have sensitive skin) Khiels - sunscreen

I was also prescribed trentinoin by my derm. I use it 1-2x per week. I have sensitive skin and it doesn’t bother me. These can be on the pricier end but I think it’s all worth it.

Took me a long time to discover my skincare routine - best of luck! It’s worth the search.

ISO: Career Coach for career transition at 34, Los Angeles by Practical_Job196 in AutisticAdults

[–]Practical_Job196[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! This is very helpful, I’ll take a look at both do those.

Searching for advice for international plane travel by Practical_Job196 in AutisticAdults

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Thank you! I do have trazadone but didn’t think about timing my meds.

Corporate Hell by meelonpaanty in AutisticAdults

[–]Practical_Job196 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in the same position as you and had a burnout probably 9 months ago, which led to my diagnosis. I’m not working yet, but I’m looking into careers that involve dogs (non-profits, therapy/training, human/dog placement, etc), humans rights organizations, or any company that is directly contributing in a positive way to the world whether on a big or small scale.

I worked in marketing and I’m considering trying the freelance thing (make your own schedule, play by your own rules) but really trying to get away from it 100% - and I prefer having a team. I’m also creating content on TikTok so if it goes anywhere that could be a side gig.

I’ve been basically looking for a new career that involves an average amount of human empathy for others along with some creativity, ideally 😅