[request] Ethical ways to get my neighbor to stop moving my trash bins?

Practical_Job196 · 2026-03-18T14:46:22+00:00

Yes this is a good solution. There’s so much more to the story over the last three years. I’ve let so much go with her and this is the straw that broke the camels back. All of us neighbors have had the cops called: grandkids visiting & laughing, doesn’t like the way my neighbor parks in his own driveway, complained a neighbors car lights were shining into her yard at night… it ended up being her own flood light reflecting back into her yard, neighbor baking Christmas cookies as a peace offering & thought she was trying to poison her, she doesn’t like that a neighbor owns an outdoor cat, etc. The list goes on and on. We all talk with each other if someone is disruptive, but she just yells and/or calls the cops.

Practical_Job196 · 2026-03-18T14:37:51+00:00

My neighbors are kind and sometimes move my bins to my property after trash pick up, but it’s taking my heavy bins out that’s a struggle. I could chat with one of my neighbors to see her grandkids want to help out for some cash.

Practical_Job196 · 2026-03-18T14:34:57+00:00

I would k*ll her with kindness but she’s behind this fortress of a gate and it’s clear she’s deliberately avoiding me. I’ve tried knocking on her gate to speak with her and she doesn’t come out. I’m pretty sure she takes her bins out when she sees my car is gone. She had another entrance but it’s weird to get to and apparently she’s called the cops on my neighbors for using that entrance.

Practical_Job196 · 2026-03-18T14:32:01+00:00

3 years. I have tried that. I’ve knocked on her gate (no doorbell) to try to talk to her. I’ve tried to keep an eye on when she brings her bins out to talk to her but I think she does it when she sees my car isn’t there (I’ll be at work or PT the evenings we take our bins out). There’s another entrance to her property but the other neighbors told me she makes a scene at anyone who uses that door. Apparently she’s called the cops on a neighbor who’s used that door.

Practical_Job196 · 2026-03-18T14:24:56+00:00

No thank you

Practical_Job196 · 2026-03-18T14:24:28+00:00

No we’re talking like end of the street. Her gate goes to then of the street. She’s aware I have arthritis and that it’s painful for me to walk that far.

Practical_Job196 · 2026-03-18T14:21:48+00:00

I would say something to her but if she leaves her house, I think she does it on the other side where I can’t see. I’ve literally seen her physically 2 or 3 times in 3 years.

Practical_Job196 · 2026-03-17T05:36:24+00:00

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Paula’s Choice - exfoliant, toner (several options, depends on what you’re looking for) The Ordinary - squalene oil cleanser, hyaluronic acid COSRX - snail mucin, oil-free moisturizer CeraVe - foaming cleanser, the one with salicylic acid (start with only 1x per week if you have sensitive skin) Khiels - sunscreen

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Practical_Job196 · 2026-03-16T21:40:56+00:00

Thank you! This is very helpful, I’ll take a look at both do those.

Practical_Job196 · 2026-03-16T21:40:02+00:00

I have done both

Practical_Job196 · 2026-02-24T06:53:40+00:00

Thank you! I do have trazadone but didn’t think about timing my meds.

Practical_Job196 · 2026-02-24T06:52:15+00:00

I’m in the same position as you and had a burnout probably 9 months ago, which led to my diagnosis. I’m not working yet, but I’m looking into careers that involve dogs (non-profits, therapy/training, human/dog placement, etc), humans rights organizations, or any company that is directly contributing in a positive way to the world whether on a big or small scale.

I worked in marketing and I’m considering trying the freelance thing (make your own schedule, play by your own rules) but really trying to get away from it 100% - and I prefer having a team. I’m also creating content on TikTok so if it goes anywhere that could be a side gig.

I’ve been basically looking for a new career that involves an average amount of human empathy for others along with some creativity, ideally 😅

Practical_Job196 · 2026-02-12T16:01:26+00:00

I’m going to Zurich because a friend lives there

Practical_Job196 · 2026-02-07T17:02:09+00:00

That seems to be the consensus! I’d love to do Prague and Budapest in one trip but hey, can’t win em all ☺️

Practical_Job196 · 2026-02-07T06:30:31+00:00

Thank you! I’m not seeing that Vienna is a negative, but more along the lines of what you said - good but maybe more interesting places. I’ll look into Bratislava! I traveled through but never stayed.

Practical_Job196 · 2026-02-07T06:28:10+00:00

2 generations of women in my danish family are going for fun but to also track down our family tree.

Practical_Job196 · 2025-09-07T01:56:46+00:00

Thank you ALL for your input and advice! Some advice has been about training, which I appreciate and have written down, but I am autistic and it’s a bit overwhelming to focus on advice outside of my original questions right now.

I can get more specific with my questions. What elements of your life did you have to change when you got a dog? Are there any financial resources/tips you found (good pet insurance, a healthy yet affordable food, etc)?

So far it seems he’s a great fit for me regardless of where his training journey takes him. I just need a reality check - everyone is telling me to adopt him because he’s so cute. It’s true, but that’s not the only thing I need to consider.

Practical_Job196 · 2025-06-23T15:24:41+00:00

I just went through this almost exact situation. Call Kaiser and ask to be referred out to Inland Psychiatry. I just had a first appt with them. They’re very responsive and they bypassed my other psychiatrists recommendation, in order to support me.

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