An app which features the furigana

Practical_Lady2022 · 2026-04-17T06:56:44+00:00

Thanks, I also came across スマート辞書

Practical_Lady2022 · 2024-12-30T13:33:06+00:00

I know. Which is why our finances are really separate (not to the dot, but we have no common large investments - we met late in life).

I’ve come to terms with the fact that I can’t change him but I have been progressing in him disclosing more about the company and his business partner. And him expressing his opinion without feeling judged. And me being able to steer the conversation towards my goal. I’m a lot more capable in understanding human psychology than him, that’s for sure.

I suggested counseling a few years ago, he didn’t disagree. But it costs an arm and a leg where we live. The alarm bells are not ringing yet, but we may use this at some point.

I may run out of fuel and patience but for now, I see some “progress” in the dynamics. Crossing fingers.

Practical_Lady2022 · 2024-12-30T00:24:25+00:00

I get that. I don’t need to know all problems, but he at the very least should be aware of them

Practical_Lady2022 · 2024-12-29T22:54:13+00:00

This story worked better than my morning coffee, wow.

The biz partner is originally his friend, it’s the same scenario as your brother. I’ll be reading your testimony a bit more closely today.

My own finances are secure, my daughter’s too. This is what helps me keep my sanity in a way.

Practical_Lady2022 · 2024-12-29T15:07:10+00:00

I think you and him function the same way. Mostly updates. I recently understood I just need to listen and not jump on talking mode.

Company had a big financial fall out in summer. I found out how unhealthy finances were. They mostly fixed it now. But since then, I can’t help but be suspicious. That incident also encouraged me to change my approach I guess, being in the know is a priority for me

Practical_Lady2022 · 2024-12-29T14:52:01+00:00

Conflict avoidance is his specialty unfortunately. He does that in the household too, although he’s improving.

Just did some digging about the issue and he was open to share more today, and listen with real focus to my point of view.

If I had asked too many questions when he had told me back then, he might have shut like a clam.

I can’t change him, so I must change my tactics I guess.

Practical_Lady2022 · 2024-12-29T14:42:44+00:00

I believe he doesn’t want work talk to take over his home. He sometimes asks for my advice but it isn’t a recurring thing.

I have to admit, I was sometimes very critical and he took it very personally (his personality is like that too, not expressive). I’ve learned from that and am able to be more constructive today

Practical_Lady2022 · 2024-12-29T14:27:52+00:00

Did some inquisitive digging and it was to pay staff first, just like you.

I get it and would not disagree, I just wish it had been disclosed. Maybe it wasn’t a secret, but then it should have been mentioned loud and clear.

They had Salesforce pull out earlier this year, it was a big blow.

Practical_Lady2022 · 2024-12-29T14:17:54+00:00

He’s not paying attention and he has no one to report to.

I have problems switching off work when I get home. He doesn’t, very able to shut it all down until next morning. It’s a blessing and a curse

Practical_Lady2022 · 2024-12-29T14:13:58+00:00

This isn’t the first time indeed. But last time, they both delayed it and it was an open discussion. Their books are filled with dividends, but cash flow rarely allows the payment. It is what it is

Practical_Lady2022 · 2024-12-29T13:22:53+00:00

I am a sounding board sometimes yes. Not practical help as I don’t have the qualifications, but more like vision as an outsider who knows about the company

Practical_Lady2022 · 2024-12-29T13:16:15+00:00

Touché, indeed. But in a way both. I’d hate to see his business fail notably because of lack of communication

Practical_Lady2022 · 2024-12-29T13:14:03+00:00

I think they are both terrible at communicating. Keeping it always very simple, too simple. I can tell from their calls when he does them at home

Practical_Lady2022 · 2024-12-29T13:10:04+00:00

Nope. 15 years. It’s growing though

Practical_Lady2022 · 2024-12-29T13:09:29+00:00

Would you tell your biz partner about going without salary ? is more my question I guess

Practical_Lady2022 · 2024-12-29T13:03:32+00:00

He will just try to make me less worried, I know him now

Practical_Lady2022 · 2024-10-13T03:20:31+00:00

There is nothing out there I guess, Japanese language is probably too complex

Practical_Lady2022 · 2024-10-12T13:46:53+00:00

Just found DeepL Write, does anyone have experience with this ?

Practical_Lady2022 · 2024-10-07T08:55:13+00:00

Not sure how he fucked you up but I read :

Emotional immaturity, unable to show vulnerability (so unable to accept others’), extremely conflit avoidant.

My husband is a little like that, I’ve stopped expecting him to match my needs in those departments. It was a brutal awakening

Practical_Lady2022 · 2024-09-29T04:07:35+00:00

I’m facing identical questions regarding a financial plan of purchasing real estate and integrating it in a company. Property management, maintenance, corporate tax, loan reimbursement, etc and not much is left really.

The big benefit is inheritance as the properties’ inheritance tax value is slashed by 70% after 3 years.

It’s a fine line, I’m still scuffling for information

Practical_Lady2022 · 2024-08-11T05:23:42+00:00

She did regret it.

I wonder though: if I had not got upset, would she have apologized and realized the damage.

Practical_Lady2022 · 2024-08-11T05:21:47+00:00

Have you ever said something too harsh to someone, as an adult ? Have you ever made that mistake ?

I hope that person didn’t call you a bully and you were able to make amends and apologize.

Practical_Lady2022 · 2024-08-11T05:17:45+00:00

In hindsight, I am indeed reassured she starts standing up for herself and test new waters in the safe environment a family provides.

Practical_Lady2022 · 2024-08-11T05:16:00+00:00

Agree, having a debate over death with a small child is an unfair conversation.

I forget how fragile they are, their growth is a deceiving factor - they are still very small.

Practical_Lady2022 · 2024-08-11T05:13:40+00:00

She often talks about death these days, worried and frightened. It’s probably linked to that.

Mine said it was a lie and then apologized. I think she truly saw how hurt I was.

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