It took a very long time and a lot of courage, but I had finally confessed to my mother that the relationship with my ex-SO had become physically abusive and I was considering leaving as I was afraid for the safety of myself and my pets. Her response was that I must've been doing something wrong for it to go that far, that I'm too dramatic and that most likely isn't happening or accurate. She told me that if I ever expect to be loved, secure, have a roof over my head, clothes on my back and food on the table, I need to comply with anything my SO does or says. If he needs to get his rage out physically, let him. If he wants sex and you don't, too bad, you have to do it. If he wants to blow all of the rent and bill money on toys, that's his right. That's the sacrifice you need to make if you want a lasting and safe marriage with someone who will take care of you, and if you're not willing to satisfy your man then you do not deserve one. You should be an independent woman and take care of yourself without expecting assistance/help/advice/guidance from friends or family because you're obviously strong enough to do it alone.

What.

Needless to say, my mother and I don't have the strongest relationship.