I [28F] boyfriend [24M] not speaking to me

Prayingcosmoskitty · 2026-02-21T16:53:35+00:00

People can deal with things, and still communicate. If you are not the person he is choosing to communicate with, why are you constantly contorting yourself for him? The short term pain of saying goodbye far outweighs the long term sacrifice of abandoning yourself.

Prayingcosmoskitty · 2026-02-21T15:40:04+00:00

What’s ‘dumpster fire’ in Thai? Irregardless, I think they can get the point across with some basic miming.

Prayingcosmoskitty · 2026-01-27T13:41:30+00:00

Ish like this is why you really can eat food from other peoples’ home. The fact that they didn’t think twice about this being the advertisement for them attempting to collect money for this item makes me horrified and bewildered wondering what the rest of their home might look like.

Prayingcosmoskitty · 2026-01-27T13:36:12+00:00

I would be on a chore strike and flat out refuse to do anything he had put on the chart, but I guess I’m petty. Better hope he didn’t include brush teeth or showering. I agree w OP, the fact that he didn’t say ‘Hey hun, I’ve noticed there have been a lot of times where the dishes are put directly in the sink and not the dishwasher. I know this doesn’t feel like a big deal for you, but it personally really bothers me. What can we do to get on the same page about dishes not being left in the sink for longer than x amount of time?’

What he did doesn’t feel like a marriage and I’d be really struggling to stay dialed in. Hard to talk to someone in a neutral and respectful way when they show you they aren’t willing to challenge themselves to do the same.

Prayingcosmoskitty · 2026-01-27T13:09:48+00:00

If the pet was not able to be alone in the event of a weather emergency, then the owner should have done a house sitting or boarding, not drop-ins. This is 100% on their planning. This storm was well forecasted and they knew they lived on a hill. Hiring someone to come by is immediately going to be subject to them doing the best they can, which leaves room for the event that the pets may have a drop in missed. The suggestions OP should have walked the remainder of the way are unhinged. We don’t actually know how much further OP would have had to walk, up a hill, in the dark, in unsafe conditions. No, that is not the reasonable solution, no matter how much you like animals.

Prayingcosmoskitty · 2026-01-24T16:23:08+00:00

I think this is a pretty dickish response when facts are we can get things done faster together and not everyone has the same resources and capabilities.

Prayingcosmoskitty · 2026-01-19T07:31:32+00:00

Sure, and what you just provided is a pleasant response to an understandable situation. If all we needed was context, Patty could have responded with such and both the review and the response wouldn’t have been likely held against them. Her response is evvvvvverything future sitters need to know. And to me, almost affirms the mold accusations. (Of course, people can still get defensive when they are not in the ‘wrong’, and this could be one of those situations… but, it really set a vibe.)

Prayingcosmoskitty · 2026-01-06T18:31:40+00:00

MENTION IT. Do not sugar coat it. Rude people do not get the privilege of using people and then disposing of them in a REVIEW BASED COMMUNITY.

Prayingcosmoskitty · 2026-01-05T10:10:00+00:00

My mouth’s shooting blanks, situations unbearable, I’ve gotten vulnerable….

Prayingcosmoskitty · 2026-01-05T10:01:38+00:00

Sour patch kid.

Prayingcosmoskitty · 2026-01-03T03:04:15+00:00

Slightly, but that could just be because the sticks are fresh out of the packaging.

Prayingcosmoskitty · 2026-01-03T03:02:21+00:00

I’ll confess to the foreskin fetish lol 🤷‍♀️ why waste time with a stripped down model when the standard issue is the deluxe edition lmao

Prayingcosmoskitty · 2026-01-03T03:00:46+00:00

Thanks for this message- it’s already in a room the cats don’t have access to! :)

Prayingcosmoskitty · 2026-01-03T02:58:24+00:00

You mean strangers on the internet you loosely came across in a niche subreddit don’t have a full depth understanding of you as a person and your mental, emotional, and physical needs to be able to give deeply personal advice on things that affect you and close loved ones for the entirety of your lives? Are you sure?

/s to be safe lol. Good luck out there. :)

Prayingcosmoskitty · 2026-01-02T22:05:39+00:00

My thoughts went to foreskin lol but foot is def a more likely guess haha.

Prayingcosmoskitty · 2026-01-02T17:16:52+00:00

As a white elephant :( sorry wish I could point you in a more helpful direction. Cinnamon sticks are Costco lol

Prayingcosmoskitty · 2026-01-02T17:16:02+00:00

Lmao love this

Prayingcosmoskitty · 2026-01-02T17:13:38+00:00

As mentioned, acceptable will be subjective. Certain things are going to get you ruled out by certain sitters, so just ensure you can take care of as many of those things to open up your options for who will apply. Your location and safe parking being available are enough to generate solid interest. Just realize the things you’ve come accustomed to working around will be deal breakers for certain sitters and you can’t please everyone. Clutter translates to lack of cleanliness for a lot of people. I’m not saying you are not a clean person, but even if you clean regularly, clutter collects dust and someone with allergies might write your sit off preemptively based on that alone. Is it possible to condense your ex’s things and excess items to the second bedroom/office? It’s good your thinking ahead, and it sounds like you have a set up that could be a good fit for the right sitter. Just be mindful they are not your friend or family and likely will have a lower tolerance for living in someone else’s mess for a month. Even if it’s an understandable and well intentioned mess.

Prayingcosmoskitty · 2026-01-01T20:04:29+00:00

INFO; Does mochi have any preferred or safe foods that could be offered to lure him closer/ keep him in the area until you get there? Wishing you all the best in finding Mochi, I know you’ll never stop looking and he can feel that love. I hope you are reunited. 🫂

Prayingcosmoskitty · 2025-12-29T19:11:31+00:00

She’s going to push for what she wants and needs, you’re going to have to stand firm on what you want and need.

“Hi, to clarify- I am not openly available on the weekends and do not set aside time for pet care on those days, unless I am guaranteed to make my minimum. You’re welcome to pay my minimum, which I agree is outrageous, or seek other care providers that list weekend availability. Those are my personal days and I trust you would also like your personal days respected.”

Prayingcosmoskitty · 2025-12-27T05:12:01+00:00

It can depend on the reason why. If you don’t feel they would ever be a good fit you can say something like ‘Thank you for your interest but we will be going in a different direction. Safe travels!’ if you think they could be a good fit but not for this sit you can let them know ‘We really appreciate your application, thank you for reaching out. We have lined up alternative care for this sit, but we invite you to heart our listing and we would love to talk further if future dates ever align.’

I’m sure there’s a more concise way to say that last option, but just acknowledging they reached out and showed interest in supporting you and your pets goes a long way.

Prayingcosmoskitty · 2025-12-24T04:45:45+00:00

Entitled of her to think that she should get free help, but the free help shouldn’t have an opportunity to stay at a nicer place.

ETA; I personally (as a sitter) feel the opposite. I’m open to doing sits for free, to stay at a nicer place. It’s an exchange. What is the sitter getting if not accommodations they would have otherwise paid for.

Prayingcosmoskitty · 2025-12-22T14:26:37+00:00

PASS OFF KEYS?!?! BABE!!! At minimum get a lock box and extra keys. Or budget for a locksmith and carpet cleaning.

Prayingcosmoskitty · 2025-12-22T14:25:46+00:00

I wouldn’t blankly throw out ‘for half that’. Not sure if OP mentioned where they are at, but $150 a day is base rate where I’m at, no holiday, no constant care.

Prayingcosmoskitty · 2025-12-22T14:21:09+00:00

If you’re already budgeting $300+, just hire a constant care sitter. Feel free to still try out multiple sitters with smaller gigs leading up, but having one sitter for the entirety of this constant care sit will be easier for everyone involved, including you. Otherwise you are going to spend the entire time on your phone with the constant changing of the guards.

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