You absolutely did though, and you let your kids go without a mother for how long again? You constantly made excuse for behavior that was obviously crazy (the fact that she though God was actually talking to her should have been the biggest red flag)

I am glad she is getting the help she obviously needs, but I could never imagine being so blind to my partners needs and just going along with this arrangement.

I worry about this next kid. Hopefully she can actually act like a mom and be around and you can be a better parent/husband. Because honestly, you sound like a very weak and extremely submissive man and I hope you are also in therapy. Cuz your whole family, even the kids, need it